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Can Infatuation Turn Into A Romantic Relationship?

We all have crushed with someone we like; it doesn’t matter if we are in school or at work? But, is this crush thing real? Or is it that you just have a crush? Is this true love or merely infatuation? Can our infatuation to someone turn into a loving relationship? To answer this, we first need to understand the main differences between romance and infatuation.

What Is Infatuation?
Think of infatuation like an innocent fantasy. A fantasy that most of us think or imagine to be love. It’s when we think we're in love, but in fact, it’s the idea of being in love. Infatuation begins at a young age by a crush on someone and keeps on continuing into adulthood. Typically infatuation occurs when we aren’t in touch with universal realities of life like we see what we want to see, speak what we want to speak or hear what we want to hear. We pay more attention to what he or she says and does with his or her words, actions, and behaviors speak otherwise. When it comes to infatuation, we pay more focus to a man's superficial physical attributes, and less emphasis on his inner, human, and deeper characteristics. All women, or at least almost, have been or will be infatuated while looking for someone for a relationship, and they will confuse with true love, which to speak honestly isn’t there.

Infatuation isn’t fulfilling for your soul as it’s always fleeting. If you base your loving relationship on something as flimsy as infatuation, you'll compromise who you are. You never feel that you’re a priority in his life, and you’ll ignore what's important to you.

Don't Allow Your Instincts To Cloud Your Vision Of Love
How do you know whether you’re infatuated or in love? Here are few questions, and if you say, “yes” to the following questions, then we can safely say that you're prone to infatuation.

    1. 1. Do you mainly focus on external qualities rather than his inner, deep qualities? Here external qualities mean his looks, his career, how much money he makes the car or bike her drives, the place he goes for vacations, the house he lives in, etc.


    1. 2. Do you get consumed by thoughts of him?


    1. 3. Did you make him your priority is given the fact that you’ve centered your whole life on him?


    1. 4. Do you believe what your instincts tell even if it’s telling you otherwise?


    1. 5. Do you have any superficial connections with him?


    1. 6. Do you not see any serious red flags or flaws in him?


    1. 7. Do you sit by your phone all day, waiting for his calls?


    1. 8. Are you spending a lot on his meals and other activities?


    1. 9. Did you let yourself be his afterthought or his option?


    10. Are you always thinking where he will be simply to run into him to spend time with him?

Open Up Your Heart To True Love
When you’re dating or in a relationship, it’s totally understandable if you become disappointed, discouraged, and frustrated when relationships based on infatuation end up miserably. But, keep in mind that there are always good lessons that can be learned after getting involved in these types of relationships. The important lesson to learn here is to let heart do all the choosing of whom to love, instead of your eyes.

The 1 Fight All Couples Ready To Have to Tie The Knot HAVE!

There isn’t any relationship where couples don’t fight or argue with each other. But, there is one fight that all couples have before they get married. What is it you might ask? Well, it’s the fight for control. Marriage should be all about bringing two different worlds together and experience the shared feelings of joy and happiness of life and love. But, this exciting and sometimes overwhelming transition consists of disagreements, conflicts, friction, and a natural resistance to change.

So, what should be done to address the pattern of control before it begins or before things get out of control? Here are some ways to let go of your fight for control, whether it's an argument about your marriage, or something else:

Don’t Just Sweep It Under The Rug
Avoiding something will only lengthen the conflict and will make the problems messier and complicated to deal with the next time. Whenever you’re feeling frustrated, insecure or angry with your significant other about something, have a conversation about it in a soft tone. Be brave, be respectful, and be assertive with your partner when it comes to conflict and other differences. Keep in mind; control is all about winning. If you realise that 80 percent of all the stuff couples argue about are can’t be fully resolved, then the primary intention should be more about understanding and respect each other’s personal opinions and point of view, and less about being who is right.

Know Yourself
The main reason why couples fight is to exert his or her control in the relationship. Therefore, it’s important to be aware of how you tend to fight for control. Are you willing to shame your partner, put others down, or simply shame or humiliate yourself? Are you thinking of playing the victim card, or manipulate through entitlement or blame? When you feel sad, disconnected, lonely, or anxious about certain facets marriage, do you hide or withhold your emotions from your boyfriend or girlfriend? Being self-aware takes vulnerability, carefulness, and a willingness to accept responsibility for your role in all the conflicts you’ve and will have in the relationship. Remember, uncovering your tactics isn’t something your spouse is expected to do. Being accountable for your part in the conflict will allow you to be more honest as well as assertive in those moments.

