Love and marriage are forever—at least it’s supposed to be, but forever is a very long time, right? This is why some couples often struggle to remain monogamous for all those years and maintain a relationship for so long. They are tempted with a lot of internal and external factors that can test the boundaries of your monogamous relationship, which can take advantage of your weak spot and tempt you to cheat.
Many reasons can break up a marriage, but these four are the biggest problems that can test your monogamous relationship to its limits.
If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, you partner probably knows a lot about you and your vulnerable spots. He or she knows what makes you happy, what makes sad or angry, and what makes you doubt yourself and confidence. Within this period, you have experienced some rough times in your marriage or relationship and argued with your partner, and chances are you’re at a low point in your life. It is at the emotional phase the most spouses decide to cheat on their partners. Fighting has damaged their egos so much that their egos want a little payback time, and this though the process is always destructive.
The Relationship Became Boring
Many people believe marriage is some type of a magical institution that will fulfill their lives meaning and feeling content. Marriage seems exactly like a long-term relationship, where two people live together, but now the honeymoon phase is longer at the beginning. But after getting married, they realize it doesn’t change their life, and they get disillusioned and shocked. This realization often leads to boredom, so people get involved in relationships outside of marriage, for the contentment that their marriages were supposed to give them.
They Admit It’s Their Fault
When people are having problems in their marriages or feel like they are being neglected, he or she often blames themselves for them. They surrender themselves to the fact that they deserve this to happen to them, and believe that somehow it will empower them. So they justify having affairs outside of their marriages and hope to find some personal meaning or redemption. Well, it doesn’t work that way, and that’s just selfish. If you’re unhappy in your marriage, discuss it with your partner and address it.
When we age, our bodies begin to change, and we start to feel insecure about our bodies. When two people are married for a long time; they become so used to see each other that they can forget to compliment him or her on their looks. Meanwhile, your partner may become secretly worried that you will find him or her attractive because of their bald spot, muffin-top or if they noticed their new wrinkles and so on. This will become an issue when your spouse encounters someone new, and he or she compliments them about their physical looks. These swift affirmations can have a significant impact on your partner, and they might have started having an affair with this new person who finds him or her desirable again.
Marriage is hard work if you want it t last forever. Being monogamous isn’t easy, and you’ll need to handle it, no matter what. These four sneaky challenges can harm and even end a healthy marriage, so address these issues if you see them if you want you a long-lasting marriage.