When you’re in a new relationship, bringing up some topics can be quite intimidating. But, you need to brave, bold and confident to have a deep conversation about these tough subjects with your significant other, if you want your relationship to be happy and successful down the road.
Here are five questions you need to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend right now:
Where is our relationship heading? When you’re in a new relationship, some inevitable questions must be asked. Ask your partner where is this relationship heading? Are we in an exclusive relationship? If not, why aren’t we? At first, these questions might make you intimidated, but they’re important because the answers will tell where you and your girlfriend or boyfriend stand at this point in the relationship. If both of you share the same relationship goals, that’s great. If not, then it’s time that you access the status of your relationship and decide whether it has a future or not.
Do you want to get married?
The truth is you need to ask this question yourself first. Are you emotionally prepared to settle down with the man or the woman you’re dating? If yes, then you need to touch on the subject with your girlfriend or boyfriend. Access if they’re willing to be in a long-term relationship with you shortly. We understand you should ask this question on the few dates, but it’s okay to discuss this crucial topic after a certain level of physical and emotional intimacy has been established with a partner. After all, you don’t want to waste your love and energy on someone who no interest to get married.
Do you talk about kids?
First, ask yourself if you feel ready about having a family of your own. Then, you’ll need to discuss with your partner what they think about the topic. If your family values are aligned with him or her, congrats! You’re close to having a family of your own and happy in your relationship. However, if one partner wants kids and the other don’t want any that might be considered a deal-breaker. Its better you end things and move on.
Are you saving for the future?
It’s imperative that you have a discussion about you and your partner’s finances early on in the s relationship. As some of the biggest tensions in relationships involve money, the sooner you talk about it with your boyfriend or girlfriend, the better. Check if you and your partner have any outstanding debts? Are you both responsible with your spending? Do you both have any retirement plans, etc.?
Where do you see yourself in 5/10/15years?
When you’re in an exclusive relationship with someone new, it’s necessary that you communicate about long-term goals, plans, aspirations and dreams with your partner. For instance, if you come to know that your partner is looking to quit his or her job, to travel around the world or start a cooking school, – and how all these changes and plans will affect your relationship, that’s an important piece of information you need to know ASAP. By making it clear about your vision of the future, you’re providing your significant other with an opportunity to decide whether they’re a good match for you or not.