Revisit Your Connection
What are you doing at staying connected to one another? Before the wedding, it’s highly important that both of you validated by each other despite the fights and arguments you both are having. It’s imperative to maintain an intentional connection with your partner by responding to your partner’s bids for connection both physical and emotional. Put a high priority on date nights and spend quality time together without talking about the wedding. Control is an illusion which you’ll never fully be able to change, know or control with 100 percent certainty that your significant other will be there for you and remain committed to the relationship at all times. We can’t guarantee that your union will be healthy and an everlasting one. This is the risk you have to take of being in a relationship.

Out of Shape And In Love? Here Are The 4 Things You Need To Know!

There are tons of stuff most regular and straight-sized people hardly know about being fat and in love. What if I told you that fat or plus-sized people cannot only be happy, they could also be in healthy, loving relationship with people with different body types? Also, they can have fairytale weddings? Blows your mind, right? Well, it’s true, and it’s happening!

So, here are four things you don’t know about being in love while fat:

1. We All Know You’re Looking
We are all aware that a fat person with his or her partner while strolling down a busy street or in a fashionable part of the city can be really stressful and judgmental. However, it’s not the walking part that is saddening and disrespectful; it’s the shamelessly stare at people that’s well known by fat folks, especially fat women. They think fat people and fat women are animals, say demeaning and judgmental things like, “How do they have sex?”, or “Why the hell is he dating her,” or “She must be his sister,” and so on and so forth.

2. Fat Sex Is Great Sex!
Despite all those obnoxious, nonsense comments you might have heard or read, fat sex is actually great. Whether the action is a big body and a thin body, or two or more fat bodies, fat men and women naturally move to get what they want just normal-sized folks to do. If you’re having an issue moving your body, many devices will help you get to get the perfect orgasm. Apart from the thought that having sex with fat people or fat sex is just a fetish, in reality, it’s more than that. Perhaps you’re really attracted to people with blonde hair, or a tall, svelte body turns you on. Similarly, a voluptuous body with soft, squeezable curves is bound to drive some folks wild.

3. Fat People Can Be Active, Healthy Spouse As Well As Dedicated Parents
In spite of the society harmful and prejudiced disposition against fat people and fat couples, fat people can be active, healthy spouse as well as dedicated parents. Just as every “thin or average-sized” body is unique, each fat body is different too in that same sense. A large-sized person might have assumptions than the average thin person who doesn’t work out is less strong and weaker than him. We can see a lot of amazing, active fat parents out there. Some men and women think that fat women are expecting, their babies will have gestational diabetes or other pregnancy difficulties. But, guess what any person can experience these problems. Why should pregnant fat women or single fat people be blamed for this all the time?

4. You Can't Steal Our Partners
It’s quite common to see that people are swooping in on a fat person’s thin partner. Most people have the notion that a fat person, especially a woman, is just a substitute until someone better and hopefully thin comes along. But, the most disappointing thing is that, alongside the strangers, sometimes, it’s our friends and acquaintances.

The bottom line is dating and relationships aren’t easy for anyone, but, things get easier if you aren’t judgmental to start with. Remember, when it comes to healthy, long-lasting relationship, it’s the emotional intimacy and connections that really matters, rather than physical qualities and attractiveness.

4 Questions You Should Never Ask Your Boyfriend!

You can’t have a healthy, lasting relationship if there is a lack of communication in the relationship. Healthy communication is vital in a healthy relationship, and most men are willing to answer any questions their girlfriends throw at them. However, there are few questions that you should never ask your boyfriend unless you want him to be super angry and irritated to you.

Here are four questions to never ask a man, no matter what.

1. Do You Think I Look Fat?
Most men resent this question. Why? Because, first of all, there is no clear or right answer to this question. If he says “no,” his partner might accuse him of lying. If he says, “yes,” in a brutal and honest way, it will only hurt her feelings. Guys are attracted to confident and strong women, who love themselves. But, asking questions like these will make you look needy and insecure.

