Nothing feels more disappointing than investing your heart out into a relationship only to realize that your boyfriend isn’t interested in being in a long-term. Wouldn’t it be great if you knew before that the man you’re dating isn’t the person to be in a committed, long-term relationship? Not only knowing this information saved a lot of your effort and energy, but you could also have used it to find someone who really wanted to commit and marry. And let’s not talk about the tremendous emotional pain you’re going through after the breakup.
Well, here we will be talking about how you can do that without scaring a man away, so you don’t have to waste your time and love on someone who is not worthy.
Figure Out The Questions That Can Make Even A Good Man Run Away
Putting pressure on people while talking about important topics and decisions in life can sometimes do more harm than good. Exerting pressure on boyfriend while talking about the future of your relationship, commitment, marriage, kids, etc., won’t get you a positive response from him. Nor, will it make him convince to think about these issues. Instead, when you’ve decided to date a guy you like, you’ve to tell him that you aren’t looking for a casual relationship from the start if that was your intention. If you let a guy know what you want and won’t tolerate or need at the beginning of the dating phase, he won’t feel pressured or concerned. So, how can you do this?
Let Him Know What You Need Without Pressurizing Him
One big reason why men don’t usually respond well to “serious conversations” is that the discussion becomes long and out of point, that can make both of you feel exhausted and negative about each other. Guys prefer honest and goal-oriented conversations. For example, tell him that you’ll only continue dating him if the relationship is going somewhere, and you aren’t dating anyone else. Also tell him that you aren’t seeing other people, and don’t want to waste your time. When you say this to a man, he starts to believe that you’re a desirable and respectable woman who surely knows what she needs, and knows what happens in her life and with men she’s dating. So, he will make a compelling decision.
Don’t Be Needy Or Desperate While Communicating Your Expectations
Don’t bring the topic up for discussion once you’ve communicated your expectations to your partner. Start knowing each other. And if all goes well, and you both are enjoying each other’s company, after weeks or months, then it’s time to say this message in a calm and composed voice without being too needy. Tell your boyfriend that, “You’re are happy dating him and like it keep it that way. Tell him the future is important to you, and over the next few weeks or months, we’ll decide to see where the relationship is heading, and we will only continue if you and he are really serious and interested in it.” This statement will give the ultimate deadline for your man, and you’ve done it without putting any pressure on him, and you’re sticking to your expectations.
If you’re dating someone, and don’t know if he/she is interested or committed to you, then think about this conversation. If all goes well, you’ll see that your boyfriend or girlfriend will all of a sudden be wildly more open, honest, and affectionate with you.