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35 Ways That Your Relationship Will Change When You Hit Middle-Age

You may not realize this but as you age, your relationship or marriage ages right along with you. As time goes on, your relationship changes in many ways – for better or worse. It's very unlikely that your relationship will look or feel exactly like it did when you were in your early 20's…and this is totally normal! You're not the same exact person that you were back then, so you can't expect your partner or your relationship to be either. Here are 35 ways that your relationship will change when you hit middle-age:

  1. You have more respect for your partner's career.
  2. You're able to tolerate their annoying quirks.
  3. Fights are way easier to get through.
  4. You've learned to put your relationship above all else.
  5. You love each other more than ever before.
  6. Taking care of your partner doesn't feel like a burden.
  7. You know how to give each other space.
  8. You've figured out how to really satisfy them sexually.
  9. “Sexy” means something very different than it used to.
  10. You can finally tolerate your in-laws.
  11. You're negotiating how to raise children.
  12. Other married or long-term couples become your best friends.
  13. You're seeing your friends go through divorces.
  14. You've experienced the death of your first pets together.
  15. You don't feel the need to do everything together.
  16. There is nothing that is left to the imagination anymore.
  17. You know what small things annoy your partner.
  18. You don't feel so bad about making compromises for your partner.
  19. The foundation of your relationship is stronger than ever.
  20. You realize that you don't have everything in common…and that it's okay.
  21. You may be seeing your children go off to college.
  22. You won't want sex as often as you used to.
  23. You'll enjoy doing more mundane things together.
  24. It's harder to surprise your partner.
  25. You can figure out your finances together.
  26. You can show your love in more subtle ways.
  27. Planning for old-age becomes necessary.
  28. You may be spending most of your time taking care of older family members.
  29. You'll have learned to appreciate the small things your partner does.
  30. You know how to divide household chores.
  31. You may have to see your partner through a mid-life crisis or vice versa.
  32. You've learned how to say “no” to your partner.
  33. Moving to somewhere quiet is suddenly appealing.
  34. You'll both become less physical attractive and you may or may not care.
  35. You love each other more than you ever have before.

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To Sext Or Not To Sext: When Is It Okay To Be Sexting Someone?

Here are two things you never thought you'd hear about in the same story: Jeff Bezos and sex. The Amazon CEO has been in the headlines non-stop after some racy text messages he exchanged with his current girlfriend became public in light of his recent divorce. While some people are writing them off as your averages “sexts” (sexy texts/sex texts…in case you've been living under a rock), but others are calling them creepy and embarrassing.

However you feel about Jeff Bezos and his sexting, it has to be acknowledged that sexting has become a staple in the modern dating world. Some people exchange them with their long-term partners. Some people exchange them with a casual fling. Some people even exchange them with someone they've never met. While sexting may be a huge part of modern romance and how two people well, get things going, we can't help but wonder if it's always a good idea to send a sext…

How do you know if you should send someone a sexy text message? Well, there are a few questions you should ask yourself before you hit “send.” First, do you trust this person? For many people, a being sexual is a very vulnerable thing. You are putting yourself out there in a way that you would not want everyone in the world to see. Whether it be dirty talk or a racy picture, you probably want your message to only be seen by the person you're sending it to. So can you trust that this person will not share whatever you send with other people?

The next question you should ask yourself is: Do I have anything to lose? If these are ever seen by anyone else, what impact could it have on my life? It may sound weird, but sexting can be putting certain aspects of your life at risk. For instance, some people have actually lost their jobs because of inappropriate texts that became public. If certain sexts are revealed, especially nude photographs, you can suffer severe consequences in terms of you job, family life, social life, and reputation in general.

So when is it okay to send a sext to someone? The answer is ultimately up to you, but if you're looking to us for advice, here's what we think: Sexting is safest when it is with a long-term partner or spouse. When you have been together for some time, you most likely trust one another enough to share these types of messages. It is very unlikely that your relationship is going to end and the other person is going to share your messages as some sort of revenge. This is, unfortunately, a phenomenon that happens often for people who have sexted someone in a short-lived or casual relationship. On the other hand, in a trusting partnership, sexting can be a fun way to add some excitement to your relationship.

