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Making the Transition: 5 Reasons To Choose Online Dating

Unless you live under a rock, you've heard endless things about online dating. Actually, you've probably heard about online dating even if you're living under a rock. It's become the most popular way to meet people and it seems like everyone is choosing to use online dating rather than the old standby. If you're still hesitant about entering the online dating scene, we've got five great reasons to choose online dating. Check them out here:

1. Everyone Is Doing It

We know what your mom told you. “If everyone jumped off a bridge, does that mean you would jump off one too?” We want to reassure you that online dating is nothing like jumping off a bridge. Everyone is using online dating and so should you. It's insanely popular and there are literally billions of people interacting through online dating sites. It has become a staple of our modern society, and by opting out of it you're just staying stuck in the past.

2. It's Affordable

One of the best reasons to choose online dating is because it's affordable. You don't have to spend money going out to clubs or events. While sites like eHarmony and cost money to sign up, many dating apps like Tinder and Bumble are completely free. You can browse and meet people online at little to no cost, whereas real-life dating gets expensive!

3. It's Convenient

The biggest perk of online dating is that it's convenient. You don't have to get all dolled-up and go mingle with strangers in crowded places. You can browse potential partners from the comfort of their own home. You can also narrow your selection down to exactly who you are interested in and completely bypass being annoyed by unwanted suitors.

4. It's Efficient

Another perk to online dating is that it's efficient. You can do it whenever you have time. You can browse only people in your immediate area. You can narrow your selection down to people in your desired age range. You can basically choose your perfect partner in no time, whereas it would take you forever (if ever at all) to find your perfect partner in person.

5. There Are Endless Options

Like we said earlier, everyone is using online dating! That means there are endless options. If you can't find someone you like one night, you can literally go back on the next day and browse a whole new selection of potential partners. You can meet 100 people online in no time, when it would take you forever to do that in person!

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Coping Mechanisms: 4 Ways To Deal With Depression In A Relationship

Depression is a serious condition that affects millions of people and makes everyday life hard to navigate. Depression can make things like relationships especially difficult, because it puts excess strain on both people involved. Whether you are suffering from depression or your partner is suffering from depression, your relationship needs special care and attention. The following are four ways to deal with depression in a relationship:

1. Take Care Of Yourself

When struggling with any condition – mental or physical – the most important thing is to take care of yourself. You need to take the best care of yourself that you can. This will help you to feel your best and will give your relationship the best chance to succeed. This means being in tune with yourself and knowing when you need to rest or take time to yourself. If you're going through an especially rough time, you need to make your self-care a priority.

2. Be Honest and Open With Your Partner

One of the most effective ways to deal with depression in a relationship is to always be honest and open with your partner. Tell your partner how you are feeling and make sure that you express yourself freely. If you keep your emotions bottled up, it will only hurt you both in the long run. You need to let your partner know when you are having a hard time. You also need to let your partner know if they are doing something that is damaging to your emotional well-being.

3. Have A Constructive Hobby

Dealing with depression in a relationship can be extremely stressful and tiring. It may get to a point where you want to take your frustrations out on your partner or vice versa. It is helpful if you both have separate, constructive hobbies to re-focus your energies. Putting your time and energy into a hobby will help you to not react so strongly and emotionally when having difficulties in your relationship.

4. Seek Help If Needed

It is important that people with depression seek professional help when needed. Depression can be unpredictable and unmanageable at times. When it feels like things are too much to handle, you need to seek help from a professional. It is also important that your partner seek help if they are having difficulty in the relationship. You may want to go to couple's counseling, if you feel that you would both benefit from professional help.

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Meet the Parents: 6 Pieces Of Advice When Meeting Your Partner’s Parents

Is there anything more stressful in a new relationship than meeting your partner's parents? You stress out over what to say, what to wear, etc. You're worried about whether or not they'll approve of you. Listen – this is something that has made all of us nervous at some point. Let us give you some pieces of advice for meeting your partner's parents!

1. Do Your Homework

A fortunate thing about the modern age we live in is that we have social media. Social media is a huge advantage when it comes to things like meeting your partner's parents because it allows you to do some research. Before meeting the parents, look them up online. Try to get an idea of who they are. This will give you some insight into things they like, things they don't like, etc. It will help you to know what topics to steer clear of. For instance, if their Facebook is full of political posts that you disagree with, you know not to bring up politics.

