Physical intimacy is an integral part of a romantic relationship. A sexless relationship or a relationship where two people can’t have a fulfilling and satisfying sex is bound to have problems or even end. When you're in a relationship, you should be open and talk about your deep sexual desires with your partner if you want a fulfilling sex life. Being honest and exploring your sexual fantasies gives you an insight into your true desires and what you really want from a committed relationship.
When you understand about your physical needs, you need to share your desires with your significant other. This can be scary and uncomfortable for some men and women, but you can do it by having an honest conversation with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Planning your erotic life is more like planning a romantic vacation in a city that you’ve never visited before. Most couples spend their entire lives having sex with their partners without any particular plan. They never think whether it can give them the satisfaction and the fulfillment they need, they simply hope for it. But, if you can get specific of what you actually desire and what you want to experience from sex, we can assure you that you’ll have an incredibly satisfying sex life.
Now let’s talk how you will communicate these intimate and sensitive issues with your partner. Does he or she become defensive when you speak of sex with him or her? Communicating your intimate sexual desires can be really romantic and challenging process with your partner. Both people can feel insecure about expressing their intimate needs with each other. You can find things about your partner that you didn’t know before, or there might be misconceptions or wrong assumptions about sex, and so on. Therefore, before you start talking about sex, don’t be judgmental and try to be open and accepting as much as possible. Be curious, instead of being critical of your sex lives. Don’t talk about sex in public place. Talk when you’re having a private moment together, or a road trip, at a dinner date or strolling in the park or the beach.
If you’re new in talking about your intimate desires, here are seven questions that you should ask your boyfriend that will help you in improving your sex life.
1. What are your most preferred kinds of full body touch? Are they deep massages or feather light touches?
2. Where do you want to be touched more in your body more often?
3. What types of affection does makes you feel most loved?
4. Is there something you've always wanted to try doing, but never got the chance to do it before?
5. Do you ever want to be blindfolded or tied up? Are you fine with you doing the tying?
6. Is there something you did when you were young, but never tried it again?
7. Are there any intimate scenes from a movie or a TV show that really turns you on?
When you’re in a romantic relationship, the most important thing for you to do to have a healthy, lasting relationship is to establish an open, honest, friendly and relaxed conversation about sex with your significant other. The ore you freely talk about it, the easily you’ll get what you asked for.