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Red Flag Radar: 4 Major Signs Your Relationship Is In Trouble

Are you worried that your relationship is on the rocks? Sometimes it can be hard to tell if you're just going through a rough patch or if you're headed for a breakup. Check out these four major signs your relationship is in trouble:

1. You're Bored All the Time

While it's completely normal to feel bored at different points in your relationship, it's a bad sign if you're bored all of the time. Do you find that you never have any fun with your partner? Do you only enjoy the company of friends, family or co-workers? If so, this is a red flag for your relationship. You shouldn't feel bored all the time when you're with your partner. You should still find enjoyment in each other's company and be able to have fun together. Constant boredom could be a sign that the relationship has run its course.

2. You Rarely (Or Never) Have Sex Anymore

The longer a relationship lasts, the more likely you are to experience ruts in your sex life. This totally expected. However, if you cannot come out of that rut, you may have a problem. If you've gone for a very long period of time without having sex, it could be that you and your partner are not feeling the same passion you once felt for one another…which means the relationship could be headed for its end. Healthy couples are able to re-ignite that spark and get their sex life back on track. If you're having trouble doing that, things aren't looking good.

3. You Don't Celebrate Anniversaries Or Milestones Together

Now, don't get us wrong here. You don't have to celebrate every single anniversary in some big, extravagant way for the rest of your lives. With that said, if you find that neither one of you cares to acknowledge your anniversary (or just plain forgets it every year) it could mean that you no longer feel that love and attachment you once felt for your partner. You no longer value the meaning behind your anniversary and you no longer feel the desire to celebrate the milestones you've reached together. This could be the beginning of the end.

4. You Feel Resentment Towards Your Partner

One of the biggest signs that your relationship is in trouble is feeling resentment towards your partner. Your partner is the person in your life that you should always feel love and compassion for, not anger and resentment. Do you find yourself blaming them for everything? You may feel that being with your partner has ruined your life or ruined your chance of having the life you once wanted. This all falls under the feeling of resentment and it is very bad for your relationship long term. The resentment will only build as time goes on and eventually lead to the relationship crashing and burning.

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The 6 Most Important Things To Have In A Healthy Relationship

We all dream of having a happy, healthy relationship that lasts for the rest of our lives…but that's a lot easier said than done. So many of our relationships crash and burn, leaving us wondering what went wrong. What is missing from our relationships that causes them to end so abruptly? Is there a secret that happy couples know? Well, we're about to let you in on that secret. Check out the six most important things to have in a healthy relationship:

1. Communication

A relationship is nothing without communication. If you cannot talk openly and honestly with your partner, you might as well not have a partner. Happy couples can talk to one another about anything. This means being able to bring up any issues you may have or any things that you'd like to change in your relationship. You should be able to communicate your wants and needs to your partner for things to work out.

2. Trust

You must be able to trust your partner if you want to have a healthy relationship. If you can't trust your partner, then the relationship will never be stable. A relationship built on instability is destined to fail. When you don't trust your partner, it leads to endless fights and paranoia. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you need to be with someone who you can trust will not hurt you or put your relationship in jeopardy.

3. Fun

Ultimately, every relationship should be fun. Now, it's totally normal and expected for a healthy relationship to have a “rut” in which you may feel a little bored. In healthy relationships, this feeling should pass. You and your partner should always be able to appreciate  one another's company and do things that you both enjoy. This will make you never want to end your relationship or stray.

4. Respect

In every healthy relationship, both partners share a mutual respect for one another. You should always respect your partner and their feelings. Your partner should always respect you and your feelings. This means you do not intentionally hurt or degrade your partner and they do not hurt or degrade you. If you both treat one another with respect, it will lead to a much happier relationship.

5. Space

Giving one another space is a vital part of a healthy relationship. If you don't give each other space, you're likely to feel smothered and want to distance yourself from your one another permanently. Happy couples know when to give each other some space and do their own thing. This may mean hanging out with your friends or partaking in a hobby while your partner does something else. A little bit of distance will only make the heart grow fonder.

