It’s an enjoyable experience to have fun and be healthy together as a couple. But what happens when one of the partners gets ill or is physically challenged such as being pregnant or injured? In that situation, how will you manage to take care of your partner and yourself, and still support each other? A study has been published by the University of Michigan that showed that over 30 percent of married couples had ended their marriage because one of the partners has a serious illness, especially the woman. Sure, we do say the words, “in sickness and in health” in our wedding vows, but as you can see in the statistics just saying the phrase isn’t enough.
If you want to have a healthy and long-lasting relationship, you must take action as a team when one of spouse gets ill or is partly disabled in some way or form. If you are truly committed to your partner, there is nothing more painful and disappointing that seeing your loved one in pain. Sometimes, seeing a partner in pain or in a physically compromised situation is frustrating, and it can make you feel overwhelmed. But, it won't help your partner; rather it will keep you away from helping him or her.
Anyways, here are three challenges that most couples dealing with a seriously sick or a partial or disabled partner face in a committed relationship:
- Loneliness of the sick partner
The partner who is ill or is partly disabled might feel stressed and lonely. This is especially noticeable when one of the partners is hospitalized. This may compel the ill spouse to keep asking himself or herself, “Why me? Why now?” Why should I have to be sick?” But, asking all these questions won’t be of much help. You simply have to resign to it and accept what is happening at the moment. It’s hard, but remember, it won’t last forever.
- The sick partner feels guilty because of the stress caused by the supporting partner
This is highly prevalent if the woman is pregnant. Pregnancy isn’t an illness, but pregnancy does limit the physical capacities of a woman noticeably. As a result, the other partner has to take care of a lot of responsibilities at home. Your spouse may not like it or accept it wholeheartedly, and this will make you and your partner resentful and frustrated. Bear in mind; nobody is at fault here as all of this is part of giving birth or getting well, whatever the situation may be. The situation might make you feel stressed, tired, angry and overwhelmed, but pause for a moment, and look at the bigger picture. You might stressed out or angry, but remember, you aren’t as much in pain as your significant other.
- Learning how to inspire and support each other up when one of you is feeling down, discouraged or in too much pain.
Unless you handle this in a positive light, you will find it difficult to overcome it. Confront the pain or the disability as a challenge and face it together as a team. When you are in a committed relationship, you will face difficulties like this throughout the relationship, so it’s surely worth the effort to find some options for dealing with it. Be patient, as it will pass soon.