2. What Was Your Ex Like?
Consider what your intentions are, before you ask your man this question. Are you trying to get an insight into what are his preferences in women, or what types of women he feels attracted to? This question shows that you are nosy, curious, and feel jealous that he's been in love with someone before you came. Now that you've come to understand why you asked this question consider this: does it matter? If your man isn’t dating her anymore and is with you now, what else you need to know that’s important. As we said earlier, asking questions like these will make you look needy and insecure. Your man ended his previous relationship for a reason. Therefore, don't give him a reason to look back.

3. Will You Call Me When You Reach There? Will You Text Me When You Reach There? Will You Text Me When You Are Leaving? Will You Call Me When You Go To Bed?
Guys love to call and text their girlfriends. But, remember they do this because when they want to do, not for the reason that you owe them to do this, or feel like they have to. A guy will slowly begin to resent you more and more each time when he feels like he has to call or text you and “report or document” his every move or anything he does, or anywhere he feels like going. You might feel safe and secure getting his phone calls and texts, but that won’t make him love you more. Rather it will be much better for you enjoy the attention he will give you if your guy makes his own choices about what he wants you to know, and let him tell you that he's thinking about you and that you're very important in his life.

4. How Do You See Us After 10 Or 15 Years?
Heck, many men don't have a 5-year plan for their relationship, let alone a 10 or a 15-year plan. Guys like to live in the moment, and they enjoy every second they spend with the woman they genuinely love and care about. However, this doesn’t mean that guys don't want long-term goals. It’s different for them. When a guy is in a committed, intimate relationship with you, he is not actually thinking how the relationship will turn out after ten years down the road. Most likely, he's happy with how things are going and just wants it to be it that way.

Read This Before You Start Dating A Mama’s Boy

So, you’ve started dating this lovely guy. He’s attentive and passionate. But, there is something very different about this man. After dating him for a few weeks, you realized that your boyfriend is a total mama’s boy! We aren’t going to tell if this is right or wrong for you, but what actually does this mean for you? How do you feel dating a mama’s boy? What are your future prospects given the fact that his mother is also involved in the relationship?

Here are five things you need to know before you start dating a mama’s boy:

You Aren’t The Only Woman In His Life
When dating a mama’s boy, this is the one particular thing most women seem to underestimate. A mama’s boy isn’t only fond of his mother but crazy about her. Similar, his mom also loves him too much. Your boyfriend and his mom have an unbreakable bond that you won’t usually see under normal circumstances. This means you’ll see his mom calling a few times in the day which is way above the normal once or twice a week. She has devoted her life to making him happy. So, don’t assume for even a moment just because he has fallen in love with you, he’ll stop loving his mom less. He’ll never stop loving his mother, so keep this in mind before you share your heart with him.

He’s Not Independent.
Typically mama’s boys are used to have everything done for them. Their moms will do their laundry, their cooking, all the cleaning, and even their shopping. So, if you’re dating a mama’s boy, remember, he won’t be fully independent.

He’ll Always Compare You To Her
It doesn’t matter how tasty your roasted chicken is or how nicely you decorated the bedroom, you mama’s boy boyfriend will always compare everything you do with how his mom does it for him. He probably won’t realize that he’s doing it, and he’ll never say it in a horrible or a demeaning way. The reason is that your lover’s mother has spent her whole life making him feel comfortable and happy, and he expects the same from you.

You Won't Come First In His Life
When you start dating a mama’s boy, you need to get used to the fact that you’ll not always be his top priority. He’ll still take you to dinner dates, and watch your favorite TV series with you, but if his mother needs something or want him to do something for her, he’ll rush to her. Sure, he’ll apologize to you and even promise to make it up for you, but at the same time he’ll expect you to be okay and understanding that you’ll be second to his mother.

He’ll Treat You Like A Princess
When you start dating someone and that someone is a mama’s boy, it may sound like a huge pain in the ass, but, to be honest; having a romantic relationship with a mama’s boy isn’t all bad. One great thing about dating mama’s boys is they surely know how to treat a woman. Men who are close and caring to their mothers are sensitive, understanding, sweet, and generous. The relationship they’ve with their moms might drive you insane, but these guys will always treat you like a princess, and that can never go wrong? After all don’t all women want this?

