How Far Should You Go For A Long Distance Relationship?

Long distance relationships are getting pretty familiar because of online dating. One big dilemma facing couples in long distance relationships is to decide whether he or she should relocate to be the other person they’re dating. Some never met their online matches in person, and only know about them over the phone and the internet. We all agree to know a person fully; there is no alternative to face-to-face interaction and that over an extended period. You two may be attracted to each other, and think both of you are compatible, but is that enough for you to relocate to a new place, city or town?

This is indeed an important question. We always think that couples who are in long distance relationships should take some determined and comprehensive steps before deciding on making any kind commitment. These are:

First, try to have as many as face-to-face interactions with your matches before either of you decide to relocate. The phone and the internet may be helpful to be in touch, but ultimately it’s imperative that both of you spend as much time as you can together in the same place. It’s the only proven and efficient way to know whether two of you are compatible or not.

Second, visit each other in as many different circumstances as possible. If you limit yourself of visiting your partner only on weekends or vacations, it won’t give you the real experience of how it will be if you both are living together like any other couple. Besides, spending time with your boyfriend or girlfriend only on weekends might convince that he or she is kind, attentive, loving, and compatible, which might not always be true.

Third, you must find a way to collect as much information about this person before you go ahead with your plan to relocate with him or her. It might be unusual and strange for you to travel across the land, just to witness your boyfriend or girlfriend about what they do in their everyday life. But, trust us, that this is crucial if you want your relationship to be healthy and a long-lasting one.

Finally, you must comprehend the risks associated with being in long distance relationships. At some point, before you get married, one of you will have to pack and settle somewhere across the country. This should be done with the intention to marry, and surely before getting engaged. If you both decided to marry, and relocating with your partner is just an initial step towards that direction, the pressure of marriage might create some tension, in which one or both of you will think that this isn’t a right decision. Therefore, you both need to spend more time together in your long distance relationship and assess how this move might take place if the relationship continues.

The bottom line is long distance relationships just like any other kind of relationships comes with its own set of problems and relocating with your partner is one of them. So, if you’re looking for someone or interested in a long-distance relationship when it comes to marriage, it is best you wait as long as you can. Also gather as much information about your partner in many different circumstances as you can, before you get engaged or married.


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