6. Passion

One of the most vital parts of any relationship is passion. A relationship without passion is boring and sure to end rapidly because both partners are unsatisfied. Sure, as time goes on you may feel a lack of passion in your relationship – but you should be able to reignite it. Happy, healthy couples know how to reignite the passion in their relationship by being more romantic or more sensual with their partner.

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Should You Really Be Apologizing To Your Partner All The Time?

You've probably heard the famous line from the film Love Story, in which Ali MacGraw (as she lays on her death bed) tells Ryan O'Neal that “love means never having to say you're sorry…” The line immediately became a cinema classic and at any given time, somewhere in the world, there is probably a lovestruck partner uttering those very words to the partner who is profusely apologizing to them. While we're not here to knock famous movie quotes, we do have to wonder: If people really believe that “love means never having to say you're sorry,” why do we find ourselves apologizing to our partners so much?

I'd like you to take a moment and think about your relationship. If you're not currently in one, think about your last relationship. Try to remember all of the times you said, “I'm sorry.” Can you even remember them all? Sure, there are probably some major moments that you'll never forget. Maybe you said something really awful one time that made your partner cry. Surely you'd recall apologizing for this. However, can you recall all the other little instances in which you apologized to your partner? Odds are you've apologized hundreds, maybe thousands of times (depending on how long your relationship has been…) and odds are, most of these apologies weren't even necessary.

So if most of these apologies weren't necessary and the acts that provoked them were so trivial that we don't even remember them, should we even have apologized at all? Does this render the words “I'm sorry” meaningless? And, most importantly, why do we feel compelled to apologize so often to the one person who should be most understanding of our mistakes?

First, we do believe that constantly apologizing will eventually make real apologies meaningless. When you apologize for any and every little thing, it will make any significant apologies less meaningful. Your partner will not know when you're truly sorry for something or when you're just uttering the words as a reflex.

Now, why exactly are we constantly apologizing to our partners? Is it in fact a reflex to say you're sorry whenever your partner is just the slightest bit upset over something? It is likely that you love your partner, (at least we hope so) and when they are upset about something, you want to offer some sort of comfort. So in times when you're unsure of what to say, you say “I'm sorry.” Here's why this is a problem: You're not really sorry. You should only say you are sorry to your partner if you truly feel that you have caused them their upset and you truly regret whatever you did to cause them to feel that way. Did you do something, either intentionally or unintentionally that hurt your partner? If so, you should be apologizing. If you did not do anything to hurt your partner and they just happen to be upset, you don't need to apologize to them.

We feel that apologies should be reserved for the times that you have caused real emotional or physical upset to your partner. Maybe you said something very mean in the middle of a heated argument and you can see that they are upset about it. Maybe you accidentally elbowed them in the face and hurt them very badly. These are totally appropriate times to apologize. With that said, you should not apologize just because you think you have to. You should apologize only when you truly feel sorry. This will show your partner that you really care about their feelings and odds are, if they'll already know that you feel regretful because “love means never having to say you're sorry.”

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Is This the Number One Sign You Should Get Divorced?

When any couple gets married they plan on being together forever, but for over half of these happy couples the marriage just won't work. Obviously this statistic is discouraging, but it's the current reality. Not every relationship is destined to last forever and that's okay. If you've been struggling in your marriage and wondering if you may be one of the many couples that ends up getting a divorce, you're not alone.

Many people have a hard time deciding to take that final step and separate from their spouse because they hold on to hope that they can salvage their marriage. While there is in fact hope for some couples whose marriages have minor problems that can be overcome with time, there are some marriages that are just…well, for lack of a better word, dead. So how do you know if your marriage is one that can be saved or one that's is over for good? While there are many signs that a marriage has run its course, relationship experts say this one thing is the biggest sign you should get divorced: resentment.

Resentment is a hateful, nasty emotion. We don't feel resentment for just anyone. If you have gotten to the point that you feel resentment for your spouse – the person you're supposed to love more than anyone – consider your marriage over. A marriage should be filled with love, compassion, admiration and respect. When you cannot feel any of these things towards your partner because all you truly feel is resentment, it's unlikely you're going to save this relationship.