How Not To Feel Insecure In A New Relationship

It’s wonderful being in a new relationship. Getting to know that new special someone, getting butterflies in your tummy while looking at them – it’s an amazing feeling and experience. You both holding hands, share your hopes and dreams for the future, great sex, and feeling insecure. Wait. What? Feeling vulnerable? Where on earth did that come from? Yes, when we become attached to someone we love deeply; a sense of insecurity can show its ugly face because we are afraid of loss. If left uncontrolled this fear of loss can harm your new relationship.

When you're feeling insecure, here are some ways that will bring back the confidence in your new relationship:

Tell Yourself That You’re Awesome In Every Way
Think about that man you met when you were single and who wasn’t questioning your self-worth. This man is the man who made you feel insecure. This is the man who has decided to date an awesome like you. Remember you’re an awesome woman in every way. Nobody can be you. Also, keep in mind that you’re so awesome that more than one guy wants to date you. And if the guy you’re dating can’t appreciate who you are, then it’s his loss. By the way, you have a job that you love; ran in marathons, have great friends you love to spend time with, and so on and so forth. How awesome is that?

Live Your Life
If you’ve met someone, then don’t sit around idle and wait to for him or her to call you for a date. This is nothing but a waste of time. You have a life to live. So, enjoy it, live it. Do your work well, and try to get that promotion. Take yoga classes. Play with your dog. Hang out with friends. Do all of the stuff that makes you feel good about yourself. Also doing all the things that you like doing will make you active and busy, and in the meantime, if a guy reaches out to you, he‘ll keep wondering why you aren't busy with him. And that’s a good thing.

Remember You're Not Alone Who Is Feeling This Way
The more attached we are to someone we love, the more we fear to lose them. This fear of losing someone we are deeply connected to might change or impact us in ways that might seem foreign. For example, a highly confident woman might get replaced with a shy woman you used to before you started looking for a relationship. But do you know that this new person in your life might be feeling the same way too? They might like to call or text, or would like to take you on a date. You might find them needy. And that's a good sign and will make you feel less insecure.

Unplug Yourself From Social Media
When you’re in a new relationship, there is one thing that you should stop doing – spending time on social media. Social media can lead us down the road to despair and loneliness, even in good times. Stop looking at how other people are living, and then comparing it with yours. It’s a total waste of time. Don’t stalk your suitor on social media because it would only hurt you, if you see him doing things with someone that he shouldn’t be doing, or if you just can’t find him. Therefore, go live your life again. Don’t just sit around and stop looking what everyone else’s life looks like.

How A Guy Knows If A Girl Really Likes Them On A First Date

When a guy goes on a first date with a woman, these are the two questions that are being asked the most. First question, “how does he know whether he has a chance with her?” Second question, “if he thinks like he does have a chance with her, what should be his next step?” It’s only one fact that arises all of this uncertainty. When a man gets even the slightest hint that a woman he’s dating might be interested in him, he often starts doing things that aren’t expected at all. His mind starts to play all sorts of games with him, he misinterprets cues, and he jumps to conclusions immediately.

Most relationship experts suggest in these circumstances men should do everything to stop guessing and doubting themselves when they find a woman might be interested. Instead, they should start looking for the big signs that might indicate that they truly have a shot to be in a relationship with her.

After having a conversation with your date for an hour or so, ask yourself, “Is she genuinely receptive, friendly toward me?” For most guys, this may sound deceptively obvious. But guess what? When it comes to issues regarding dating and relationships rituals, it’s thoughts like these the kills the chances of most guys to be successful in landing a girlfriend. You see, most men still assume that women show certain physical behaviors such as smiling while talking with you, twirling their hair, or tilting their heads to the side, when they feel attracted to a guy. But, this isn’t always true.

The truth is these kinds of body language or behaviors can be mean or directed to something else that can range from meaningless to utterly ridiculous. These behaviors have nothing to do your chances of taking things to the next and hopefully more meaningful level. These behaviors can be labeled as merely “flirting”, and any woman can do it who is nice and only wants to be polite with you. Therefore, stop looking for these physical behaviors to deciding your chances of having a more meaningful, long-lasting relationship with a woman. Instead, focus on the larger picture. Don’t make any judgments and conclusions about “how things are going” after having the conversation with a woman.