2. Have Your Partner Give Them a Heads-Up

Most parents do not like being surprised by their child's significant other. Whether it be a family dinner or formal event, if you show up on your partner's arm and their parents had no idea you were coming, you're off to a bad start. Make sure your partner has told their parents that you will be coming to meet them. This puts both parties on level playing ground, giving them appropriate time to prepare as well as you.

3. Dress Modestly

This one should go without saying, but some people need a reminder: dress nicely when meeting your partner's parents! Do not dress like a slob. Do not dress provocatively. Do not wear your favorite t-shirt that has a cartoon character on it. All of these things will look poorly to the people who may one day be your in-laws. You want to make a good impression here!

4. Remember Your Manners

We're not little kids anymore, so we really shouldn't have to remind you to use your manners when meeting new people! It is especially important to use your manners when meeting your partner's parents. If you're rude or inconsiderate, they'll remember it forever. Think of this like you would a job interview. Make sure you are extra courteous and respectful so that these people will want you around in the future.

5. Avoid TMI

While you want to tell your partner's parents about yourself, you don't want to tell them too much. Remember that you're trying to look good, so this is not the time to air your dirty laundry. They don't need to know about all your previous failed relationships. They don't need to know about your family's short-comings, like Aunt Mary's drinking problem or Grandpa Fred's criminal history. If it doesn't make you look good, keep it to yourself.

6. Be Confident

Most importantly, be confident when meeting your partner's parents. Remember that they're people, just like you. They're probably nervous, just like you. All that they want is someone good in their child's life, so they might interrogate you and try to shake you, but don't let it get you down. You want them to see that you are a confident person who will only be a positive part of their family.

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Facing Your Fears: 4 Dating Tips For People With Social Anxiety

Dating can be incredibly stressful for anyone. Now imagine how stressful it is if you have social anxiety! People with social anxiety get incredibly nervous and anxious in certain social situations, which makes things like dating very difficult. Things that may seem easy to the average person can seem like a daunting task to them when it comes to dating. With that said, you cannot let social anxiety keep you from dating. To help out, we've got four great dating tips for people with social anxiety. Check them out here:

1. Acknowledge the Problem

Denial is no way to approach a problem. If you struggle with social anxiety, you need to acknowledge it. This doesn't mean you have to disclose it to any potential partners right away. It just means that you have to acknowledge it to yourself. Recognize that because of your anxiety, you're going to feel uncomfortable in certain social situations. This will help you figure out how to address your feelings.

2. Don't Avoid Dating

Perhaps the most important dating tip for social anxiety is to actually date! You may feel like it's too scary to start dating, but you cannot let this stop you from going out. Avoidance is a symptom of social anxiety and it doesn't help the situation. It will only make your anxiety even worse. You have to confront your anxiety head-on and jump right in to the dating scene!

3. Don't Be Afraid To Take Small Risks

Dating is going to involve certain risks. There will be times you feel uncomfortable. Now, we are not suggesting you do anything that puts yourself in danger. If you feel unsafe with someone or in a certain situation, you should leave it. We're talking about confronting minor discomforts. For instance, some people feel uncomfortable eating around potential partners. This is an anxiety issue that needs to be conquered! Consider this a “small risk” that you can tackle. The more you face certain discomforts, the less they'll be able to affect you.

4. Be Prepared For Failure

It sounds harsh, but this is reality. All of us experience failure and rejection when it comes to dating. While most of us can bounce back from it smoothly, people with social anxiety have a harder time. You may feel like you're done with dating after one failure, but you shouldn't be! Dating is full of up's and down's for everyone, and this needs to be realized. Once you can accept that dating is going to involve some failures and rejections, you'll be prepared to conquer whatever comes your way.

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Long-Lasting Love: 5 Habits of Happy Couples

While so many of us struggle to make our relationships work, there are tons of couples out there who have been together forever. These couples have made it all work and always seem happy! So what is their secret? We've got five habits of happy couples that lead to long-lasting relationships. Check them out here:

1. Making Time For One Another

One of the most important habits of happy couples is making time for one another. It's easy to get caught up in things like work or school and neglect your partner. Eventually, this will lead to the breakdown of your relationship. Happy couples make it a priority to set aside time for their partner. It doesn't need to be time for a week-long vacation. It can just be designating one night each month to a “date night” with your partner, where you don't let the rest of life get in the way.

2. Showing Appreciation

A lot of relationships fall apart because one or both partners stop showing the other that they appreciate them. If your partner is taking care of chores around the house or paying a lot of the bills, show them that you appreciate what they do. If your partner has dinner ready for you when you get home from work, let them know how much that means to you. Don't let your partner think that you're taking them for granted or they'll be gone before you know it.

