There are some brutally honest truths that most dating coaches will tell you, and yes they are telling you the truth. It makes sense when they say that an obese man will struggle to get attention online, a man with no social skills will not get a second date, or a chronically unemployed man will have a hard time finding a girlfriend. We can conceal these harsh truths to make people feel better, but that wouldn’t be of much help to them, right? The only way to help these men find a relationship is by telling them that they should stop calling women “picky” and “high-maintenance.” They should take responsibility for their own love life. The truth hurts, but it's better to face it head-on than to hide from it in fear.
Here are four harsh truths that men should know when dating:
1. Finding love requires effort.
Nothing in this world is effortless. Don’t believe someone if he or she tells you that you can manifest a girlfriend by just thinking about her in your room. You can’t have a date without meeting a woman, and meeting the right woman requires effort. You need to put effort into your appearance and your personality. You also need to step out of your comfort zone sometimes.
2. Dating becomes trickier as you get older.
I know most of you will say that it’s not fair…but it is true. There is little that can be done about it. As you age, you accumulate more baggage. The more baggage a person accumulates, the less desirable they become. It's hard to find a woman to go out with you when you have years of issues from previous relationships.
3. Men and women are equal…but still different.
Let’s be honest: most relationship experts admit that there are differences between men and women. However, you won’t find anyone telling smart, strong, successful men how to create a healthy, long-lasting relationship with smart, successful women. This needs to change, and there is one thing most of us don’t like to do – change.
4. Most people act selfish, but they're good at heart.
It’s easy for people to dish out relationship advice to others and validate their complaints about women without taking a closer look at the situation. Why? The answer is pretty simple. It’s easy and it keeps you out of trouble. Many relationship gurus are terrified of criticism. They are afraid people won’t watch their talk-shows or won’t buy their products. But, being honest is the bedrock of a healthy and lasting relationship or marriage. You should always tell the truth, even if it threatens your relationship. That doesn’t mean that you are selfish or heartless. It means that you love and care about your girlfriend so much that you want to be honest with her, even if it makes her upset.