Relationships are hard work even when you two live close to each other. Add a few thousand miles into the mix and “hard work” doesn’t even begin to sum up what it takes to survive the relationship. That’s right: survive. Long distance relationships are often talked about as exercises of survival because they are not for the faint of heart. You’ve got to be prepared to throw all your old notions of relationship to the wind, overcome your jealousy, and then there is that issue of sex.
Doesn’t sound like a long distance relationship is worth the trouble? It might not be. But, if you really think your relationship is something special, follow this advice for surviving a long distance relationship.
Decide Whether It is Worth It
Before you jump into a long distance relationship, ask yourself whether it is really worth it. There are two basic types of relationships that can end up with the distance factor. Depending on the type of relationship, you will have different issues to consider when deciding whether it is worth pursuing.
1. The Long Distance Attraction
This type of long distance relationship is when you fall for someone who lives far away. Maybe you two met on a cruise vacation. Maybe you met when he was in town on a work trip. Maybe you two met at a Star Wars convention and were smitten by your equal levels of nerdiness…
These attractions usually just end up being flings and nothing more. After all, you probably won’t be willing to put in all the work required of a long distance relationship for someone you just met.
But let’s say that this person is someone truly special and you don’t think that you will ever meet someone as great. If you want to pursue the relationship, then you better be REALLY flexible in your life right now. You better have the financial resources and time to go out and visit. And, assuming that everything goes well, you better be willing to drop everything (friends, family, career, your home…) to move out and be with that person.
A lot of guys stress about what to say when approaching a girl for the first time. Really, it really doesn’t matter what you say. Trying to come up with some clever pickup line or witty thing to say will probably just make you sound like you are reading from a script, and leave you unprepared for whatever her response will be. What is important is knowing what NOT to say. And, after this initial approach, it is all about knowing how to respond to her replies in a way which builds ups attraction.
The Rule of Social Relevance
In our post about how to meet women, I wrote a lot about a major problem guys have when approaching women: they come off as creepy. This is because most guys aren’t aware of the rule of “social relevance.” This basically just means you’ve got to be aware of your situation and make conversation which is relevant to the place.
If you are having trouble meeting women, it probably has to do with the fact that you are looking in all the wrong places. Here, we won’t just give you ideas for specific places where you can meet women, but tell you why they are great places and tell you how to use them to your fullest advantage.
Bars and Clubs: The Wrong Place
Bars and clubs seem like the logical place to meet women. In fact, a lot of women actually go to these places to meet men (be it for relationships or casual hookups). But, unless you are incredibly good-looking or really good at flirting (or both), then you probably aren’t going to have any luck.
You know those Animal Planet documentaries which show the males doing things like displaying their plumage, knocking their antlers together, or puffing up really big in order to get the attention of the females? Well, that basically sums up the atmosphere in a bar or club.
Women in bars know what you want – and this puts them in a position to make you work for it. Plus, there are almost always going to be more men on the prowl than women – which puts women in an even bigger position of power.
It isn’t impossible to meet women in bars and clubs, you’ve just got to be really good at the art of pickup (read our article on how to pick up girls). Aside from the pickup tricks, you will also have to be damn good at bantering (download our free guide on how to flirt with girls).
Even if you succeed in picking up a girl in a bar or club, it probably isn’t going to go anywhere (other than an awkward first date or maybe a one-night stand). This is because it is really hard to get to know a girl in a bar or club. The chances that you and the girl actually have something in common is pretty slim. So, if you want to meet women for something other than casual sex, I’d suggest you start looking in one of the following places.
First off, I want to clarify that this guide is about how to meet women. By meeting women, I mean learning how to approach women in a way which allows you to build up a rapport with them and engage in meaningful exchanges of communication. If that sounds like rubbish to you and your sole goal is to hookup with a girl, that is fine – but then read our guide on how to pick up girls instead.