3. Picking Their Battles

Another habit of happy couples is knowing which battles to fight and which battles to let go. Happy couples do not fight over every little thing. They learn to let the little things go and move on. Happy couples know when something is important enough to bring it up for debate. If you choose to fight over every single little thing, your relationship will become miserable. You need to know which battles to fight and which to let go of.

4. Sharing Responsibilities

The happiest couples know that responsibilities need to be shared. You cannot let your partner do all the work while you sit back and reap all the benefits. Both partners should be working hard to keep the relationship afloat. Both partners should contribute to things like house work and paying bills. If one partner does everything for the other, they're going to become resentful and want to give up on the relationship.

5. Giving Each Other Space

One of the major habits of happy couples is giving each other space. You cannot smother your partner and spend every moment with them. This will only drive them away. You need to know when to give your partner space. Let them have a monthly night out with their friends. If they have to spend their entire lives with you, they'll eventually get bored with you and want to leave.

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Forever Alone: 5 Reasons You Don’t Have A Girlfriend

Are you having trouble wooing a woman? Do you feel like you're doing everything right, but you're still alone? There are some things that absolutely repel a woman and you might not be aware that you're doing those things! From personal hygiene habits to annoying conversation quirks, we've got five reasons you don't have a girlfriend:

1. You Talk About Yourself Too Much

If you talk about yourself all the time, it may be one of the reasons you don't have a girlfriend. No one wants to be with a narcissist. If all you do is brag about your accomplishments, your job, your car, or whatever else, she's going to stay far, far away from you.

2. You Have Bad Personal Hygiene

Perhaps the biggest turn off to women is bad personal hygiene. If you smell bad, you're not going to get a girlfriend. If your breath is awful because you don't brush your teeth, you're not going to get a girlfriend. If your hair has small animals living in it, you're not going to get a girlfriend. If your….okay, you catch our drift.

3. You Laugh At Your Own Jokes

Girls love a funny guy, but they don't love a guy who thinks he's funny when he's not. Laughing at your own jokes immediately kills any potential to be funny, Instead, be humble when joking. Let her laugh at your jokes instead of you laughing to reaffirm your humor.

4. Your Wardrobe Is All Wrong

Style is important to a lot of women. A man who dresses sloppy is a huge turn-off for many women. You need to make sure your clothes are clean, fitted, and free of holes or stains. Otherwise she'll just think you're a slob.

5. You're A Bad Tipper

This may seem like something small and trivial, but it's really not. There are few things less attractive than a person who tips poorly. If you're a bad tipper, consider it one of the reasons you don't have a girlfriend. Women do not want to be with a man who is either inconsiderate or cheap…or both. So the next time you go out to eat, leave a good tip!

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Just A Friend: 5 Great Tips For Escaping the Friend Zone

It's a common phenomenon that many men have experienced: being in the friend zone. The “friend zone” refers to a girl thinking of you only as a friend when you actually want to be in a relationship with her. For some guys there is no hope of ever getting out of the friend zone. Women have no obligation to be more than your friend and honestly, you should be glad to have them as a friend! However, for others, there may be a chance for a potential romance with a girl who once thought of you as “just a friend”. In these instances, you'll have to put some work in. Check out five great tips for escaping the friend zone:

1. Acknowledge That You Have Been Friend Zoned

The first step to escaping the friend zone is acknowledging that you're in the friend zone. It may be hard to do this, since many men tend to be in denial about it. You need to recognize that you have, in fact, been put in the friend zone and you need to be okay with this. Yes, you need to be okay with this. You don't want to force a woman to be with you. You want her to actually want to be with you. So you need to realize that at this point in time, she doesn't want to be with you. From there, you can move forward.

2. Work On Self-Improvement

The next step in escaping the friend zone is to start working on yourself. There are obviously some reasons this girl does not want to be with you. They may be physical, like your haircut or your physique. They may be personality traits that turn her off. Either way, you need to work on improving yourself so that you have a better chance with her.

3. Be A Good Friend To Her

Now, we shouldn't have to tell you to be a good friend to someone. This girl is your friend, and you should already be a good friend to her whether it's going to end in romance or not. Now, with that said, being a great friend does improve your chances of this friendship turning into romance. Show her that you can be loyal and compassionate as a friend, and she might realize that you can be loyal and compassionate as a boyfriend.

4. Hang Out With Your Other Friends

Another step for escaping the friend zone is by spending time with your other friends. Don't obsess over this girl or smother her. That will only ruin your chances of ever having a relationship with her. Show her that you have a life other than her and that you do enjoy spending time with other people. This also gives her the space to spend time with her other friends.

