Are you having less sex with your partner than ever before? Do you think that you’re in a sexless marriage or relationship? Are you wondering how to bring the passion back into the relationship? Does it feel like forever since you’ve been physically intimate with your significant other? Before concluding that your relationship is sexless or sex-starved, let’s look at how often is normal.
Some of you might think hardly ever. Some say it’s maybe three times per week or more. Recent studies show that happily married couples normally have sex on average once per week. You might think that couples who make love more often are happier, but that’s not always the case. The reality is that having sex more frequently doesn’t necessarily translate into the greater well-being of the couple.
If you happen to be one of these unhappy couples who are having sex less than the usual, maybe these tips will be helpful:
1. Share household responsibilities and chores
Take it or leave it, your desire to have more sex with your wife will increase if you treat her as your partner. Women don’t like to be physically intimate with their partners if feelings of anger and resentment have seeped into the relationship. Normally this happens when the division of labor and responsibilities is unequal. This is especially noticeable when there are kids, and women tend to be more responsible for the house and kids. That’s not a sexy move.
2. Be relaxed and be present
This means planning a date night to be alone with your spouse without any distractions like smartphones or kids. Go for a walk or schedule a dinner date. Shut off your phones or leave them at your house. Remember to be romantic and recall how you felt dating your partner when you met her for the first time.
3. Do something unusual
There has been research conducted on the brain that showed that novelty or doing something unusual produces erotic interest and excitement. So bring back the red-hot excitement and eroticism in your marriage by having intercourse in a different room or position, or having sex while leaving the lights on, and so on. Consider taking a vacation. Many couples admitted that they had some of the craziest and best sex in their hotel rooms. So, introduce something out of the ordinary into your sexual play.
4. Consider the differences in libido
Men and women have their own preferences when it comes to sex. If your spouse craves sex more than you, then have sex on your schedule. Then, set the mood. Take a warm shower or bath. Light up some scented candles, and play some sexy and soft music. Drink some wine if you want to relax. The desire for sex will arouse you, so let your partner make you feel aroused
5. Evaluate what’s right for you.
If you’re married or in a relationship for a while, it’s necessary for you to talk to your partner about your sexual desires and needs. Spend some time evaluating each other's opinions and only do what works best for the two of you. Make sure neither of you feels sex-starved.