Why would you want to meet women if it isn’t going to (immediately) lead to sex or relationships? Well, for starters, not every woman you meet is going to be compatible with you. But, by meeting as many women as possible, you are increasing your odds of finding someone who is. Plus, meeting women (even if it doesn’t go anywhere) helps you improve your social skills, build confidence, and gain insight into the female mind. Oh, and all of those new female friends you get will certainly have single lady friends they can introduce you to…
The Secret to Meeting Women…
Meeting women might seem like it requires some complex strategies and carefully-chosen pickup lines. In truth, it is all just a matter of
- Getting the timing is right
- Making sure you aren’t coming across as “creepy”
- Being socially relevant
- Exiting at the right moment
Let’s break this down a bit.
Whether you like it or not, text messaging has completely changed the way we date. Phone calls are becoming increasingly rare and men are expected to charm women into dating them with witty, cute, or decisive texts. Used the wrong way, text messaging can make you seem desperate, creepy, or flat-out boring. But, when used the right way, texting won’t just help you get a date with a girl, but will make the girl dripping wet in anticipation of your date.
Given the importance of texting in the dating game, it is fantastic that there is finally a book out on the topic. “Patented” Pick Up Artists Bobby Rio and Rob Judge spent two years researching the text game. The result is their landmark eBook Magnetic Messaging. The book guides you through the principles of the text game and lays out the “Key-Lock Sequence” – a tested system which allows you to captivate any woman with just three simple texts.
What is Magnetic Messaging?
Magnetic Messaging is an e-guide which covers everything you need to know about using text messages to get a girl and keep her interested. Unlike other text messaging guides which give you a script to follow, Magnetic Messaging gives you a system called the “Key-Lock sequence” which you can use to “unlock the phone and text game”. The guide defines each step of the sequence, supplies plenty of examples and templates, and explains when and how much to use each. With this knowledge, you will never lose another girl because of bad follow-ups.
The term “pickup” has been around since WWII, a time when guys were finally starting to get lucky because girls felt bad for them going off to battle. It wasn’t until the 1970s though that the term pickup was popularized by Eric Weber’s ground-breaking book How to Pick Up Girls. In the book, he laid out the foundation for what was about to change the lives of many ugly, boring, and “ordinary” guys. Since Weber’s original book, a lot of other pickup artists have advanced his theories and picking up girls has become a “game” which no woman can win – or resist playing.
Generally, the goal of a pickup is to get sex. But, a pickup can also refer to anything else you want to get from a girl – like her number, a date, or even to become her boyfriend. Picking up girls is considered an art, and some men spend years perfecting their craft. Since you probably don’t want to wait years to get a hot girl, here we will lay down the basic principles of how to pick up girls. Then you can then hone your technique by trial and error, or continue learning with some of our resources, like the PIOP free guide How to Flirt with Women which you can download here. Continue reading
What is Tao of Badass?
You may be saying, “What in the world is Tao of Badass?”
The Ultimate Solution To All Your Dating Problems
In this review we’ll break it down for you. We’ll tell you about this program, designed by Joshua Pellicer, and we’ll provide you with the information to decide whether or not Tao of Badass is the key to transforming your relationships with women–and your entire life.
First, ask yourself these two simple questions:
Are you the kind of guy who doesn't seem to have that magic charm with women?
Do you find yourself constantly searching for the right girl, only to be rejected or end up with the wrong ones?
Tao of Badass is the quintessential guide to becoming a more confident man–the kind of man who can not only attract women but also build fulfilling relationships.
Yes, this guide is about meeting women and being more confident in social situations, but it offers a unique approach in that it also focuses on creating a real relationship with the right girl.
The key premise of Tao of Badass is that attracting women is something to be learned. Frequently, men see it as something that comes naturally, as a skill you’re either born with or not, but Joshua Pellicer disproves this fallacy based on extensive research as well as personal experience.
Let’s face it: life is better when you have someone to share it with. If you haven’t been in a relationship for a while, just got out of one, or are new to dating, then you might be wondering how to get a girlfriend. But, if you follow these simple steps, you will be on the right path to getting (and keeping) a girlfriend.
Have you ever wanted to learn how to attract a girl who already has a boyfriend?
Maybe you just met a girl you really get along with, only to find out later on that she’s already taken.
Face it: if this girl is the bomb, then you really shouldn't be surprised if she already has a boyfriend.