5. Improve Your Flirting Techniques

Sometimes a guy gets friend zoned due to poor communication and bad flirting skills. This means the girl honestly doesn't know that he wants to be more than friends! If she doesn't know that you like her, it's unlikely you'll ever progress to more than a friendship. You have to be more obvious when flirting with her so that she knows you're interested in something more.

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Fake Identities: 4 Major Signs You’re Talking To A Catfish

By now most of us have seen the MTV show Catfish, but if you haven't, we'll give you the basic idea of what “catfishing” is. A “catfish” refers to a person you meet online who pretends to be someone they are not. Catfishes go to great lengths to take on another identity. They steal other people's photos and pass them off as photos of themselves. They make up fake stories about their lives and fake names. Many people fall victim to being catfished on the internet, so we're giving you four major signs that the person you met online is actually a catfish:

1. They Won't Talk On the Phone

If you've been talking to someone online for awhile, you'll eventually want to take it to the phone instead! If they refuse to talk to you on the phone, they're probably a catfish. They may be avoiding the verbal conversation because they're not the gender or age they claimed to be, and they don't want you to find out by hearing their voice.

2. They Never Upload New Pictures

If the person you're talking to only has a handful of pictures on their social media and they never upload any new ones, they might be a catfish. (Or they're just not into selfies….) Another thing to look out for is if they have no pictures with other people in them. Catfishes often steal other people's pictures, but very rarely take ones that have others in them.

3. They Refuse to Video Chat

This is a major sign you're talking to a catfish. We live in a society where most people have the modern technology to video chat through a webcam or Facetime. If the person you're dealing with won't video chat with you, they're either freakishly shy or a total catfish.

4. They Won't Meet You In Person

This is the indisputable proof that you're talking to a catfish. If the person you've been talking to online refuses to meet with you in person, they're a catfish. The only reasonable excuse to not meet in person is if they live very, very far away and do not have the resources to travel. Otherwise, there's a reason they don't want to meet you in person. So if you find that they keep making excuses to not meet you, they're probably a catfish.

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Swiping Guidelines: 6 Tinder Rules To Always Follow

Tinder has become the pinnacle of online dating, and for good reason! You may have your concerns about Tinder, but you can't say it's not convenient. It uses GPS to show you the people who are in your immediate area. You can easily dismiss people that you're not interested in by swiping them away. Plus, there are no unsolicited messages from creeps! You can only get messages from users that you match with. So I think we can safely agree that Tinder is a great dating app. With that said, there are some guidelines you need to follow when using it. These tips will help you use the app as efficiently (and safely) as possible! Check out six Tinder rules you should always follow:

1. Don't Be Over-the-Top With Your Expectations

There's no bigger turn off than seeing a Tinder profile where the person lists off their expectations for a potential partner. It's totally okay to mention one or two things you're looking for, but if you've got a laundry list of what you do and do not want, you're gonna get a firm left swipe.

2. Avoid Using Tinder on the Weekend

Though you're probably most tempted to use Tinder on the weekend, don't. The weekend is the worst time to use a dating app. You're more likely to swipe right on all the wrong people. You're more likely to send desperate, ridiculous messages to your matches. It's just a bad idea all around.

3. Don't Give TMI

This is one of the major Tinder rules. Don't air your dirty laundry on your profile. Don't launch into a super personal story when a match messages you. Don't post ultra revealing pictures of yourself. Keep things simple. If you bring all the skeletons out of your closet on Tinder, you're going to scare away all your potential partners.

4. Try Not to Make It All About Yourself

It's important to remember not to make everything about yourself on Tinder. If your entire profile is just you listing off your accomplishments and positive attributes, you're going to come off as a narcissist. If a match messages you. make sure you ask them questions about themselves rather than just talking about yourself.

5. Be Aware That Not Everyone Is Who They Claim To Be

This is one of the more serious Tinder rules. You have to remember that not everyone is who they claim to be. There are a lot of catfishes out there and you need to be prepared to encounter one of them. Many people use fake pictures, names, stories, etc.You may have to go the extra mile to make sure that someone is who they claim to be before you meet up with them in person.

6. Don't Take Things Personally

Finally, one of the best Tinder rules to follow is to not take things personally. You may match with someone, and once you talk to them find that it's not going to work. There may be days/weeks/months where you don't get many matches. It's important to not take these things to heart and remember that it's just online dating!

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