How to Make a Girl Cum with Your Mouth

A lot of guys think that oral sex on women – aka cunnilingus or eating pussy — involves nothing more than plunging your tongue into her vagina and wiggling it around a bit. But, if you want to make a girl cum with oral sex, it takes some skill. Oral sex is actually a much more consistent way of making a girl cum than your dick. This is because your cock only touches inside of her, and the most sensitive female erogenous zone is the clit.

Here is the ultimate guide on how to make a girl cum every time with oral sex and rock her world completely.

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Clitoris 101

If you want to master the art of oral sex, you’ve got to understand the intimates of the female anatomy. Sure, you might think you know what the clit is – but there is probably more to it than you realize.

Contrary to what most men think, the clit is not just a little bump under the hood. As Your Tango points out, clit is actually like a mini penis (yeah, kind of weird when you think about it that way) and has a shaft and head. Like the penis, the clit has thousands of nerve endings. In fact, the clit has 6-8 thousand nerve endings – which is about twice the amount in the head of the penis. And all of these nerve endings are bunched together in a super compact space, so a single lick to the clit can send shudders throughout her entire body.

The clitoris actually goes deep into the body – about 3.5 inches deep! The part of the clitoris that we see (the little bump) is the glans, or the head of the clit. It is the most sensitive part of the clit, but even the inner clitoris can be stimulated. This is why women will react to different amounts of pressure on their clit. It also explains why the penis can make a woman come during sex, since the penis is able to stimulate the internal clitoris. The vaginal walls themselves don’t really have nerve endings. The Museum of Sex has a great description of how the clitoris becomes erect and causes female orgasm that I suggest you read.

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Illustration of an erect clitoris

 

Step by Step Guide on How to Make Her Cum with Oral Sex

Now that you know where the clit is, we are ready to get into the details of how to make her cum with oral.

 

1. Get Her Ready to Cum

Getting in position to give her oral sex is more than just taking her pants off and pushing your face between her legs. First, you’ve got to get her relaxed. REALLY RELAXED. A lot of women are self conscious about their bodies and they aren’t going to respond well if you just dive right down there.

Always start with kissing. Studies have found that kissing reduces the stress hormone cortisol, making it easier to get her insanely horny. Don’t just kiss her lips. Kiss her neck, earlobes, nipples, stomach… Slowly work your way down while removing clothing, piece by piece.

 

2. The Mount

In the book The Mount Method: A Guide to Pleasuring Women, author Mark Coriddi explains the importance of the “mount” for female oral sex.   Achieving a mount basically means that your mouth is against her pussy in a way which maximizes pleasure.

According to Coriddi, the perfect mount for cunnilingus is to get your upper lip right at the indent located at the center of her pubic bone. To get the mount perfect, try lifting her pelvis up by putting a pillow under her butt.

Once you are comfortable giving oral sex to a girl, you can try switching up the positions. This is a great way to keep your sex life exciting once you are in a healthy relationship. One nice option is the “Reverse Hug” pose in which she lies down on her breasts and upper torso and you hold her legs up over your shoulders, so your face is buried right in her pussy. Another option is the “Under the Sink” pose where she basically sits on your face. This cunnilingus position lets her control the intensity of the pressure against her clit.   If you are serious about learning how to make a girl cum, I suggest you get a good book of sex positions and study up.

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3. Lick Everywhere

As a woman, the best advice I can give on how to make a girl cum is to start slowly. For cunnilingus, you should approach her pussy slowly. Start by kissing the insides of her thighs, and warming her pussy with hot breaths against it. This will drive her crazy even before your tongue touches her.

Once you are sure she is relaxed and going crazy for you, gently (gently!) lick up her vulva and the hood of her clit. Remember, DON’T GET SLOBBERY. Too much wetness means there won’t be enough friction to really stimulate those nerve endings. Gradually build up speed and gauge her reaction.

 

4. Now Go for the Clit

You will know it is time to go for the clit when she is responding well to your licks. She should be breathing harder. Her pelvis will start grinding against your mouth, begging for more. She might grab fistfuls of hair.

The clit is located underneath a hood. To really lick the clit and stimulate those 8000 nerve endings there, you’ve got to lift the hood. You can do this gently with your fingers. Or, you can use an upward lick to push the hood up and simultaneously get at her clit.

Put some gentle pressure on her clit with your licks. Don’t overdo it, but also don’t be afraid to increase the pressure and see how she responds. With the hood lifted, try sucking on her clit. This should drive her crazy and her breaths will increase as she gets closer to cumming.

 

5. Add a Finger

While still licking and sucking on her clit, slide a finger into her pussy. But NO HARD FINGERING! One or two fingers should be enough and slide them in and out, gradually building up speed as you hear her breath increasing. Don’t pound her pussy with your fingers or try to shove 4 fingers up inside her. This will just hurt and distract her from the pleasure she is feeling on her clit. Of course, there are exceptions…if your girlfriend likes to be fisted, then by all means get kinky!

Remember that there aren’t really any sexual nerve endings inside the vagina. There are, however, nerve endings around the opening of the vagina. That is why you only need a finger or two to get her to cum during oral sex.  Don’t forget to get ready for sex by washing your hands and cutting your fingernails!

 

6. Respond to Her Cues

This is the absolutely most important part of being a good lover and making a girl cum. You have to be attuned to what her body is doing and respond accordingly. Look for signs she is about to cum. Is her breath quickening? Is her body twitching? Is she grabbing your hair and grinding her pelvis against your mouth? Good job! Keep up what you are doing!

But what is you aren’t getting any cues that she is enjoying herself? In most cases, it is because the guy is going too quickly. Slow down and go back to making nice, long licks across her vulva. Listen to her breathing and body language. Does she seem relaxed, or is she nervous? Some girls are really self conscious about their bodies – especially about having a guy in intimate proximity to their vulva. Put her at ease by saying something nice, like “I love how you taste” or “You are so beautiful.”   It isn’t cheesy. It can do wonders for making a woman feel good about her body and relax, especially when it is said while your tongue is plunged into her pussy.

If you really aren’t getting any response, then ask her what she likes. Don’t be shy about asking her. Some guys think that asking is a sign that they are inexperienced. Really, it shows that you are considerate of her, and she will appreciate you for it.

If she is enjoying herself, just keep doing what you are doing! As Cosmo points out in their article about cunnilingus no-nos,

“When an oral-sex-receiving woman is making noises like she is enjoying herself, that triggers a bullhorn-decibel yell in the male brain, “Oh, she likes the gentle circular motion of my tongue on her clitoris? Let me add some weirdly hard fingering from this angle down here that sucks!” Don’t listen to that dude on the bullhorn. He’s lying to you. Keep doing exactly what you’re doing, sans bells and whistles.”

 

If You Can Make Her Cum with Your Mouth, She Will Return the Favor

This might seem like a lot of work to get a girl to cum, but it is really worth it. If you can make a girl cum with oral sex, she will think of you as a giving lover and return the favor in bed. And, remember that women are capable of multiple orgasms. Right after cumming, a girl’s clit (including the internal parts) is especially sensitive – so it will be even easier to drive her crazy with your cock during sex.

 

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