Love and relationships are some of the beautiful things in life. When we get attracted to someone, it’s crucial to actually look past the infatuation phase at the beginning of the relationship, to find out if there is a chance for a loving and long-lasting relationship. Some people tend to date multiple people to find out which person matches with them.
Some say that it’s similar to cheating or immoral, but it is, in fact, a commendable act for most people in their quest to find the perfect mate. You see there’s some wisdom in it. For example, you have been dating someone for a few weeks or probably months, but later found out that you both are incompatible. You have lost time and effort in it, which you could put to good use by going on multiple dates at the same time. Now, if you’ve dated a few people at the same time, it’s highly likely you’ve come across someone who matches most of the qualities you want to have in your mate.
Nonetheless, if you’re dating a single person or multiple people, here are four important things you need to look for in a potential partner.
1. Integrity and Authenticity
Trust and integrity are the bedrock for a long-term relationship. No doubt about that. Does he or she do what she says? Do their actions match their words? Are they trustworthy and do you trust him or her? If they mess things up, do they take responsibility for it and amend it later? Does he or she have integrity? Is he or she honest and open about who they are as an individual? Being honest and authentic works only it’s full. In other words, it’s whole or nothing. No place for some integrity.
Time is an essential element in any date or a relationship. The amount of time you spend with you partner defines what status and situation your relationship is in at the moment. If your partner really loves you, then no distance or situation can keep you both apart. He or she will fly, drive, won’t sleep or even be hungry to see you and be with you. Can you notice this trait in him or her? If yes, then he or she is a keeper.
It’s important to date someone who is well-balanced in personality, character, and lifestyle. Some people can be somber, anxious and intense, while some are laid-back and relaxed. Does your partner have them both? Can he or she make you laugh? Does he or she have hobbies and spend time outside of the relationship like hanging out with friends and family? Does your date share his or her feelings with you? Is your date emotionally stable? If most of these are no – then it's better you skip this person.
A relationship without dedication and commitment is bound to fail. How was he or she committed in their past relationships? Is he or she dedicated to their careers, kids (if any), or family? Is he or she determined to be in this relationship and wants to in the future?
Commitment, trust, and integrity are some of the most important traits to look for in a date if you’re willing to be in a long-term relationship. If your date or partner lacks any of these factors, then it’s very likely that your date or relationship will be a disaster.