Now, pause and look for these signs to determine whether she’s behaving genuinely friendly and receptive towards you:

Does she takes the initiative or takes the lead in the conversation? Does she interrupt you when you’re speaking to her? If she does it most of the time, it’s an indication that she’s either bored with you or too self-absorbed with herself. And, when you talk to her does she maintain eye contact with you? If she’s always looking at the phone or looking around the room or the restaurant, it means that she has lost her interest in the date, so it’s time that you wrap this up politely and say goodnight. And now for the final part, does she try to be insightful during the conversation? If you find her asking sincere, appropriate and insightful questions and giving meaningful feedback about the things that you’ve said, then you’ve found a keeper!

When you’re dating someone you like and have doubts whether the girl you’re dating likes you or not, remember there is someone no woman can fake. It doesn’t matter if she smiles and twirls her hair if she can’t interact with your in a genuine and meaning ways that we mentioned earlier we can safely tell that you don’t have a chance with her.

Harsh Truths About Relationships No One Wants To Confess

Dating these days is simple, easy and convenient, that is if you prefer it that way. But, some people will argue of dating being easy or simple ranting that dating and relationships these days are so complicated, and nobody wants any commitment. It's true to some extent, but if you want to be in a real, stable, long-lasting relationship, you need to have depth and emotional engagement in the relationship. Also, there are some things that you’ll need to admit to yourself and to the man or woman you’re interested in before you can commit to a relationship.

Here are some undeniable truths about relationships people should understand:

1. You need to be happy with yourself before you can make someone happy. Of all the relationships you’ll have in your life, the most important one is the one you’ve with yourself. If that one isn’t good, none of your others relationships are going to be successful.

2. Eventually, things are going to suck in the end. If you’re expecting that your relationship will have a fairy tale ending, that’s not going to happen. The reality is that every relationship will face challenges. You’ll have family issues, illnesses, arguments, disagreements, disappointments, and so on and so forth. The sooner you be accepting to these harsh realities of relationships and reach an understanding that things aren’t going to be perfect, the sooner you’ll be settled in a committed relationship. Nothing will ever be the way you had imagined before you were in a relationship. That’s the real beauty of relationships that we absolutely have no idea how it’s going to look like in the future.

3. Most people expect way too much from their dates. You need to have a certain level of standards for yourself, and make sure that you never settle for less than you deserve. Give your energy and time to people who truly deserve it. But, some people tend to take a little too far and expect way too much from people. It’s important to be flexible and realize that no one is perfect. Sometimes, you will need to make compromises and be comfortable and accept people for who they are, rather what you expect them to be.

4. Actions speak louder than words – and they do really! Just telling your girlfriend or boyfriend that you love and care about them isn’t enough. You’ll also need to put some effort consistently to show them. And, if you do it for them, they also have to do the same for you.

5. Leave your past behind you. We all have our pasts, and more or less we are all affected by it. We are always reminded of our pasts, but we cannot live in it unless we want to repeat it over and over again. We can’t forget or discard our pasts. Instead, we need to take lessons from it and learn from it. We need to take only the good parts and get rid of the bad ones.

6. Be prepared to lose a lot before you can win. If you’ve failed to secure a relationship only after being only to three dates and you’re ready to give up, you need to ask yourself if you’re really ready for such a commitment. You see, dating is a lot like playing poker, sometimes you’ve to lose a lot before you win. But, if you don’t play or in this case date again because you’re afraid of losing, or getting rejected again, then you’ll never be able to score a relationship.

How To Get Back Affection In Your Relationship If It’s Lost

For most people, affection is what makes a relationship a relationship. If you’re longing for affection in your relationship or marriage right now and want to be kissed, hugged, or just want to hear the words, “I love you,” then you are not alone. Hundreds and thousands of couples are longing to be desired and cherished. If you are upset and frustrated because your relationship lacks affection, you will yourself unimportant, lonely, ignored and unloved.

If you are at this phase in your relationship, then read on to find out what works and what doesn’t in a relationship devoid of affection:

Don’t Bring It Up
Don’t talk about the lack of affection in your relationship, not even occasionally with boyfriend or girlfriend. Talking about it will not get your partner to change. Ask or begging feels terrible, even if your man or woman eventually tries to give it to you. This might or feel good to you at the moment, but the main thing is that it never works in the long-term. So our advice is: don't do it! It is okay for you to be cherished and desired if you realize that there is a lack of affection, but asking, begging or even joking about affection feels horrible.

