There is nothing wrong to get a little attention, but some people take it to a whole new level. Attention seekers make bad partners; they can be frustrating to deal with, and they argue regularly and break up all of a sudden. So, how can you spot an attention seeking person in the dating world?
Here are some common signs of an attention seeker:
• Attention seeking people tend to be loud. They like to be the life of the party. They make unclassy jokes, act obnoxious, say things that can be cute or provocative.
• Attention seekers often tend to be flirtatious and seductive. They make direct eye contact with other people, touches people in appropriate ways, dresses in ways to grab attention. They prefer being overly sexualized.
• Attention seeking men and women are argument starters. They start an argument or get involved in debates and dominate the conversation, just to get everyone’s attention and focus on them. This is a major turn off to their partners making them annoyed and frustrated.
So, why it’s better if you stay away from dating attention seekers?
1. They often dominate discussions. Attention seekers are motivated by getting attention and are addicted to it. At social gatherings, they are ones who talks most from the rest. They love hearing themselves talk and even better if people focus on them. What is annoying for their partners is they think their partners are taking the spotlight from and pushing them in the shadows. Their partners don’t get the chance to express themselves and interact with others in mutually conforming manner.
2. They deny that they crave for attention. It is said to be one of the most frustrating traits of attention seekers. If you happen to date an attention seeker, you probably by now found that your attention seeking partner will deny that he or she wants attention desperately from others. Instead, they will tell you that they get attention because they deserve it and people give it to them. That is straightforward narcissism.
3. Getting attention is more important to attention seekers than relationships. Attention seekers love to seduce people to like them, and they work hard to get others to like them. If you’re dating someone who craves attention, who will notice how he or she use the tactics and tricks to flirt, seek attention and start arguments. That’s why jealousy is a big issue while being in a relationship with attention seekers. They are so obsessed with getting attention from others that they totally neglect your feelings.
4. Only getting attention from you won’t satisfy them. It is a crucial point to remember regarding having a relationship with an attention seeking individual. Regardless, how perfect you are, how sexy, smart, interesting, funny you happen to be – your partner won’t be satisfied and will seek validation from others. No matter how hard you try, you will never be good enough for your attention-seeking partner. It’s not that you’re less desirable and appealing than others, it’s their personality to seek attention from others that make them alive deep inside.
The bottom line is seeking attention functions like a drug to attention seekers. They will do anything to get validation and praise from other people. Unless you have unfathomable self-esteem, it’s better for you to avoid engaging with an attention seeker if you want to have a loving and committed relationship.