Being friends with a woman who you feel attracted to is tricky. Sometimes you can’t tell whether you're just a friend or something more. You try to play it cool when you go on a date with her. You don't want to overstep any boundaries or have her thinking you're clingy.
You start off by highlighting your common interests. You find that you both like baseball or football. You both like art fairs and are both food fanatics. You don’t steer away from those familiar topics because they are safe, fun and easy to talk about. When the date ends, you go “Dutch,” hug each other and say goodbye. You feel like you had a great time and a nice date, not as a potential girlfriend, but as a friend. It sucks! Where is the attraction? Where is the romance? Did your wooing fail you? Well, it might be that she has pushed you into the friend zone! It’s sad and frustrating.
So, how do you do better? Below are some of the mistakes guys make while dating that will land them in the friend zone:
1. You went “Dutch.”
Before going on a date, ask yourself whether you are seeking a business partner, a friend, a colleague, or a relationship partner. If you are paying for the dinner, she will assume that you are looking for a relationship. If you decide to go “dutch” and split the cost of the date, you send the immediate signal that you're not interested in a romantic relationship.
2. You keep the conversation fun.
Obviously you want to have fun on the date, but you want her to see that you're not just looking for a good time. If you are thinking about having passionate sex with her, then you need to make an extra effort by being yourself and who you really are as a person. You need to get real and raw. That’s the only way you can stand out and establish a genuine emotional connection with her.
3. You don’t flirt!
Flirting is the first thing you should master or at least know a thing or two about before looking for a date. But, you don’t have to flirt on a grand scale to woo your woman. Good flirting is all about the little things. It’s the secret smiles, the side glances, the gentle touches, and the flirtatious yet sexy, mischievous comments or compliments that have the best results.
4. You think you are sarcastic, but in fact, you are acting like a jerk.
There is nothing wrong with being witty and showing your sense of humor. In fact, when it comes to flirting, it can be incredibly sexy and attractive. But there is a difference between being sarcastic and being a jerk, and most guys get confused about it. So, beware of comments that are just plain rude, not funny.
5. You act like a friend.
She’s your date, not a friend. If you are too easygoing, take her to a sports bars, don’t compliment her looks, and go Dutch, she will think that you are treating her like a friend. People do these things when they are friends with each other. It is okay to share the same interests with your date, but you need to keep in mind that you are looking for a girlfriend, not a drinking buddy.