By ordering affection, your significant another will, in fact, be reluctant to be affectionate with you. And when that happens, it’s really painful. It will not only harm you emotionally and physically, but it will also make your partner run far away from you. Rather than telling them what to do or not being able to control their habits or behavior, develop a habit of showing them love and appreciation, and make them happy in different ways by gestures, gifts, respect, and so on and so forth.

Avoid The Affection Trap And Lack Of Physical Intimacy
Some couples feel frustrated because they aren’t having sex as much as they did before. Some couples have already accepted or became habituated with sexless relationships. Couples who are facing this issue tell that their partners are never in the mood and turn it down after they initiate it. They get frustrated and discouraged about it and no longer bother to make an effort. Meanwhile, the other person complains that they don’t like getting physically intimate with their lovers because they ignore them all day and fed up with the lack of affection. The thing one partner wants sex and isn’t getting it, so they stop being affectionate, while the other party doesn't want to have because they want affection. If you want to get rid of this vicious circle, one or both need to give first.

Focus On What You Can Control
When you’re in a relationship, you can never control someone the way you want to. In fact, controlling behavior in a romantic relationship will lead it to distance, resistance, and break up. But, there is something that you can control; you and your happiness. Focus on being fun, happy, easygoing, and the flirting, love and affection will flow naturally. Most men or women admit they have not been affectionate towards their significant others because they feel unhappy and stressed. By focusing more on your happiness and self-care, you will be more attractive and can give them the affection that they need.

Simple Signs To Look For That Says “He Likes You A Lot.”

You’re looking for a relationship, and after searching for weeks, you finally meet someone for the first time. You can easily tell that you like the man, especially in a romantic encounter, but how will you know if they like you?

Here are few nonverbal cues that immediately make you learn how to tell if a guy likes you or not.

Mutual Eye Contact
People only look at people they like and avoid making eye contact with people they don’t like. When we like someone, our bodies release Oxytocin, which is responsible for increased eye contact. Oxytocin also increases pupil dilation, which indicates interests and attraction. However, you should keep in mind the fine line between increased eye contact and stare. Staring is creepy and impolite. One good way to raise your gaze to the person you like is to look at them when they don’t feel like someone is looking at them. Turn your head quickly if the person discovers that you’re looking at him or her. If the man or woman you are at maintains eye contact, they like and interested to you.

He Touches You Gently
Touching is a good sign to tell whether a person likes you or dislikes you. Often, people touch the person they like. Women, in romantic relationships, might lightly touch the hand or the arm of the man they are attracted to while talking. A gentle touch is not an invitation for sex, it mere sign that she likes you. Meanwhile, guys express their liking for women by engaging in playful or flirty physical activities. Another kind of touching is preening. Picking an exposed thread or lint from other person’s dress or clothes or straightening a tie is also an indication that he or she likes you. If you like someone, but they don’t like you, they will pull away whenever you touch them.

He Copies You
If a person likes someone, he or she will mirror each other’s body positions. To make romantic relationships work, it’s important to build rapport, and mirroring is a good way to do it. Also, mirroring can also be used to check whether the person you are talking with likes you. So, when you meet someone new, and you like him or her, and you also want them to like you back, mirror their body position.

He Leans Inward To You
Body language is a crucial indicator to figure out if a guy likes or dislikes you. Usually, people lean forward to people they like and stay away from people they don’t like. For example, if two people are sitting next to each other and if they like each other their heads and shoulders, and later their torsos will fully turn as they face one another. Eventually, the couple will lean toward each other.

He Removes Any Walls Between Him And You
If you’re dating someone you like, and he’s also interested in you, he will do his best to eliminate any obstacles between you and him. If a woman doesn’t like the man they are with, she will place all kinds of obstacles between her and the man they dislike. Barriers can include personal things like purses, magazines, cups, cushions, etc. Barriers in dating or romantic relationships don’t consequently mean that he or she doesn’t like you, but it’s a way to indicate that the rapport is yet to be established.