To all singles out there – you think you’re ready to be in a relationship? Before you say, first check in with yourself and determine if you’re really are willing to commit to a relationship. You may tell yourself that you’re ready and all set to settle down with someone, but in fact, it’s your behavior you’ve to look at first. There are many men and women you claim that they’re ready to start a relationship, but in reality, their behaviors tell otherwise. So, it’s your behavior that will tell you if you’re ready to begin a relationship, not what you think or say.
When you’re ready to have an adult reowlationship, your behavior will reflect if you’re ready for such kind of long-term commitment. Read on to find out what you need for being ready for a relationship.
1. Your impulsive behavior is misaligned with your actions and feelings. When you go out with your friends, you tend to over drink. When you’re bored, you visit a bar or a nightclub. We aren’t telling you that drinking or going to a nightclub is detrimental to be in a good relationship or find one. The main thing is about how your act and feel when you’re there or in a situation which indicates whether you’re ready to begin a relationship. If you get drunk every time you get depressed or visit a bar, it points that you aren’t in a position to have a healthy relationship. Sure, you’ll meet someone, but you’ll not be at your best. Eventually, you’ll see yourself having a relationship with someone not right for you. It is okay to you meet someone you like and start having a relationship with him or her. But, at first introduce yourself to them, know them, and make plans to see them in another environment.
2. You think about why your past relationships failed. It’s futile to sulk why your previous relationships didn’t last. It takes two people to screw a relationship, so it’s better you stop blaming your ex for the demise of your relationship. When you’re ready to be in a new relationship, take a look back at your past relationship, and analyze what parts of the relationship that were counterproductive and unhealthy. Try to figure out the process of not seeing these behaviors in your current relationship.
3. You got rid of all the drama. Now, that you’ve come in terms why your past relationships ended, you can now confidently say that you got rid of the drama associated with dysfunctional relationships. You’re no longer interested with your friends exploits when they had problems in their relationship such as silly make-up sex, getting back together with your ex after a few months apart and so on. You feel more mature, calm, confident and fully ready to start an adult relationship.
The bottom line is, when you think you’re ready to love someone and start a relationship, then look at your behavior, if you’re really ready for it. The only way you can have and maintain a loving, long-lasting relationship is starting it on a solid foundation. And that can only happen if you two are emotionally connected.