Getting back together with an ex is a pretty common thing. Maybe you broke up hastily or for the wrong reasons. Maybe you realize that you're miserable without them. There are definitely good reasons to get back with an ex, but there are more bad ones. Most breakups should stay permanent. If you're wondering whether you should get back with your ex or not, consider your reasoning. To help you out, we've got six awful reasons to get back with an ex.
1. You're afraid of starting over with someone new.
Change can be scary; we understand. With that said, sometimes change is for the best. Don't let the fear of starting over in a new relationship scare you right back into the arms of your toxic ex. Sure, starting all over again can be hard, but it can also be exciting! Starting over with someone new could lead to a happy, long-lasting relationship.
2. You don't think you can do any better.
One of the worst reasons to get back with an ex is insecurity. You may feel like they were the best you could ever get, but this isn't the case. Surely you've heard that “there's plenty of other fish in the sea”, and a lot of those fish are better than the one you had! If you're settling for your ex because you don't think you can do better, you're settling for a life of unhappiness.
3. “They've changed.”
We've all heard this one before. Your ex says that they've “changed”. How much can someone change, really? People can only change so much. Sure, your ex may be able to change some small things that led to your breakup. However, if it was bigger issues, like abuse of infidelity, those things cannot be changed.
4. The sex was great.
This is certainly one of the stupider reasons to get back with an ex. So the sex was great. Maybe it was the best sex of your life. So what? If the sex was great but everything else in the relationship was bad, there's no reason to go back. You can have great sex with a new partner, and if not, sex isn't everything, right? (Okay, we know it's important, but it's not everything.)
5. Your friends think you should.
If you and your ex have mutual friends, they may urge you to get back together. Maybe the breakup has made it awkward for them to hang out with the two of you. Or maybe they just think you broke up for the wrong reasons. Either way, the opinions of your friends shouldn't make you get back with your ex.
6. You have memories together.
For many people this is one of the main reasons to get back with an ex. They share a history together and they've made so many memories together. We want to tell you: this is not a good reason! We understand you have memories with this person. Your breakup doesn't erase those memories. You can hold onto the memories without holding onto the person.