When it comes to relationships, there are many myths regarding sex and infidelity that make no sense at all. Surprisingly, unsatisfying sex, infidelity or money issues aren’t the primary reasons couples seek relationship counseling or break up. It’s communication and the lack of or total breakdown of it. In other words, improving your communication techniques, learning how to make it effective and communicating your thoughts and feelings with your partner is the best thing you can do for your relationship.
Here are the four most common relationship myths about marriage, sex, and infidelity that make no sense:
1. Infidelity is the main reason couples break up.
According to experts, communication issues are the primary reason why couples have decided to end their relationship. The other main reason for couples to split is a loss of intimacy and infidelity. Most people may be surprised to find that cheating is the last reason for couples to end their relationships, but it’s true. The majority of problems and conflicts in the relationships are because of lack of communication. If not addressed soon, it will eventually lead to the destruction of the relationship or marriage.
2. It's the husband who doesn’t listen.
If you think that the lack of communication is creating most of the problems in your relationship, then you aren’t alone. Almost 72% of therapists report that communication problems are the primary reason couples seek counseling or therapy. The other reason is a lack of emotional intimacy in the relationship. Most people blame men for the communication issues in the relationship, as they don’t listen to their girlfriends or wives. But this is not true. Women, in general, think that they can communicate better than their boyfriends or husbands. The reality is most ladies won’t say what they really want to say, fearing that their spouses will run away or maybe they will lose interest.
3. Couples always fight about sex and money.
Wrong. Various surveys have shown that the number one reason couples fight is that one or both parties don’t value or respect each other. They argue because they don’t make one another feel important. Communication problems come in second, followed by money problems in third, and sex issues in fourth. So, it's clear to see that couples don’t always fight over sex and money. Sure, sex and money problems are the symptoms of a dysfunctional relationship, and they happen because there is a lack of clear communication. So, if you want a healthy, long-lasting relationship make your partner feel valued and important.
4. Infidelity always ends in a divorce or breakup.
We can all agree that getting over infidelity is the most difficult thing for a couple to go through. Couples can cope with infidelity if they are willing. Here lies the truth about infidelity: Let’s remind you folks you again, a lack of communication is the main cause why relationships end, not infidelity. Couples cheat on their partner because there is lack of communication or intimacy in the relationship. We can tell that infidelity is a symptom of these issues.