If you are looking for a relationship, you've probably heard that “I love you” is the hardest thing to say in a relationship…but it isn’t! So what is? If you still haven't guessed it, “I'm sorry” is actually the hardest thing to say in a relationship. What’s the reason behind this? Why is it so hard to tell someone that you are genuinely sorry?
Admitting that you were wrong in your relationship or marriage takes a lot of emotional strength. All relationships have highs and lows. The most important thing to do when you have made a mistake in your relationship is to learn how to repair it. It’s also necessary that when your partner gives you a sincere, heartfelt apology, that you receive it. Say, “I am sorry” even if the damage you created is minuscule. If you don’t, this can lead to all kinds of other problems.
Below are four things you need to do to truly mean it when you say, “I'm sorry”:
1. You must accept responsibility.
Sure, you feel hurt. This can affect your perception of the situation. Start by saying, “I am truly sorry, I didn’t mean to say it,” or “I’m sorry I hurt you.” You can tell your spouse that you're sorry in many ways, but what’s important is that it should feel sincere. This will make your wife think that you are taking responsibility for your part in the argument or conflict.
2. Let it go.
Letting go doesn’t mean that you act as nothing has happened. In most relationships, people get caught up in the argument, and they focus mainly on winning. They hardly concentrate on the relationship or resolve the problem which has created the conflict in the first place. Remember that you don’t have to be exactly like your partner. You don’t need whatever the issue is to divide the both of you in the relationship. Holding on to this argument and resenting your partner will only make you miserable.
3. Make a promise that this thing won’t happen again.
This step is important as it lets your partner know you are determined to change the behavior. Give them a note or a list with the five most important things or reasons they are important to you. For example, if you think that you are in a bad mood because you are having less sleep, let your beloved know that you will make sleep a priority. It’s also important that you mean it and follow through with it. Otherwise, you are just wasting your time.
4. Touch, hug, and kiss again and again.
Touch, hug, and kiss! Couples can't stay mad if they touch each other. It's even better if you hug and kiss them! Touch has the power to narrow the gap and even the toughest of emotional differences. If you have a fight or argument with your significant other, hold them, and rub up against your partner’s back. Sit close to them or cuddle them on the couch. Go out for a walk, hold their hand. Touching each other will really help you connect with your partner at a much deeper level. It will also make sex more enjoyable than before.