The first dates are always hard to read. Unless you specifically tell your date that, ‘you like him or her.' But, most men and women are looking for subtle and subconscious cues from their dates that tell them whether they’re interested in them or not. Sometimes, you may be sending the wrong signs that will prevent you from having a second date with him or her. So, the next time you go on a date, make sure that you don’t make these subtle and subconscious mistakes.
1. Rigid body language
When creating a positive impression with someone new, your body language is 50 percent responsible for it. So, for making a connection with someone new, be sure to have an open and inviting body language. Looking at your date’s face when you’re talking to them, and make sure your body is leaned towards him or her. It shows that you’re listening to them and interested in him or her. Also, don’t keep your arms closed or folded for too long.
2. Monotone voice
The next thing that plays a crucial role in making a connection with a potential date is the tone of your voice. Adding high and low periods to your conversation makes you sound more interesting and engaged. It means adding variety to your voice and matching with your date’s voice while conversing will make them feel more approachable and at ease.
3. Answering questions in brief
It’s in the details connections are made. When you give one word or short answers to questions, it gives off the impression that you’re not interested. We understand most people don’t like to give or share details about their life, but it’s necessary on dates. Practice answering general dating questions with your friends, coworkers or family members until you feel comfortable.
4. Using absolutes
It’s unwise to use words like “don’t”, “can’t”, “nope”, while having a conversation with your date, mainly when talking about various events in your life, you life goals, etc. Some of these words convey that you aren’t ready to be or commit in a relationship. You might not be conscious of these words, but trust us, these words may be jeopardizing your dates.
5. Not Smiling
We know most of us aren’t in the mood to keep smiling every time we see someone new. But, guess what, if you don’t smile and do nothing to erase that miserable demeanor off your face, you’ll have a hard time having dates. So, keep on smiling. Smiling is inviting. If you can’t smile when it is needed, think of a funny thing that will make you laugh.
6. Setting a negative vibe
You’re bitter because you’ve been dating for a while and failed to find a partner. You seem to lose your confidence while searching for the right person, and your body language and voice shows that in your recent dates. It will lose your chances of finding a date even more. Therefore, self-bashing and complaining about all the dates, including bad dates with new people. Quit your negative attitude and listen what your dates say to you and what you say to yourself.
Finding someone new and right for you isn’t simple, but if you follow the advice above, dating someone new and securing a second date with them will be pretty easy.