What happens when you love someone, but for some reason, you aren’t feeling that love again? What, can you do to bring back that ‘in love’ feeling again? Falling in love might happen by accident, but you need to nurture that love to keep it from fizzling out.
Here some suggestions about how to build that love up:
Stop With The Expecting And Start Appreciating
Sometimes your boyfriend will let you down. It’s painful, but the main thing is not to take it personally. Rather make it about your lover and them doing their best. Stop with the nagging. No one likes to be nagged. It makes their partners think that the other person is desperate and begging for love and appreciation. Your significant didn't feel desirable and appreciated when you keep nagging them for love and attention. Instead, it only creates more distance. Therefore, begin acknowledging all the reasons you keep up and love your partner. Start appreciating rather than expecting.
Have Boundaries; Take Responsibility For Your Things
Nobody wants to deal with broken promises and bad behavior. But, if your partner keeps violating their promises or doing things that hurt you, it’s time that you establish some healthy boundaries and honor. Don’t think if they like it or not. You need to make clear what’s okay and what’s not, and stick to that agreement no matter what. Take full care of yourself and ensure that your needs are fully required. Remember your wants and needs are your responsibility. If you do this, you will have more energy loving your partner and yourself.
Get Involved In Activities You Like Or Love To Do
It’s much easier to love someone and feel attracted to them when you’re active, sexy, and full of life. Focusing on your needs takes the pressure off from your lover leaving with a lot of extra energy to spend. It’s been reported that couples who are unhealthy, unloving relationships, were not free of responsibility, and they made that choice to stay in that kind of relationship. Taking care of yourself and loving yourself appears to bridge that gap regarding what you want, what you need, and what is not okay.
Jot Down All The Nice Things You Love About Your Partner
If you want to be in love with him all over again, then nothing gets the ball rolling more than focusing on what’s surprising about your boyfriend, and what is sexy or attractive about them. But, if you want to keep all those all those love hormones flowing, then stay focused only on all the right points.
Stop Whining To Your Friends
Bitching is unhealthy and undermines your relationship. We aren’t perfect, and if your lover is that worse of a person and you’re still in a relationship with him, then you need some professional help. The main issue here is we complain about things the more we feel reinforced about this stuff we were complaining about. When we talk about our problems with our friends, they will blindly agree with you, and rarely will they give a reasonable or unbiased opinion because they love you. No one is perfect but look for someone with whom you can work with and bring the best in you.
If you’re looking for a relationship, remember relationships are messy. You don’t need fairy tales to feel loved or to be in love with someone, but healthy, conscious actions and determination.