Ah, dating. We all know that first dates can be nerve-wracking, but dating is awesome, too. First dates are exciting experiences. You get to meet the man or the woman of your dreams and you could be life partners forever. That should make you pretty excited, right? Sure, they could also wind up being a total dud, but that’s the worst case scenario. You still get to have free dinner or drinks. So you've got nothing to lose.
For some men and women, second dates are more nerve-wracking than the first dates. This might sound weird, but it happens. For most, the second date can feel like everything is on the line! It’s mostly during the second date that people looking for something serious scour the internet and bookstores for dating or relationship tips. On second dates, you have established that you like each other just enough to see each other for the second time. So, what can happen if you show up for the date and something goes wrong? What if your expectation for the second date isn’t what you expected? Second dates are when you try to figure out whether you have any chemistry with the other person, and whether the chemistry you felt on the first date was real or not.
If you want to make the second date go well, here is a list of things you need to do to ace the second date and start a real relationship:
- Breathe, relax and chill. Sure, we all get those butterflies in our stomach and feel nervous, but we can assure you that if you go to the date with expectations to enjoy yourself, things will be much easier, rather than if you are going to hunt for a girlfriend. So have fun and be yourself.
- Don’t ask your date about what their parents are like. You might think that you’re making small talk, but she will think that you are planning a wedding. Some people are not close to their families. Just because you are talking with your parents every day, don’t assume your date does this too.
- Never ask your date how many men she has dated or slept with. You may think it’s logical to ask this question, but if you're looking for something long term and not a one-night stand, don’t ask her this question.
- Remember that you are on a date, not a job interview. So don’t ask your date where she would like to see herself in ten years. Men and women go on dates to get to know each other and questions like this one will only make her feel uncomfortable.
- When you are on a date with someone new, they've just started to get to know you. They can’t tell if they like you or not. So, don’t ask if she likes you or not. We are aware this is on your mind and who knows? She might like you. It's normal and natural to feel that on a second date. But, it’s better if you don’t ask about this as it might make you look needy and desperate. You will know if she likes you or not when she accepts to go on a third date.