Let’s face it, when it comes to meeting the next Ms Right, we could all do with a little help. Here are seven things to keep in mind next time you’re out on a date.
1) Don’t forget your manners
A little etiquette never killed nobody. On the contrary, it will raise your level of atractiveness. Do simple gestures like: telling her she looks nice, open the door as she walks through, or offer your arm as she steps down from the curb – but play it natural. Also, make sure you remember particular characteristics like her eye colour (trust us it’s important!) and when you’re comfortable, maybe test the waters by leaning in a little closer as she speaks – if she backs away, well, it’s probably not going well.
2) Be confident
Everyone’s nervous on a first date, but there’s nothing more attractive than a bit of self-confidence. When it comes to conversation, stay in your comfort zone by bringing into discussion a few topics that you can control easily so you’re not out of your depth too early. But it’s a delicate balance on this one – don’t insist too much on the same subject that you feel confident and bang on about it all night. If in doubt, ask your date about themselves and start from there.
It sounds simple at a first look, but choosing someone with similar interests is a big plus. If you like nothing better than watching football over a few beers – and they hate sports with a passion – it’s probably not going to work out in the end. Here’s one quick tip: be yourself and don’t try to force it.
4)Keep it casual
Drinks are fine for a first date. After all, no one wants to sit through the seven-course degustation with someone you’ve only just met – especially if you both realise it’s not going to work after the entrees appear. Also, the location is important to determine the course of your future relationship. For a first outing, it would be better to head to a bar you’ve been to before – you’ll at least know your way there, and it’s one less thing you have to worry about. But avoid just heading to your nearby favorite place – it’s obvious if you’ve chosen somewhere that’s just around the corner from your place. Try for something that’s convenient for both of you to get to.
You wouldn’t imagine but the period of the week that you choose is also important. For the first 2 dates you go for the weeknights, while after the third outing together choose the weekend. Otherwise, they’re going to wonder what you’re doing that’s so much more interesting than them. Or, even worse, who.
5) Be prepared
Firs impressions always count a lot and are decisive, therefore your first date is a great opportunity to show her what you’re made of. Be the best version of yourself and show your date that you really care. Get your hair cut, maybe invest in a new outfit, smell good and check your teeth and nails are looking presentable. Plan to arrive a little early, so you’re not flustered when you walk in the door and you’ve got a bit of time to give yourself the quick once-over in the bathroom mirror.
When it comes time to order, play it fairly safe by avoiding anything you’ve never tried before or that’s tricky to eat. Remember that you are what you eat, so pay attention to what type of food you choose and what is the impression that you want to make. First few dates, make the food good, simple and completely forgettable so you can focus on each other. When you choose the wine and you are not a big coneisseur, go for the pinot if you want red, because it suits more food than not.
6) Get a second opinion
If you’re a little clueless or just want to make sure you’re on the right track, don’t be afraid to ask your friends for a few pointers. And if possible, try to have the opinion of a friend-woman. See what they think of the outfit you’re planning to wear, or the venue you want to take your date to. It might save you from some disasters like wearing that shirt everyone hates, or the place which got your friend sick.
7) Eyes in front
When you’re on a date with someone, they should the centre of attention. Ask them about themselves and pay attention to their answers. And remember that women have a 7th feeling which will immediately get activated if you try to get a sneaky look at your watch or phone – and that blonde sitting at the bar who you just checked out. Yes, yes, lift your jaws up because they see everything.
8) It pays to pay
If it’s a first date, it won’t do you any harm to pay – or at least offer. Quibbling with who should pick up the bill is a bad look and it’s hardly going to give the best first impression. Also, it’s perfectly fine if your date offers to split the check, as it shows that she is genuine and she is interested in spending time with you as opposed to wanting to be wined and dined regardless of who’s she with.