How do you know if you're feeling resentful towards your spouse? There are a few ways to tell. Do you find it hard to be happy for them when they succeed at something? Do you place the blame on them when anything goes wrong at home? Do you imagine that your life would be better if they were not in it? These are all signs of resentment and never feelings that you should have for your spouse.

While some experts might say that resentment is the biggest sign you should get divorced, you don't have to considerate it an immediate death sentence for your marriage. If you have just recognized these feelings in yourself and you still want to try to save your marriage, there are a few things you can do. You can talk to your partner openly about the way you have been feeling. Another option is to visit a marriage counselor to see if there are any changes you can make that will have you feeling better in your relationship. If these things do not work and you still feel resentment towards your partner, it is probably better for the both of you to end your marriage.

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Year-End Romance Roundup: The Biggest Celebrity Couples of 2018

As 2018 comes to an end, it's time to take a look back at the biggest celebrity couples of the year. 2018 was full of famous romances, some of which were totally surprising. There were couples that we couldn't get enough of and others that made us scratch our heads in confusion. Most of these couples are still going strong and one of them was a whirlwind romance that ended shortly after it began. Check out our five biggest celebrity couples of 2018:

5. Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez

This year Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez were absolutely everywhere! They were constantly spotted hanging out with one another's families. He was seen singing along at her Las Vegas residency and even supported her during the promotional tour for her movie Second Act. Jennifer even released a song speculating when he might put a ring on her finger! So we have to second that question: A.Rod, when are you gonna put a ring on it?!

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4. Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas

Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas was a pairing that seemed to come out of nowhere. When rumors began swirling that the two were together, no one believed it and wrote it off as tabloid gossip. Then the couple publicly admitted to being an item and before we could even blink, they announced they were engaged! The pair had multiple lavish wedding ceremonies in December and honored Priyanka's Indian heritage. We're wishing them well in 2019!

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3. Hailey Baldwin and Justin Bieber

Hailey Baldwin and Justin Bieber have been on-again/off-again for several years now, so it wasn't much of a surprise to see the two get back together again early in the year. However, it was a total surprise when the young couple announced they were engaged! Fans were stunned that Justin and Hailey were going to finally make things official – especially when Justin had only just recently split from his other on-again/off-again girlfriend, Selena Gomez.

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2. Meghan Markle and Prince Harry

Meghan Markle and Prince Harry started dating back in 2016, but 2018 was undoubtedly a huge year for them as a couple. First off, they had that tiny, private wedding. Okay, who are kidding? They had that extravagant, Royal wedding that was watched live by millions around the world! Then just a few months later, they announced that they were expecting a child! We can't wait to see the arrival of their baby in 2019 and whatever else will happen for the newest Royal Couple!

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1. Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson

Hands down, no question, Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson were the biggest celebrity couple of 2018. Honestly, 20 years from now if you even so much as utter the numbers “2018,” we're going to immediately think of Ariana and Pete. These two were the very definition of a whirlwind romance. They got together quickly and by all accounts appeared madly in love. They went everywhere together and were very public about their romance. In no time at all, Pete popped the question and the two were going to get married! However, that walk down the aisle never happened because the two split amicably before they could tie the knot. We're not sure what the future holds for these two young stars, but we definitely wish them the best!

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Romance Resolutions: 5 New Year’s Resolutions That Will Improve Your Love Life

The new year is almost here and that means it's time to reflect on the year that is coming to an end. If you spent 2018 going on an endless horrible dates or no dates at all, it could be time to make some New Year's resolutions to improve your dating life. Or maybe you've been struggling in your current relationship and you want to salvage things between you and your partner. Either way, you'll want to check out these five New Year's resolutions that will improve your love life:

1. Put Yourself Out There More

The best way to improve your love life – or actually get a love life in the first place – is to put yourself out there. If you haven't met that special someone yet, it could be because you aren't putting yourself out there enough. This year try putting yourself out there more by joining some clubs or getting a new hobby. Participating in new things can help you finally meet someone!

2. Learn to Accept Failure

Dating and relationships both come with failure. You can go on a dozen dates and not hit it off with a single one of them. You can date someone for three months and then it doesn't work out. Learn to accept these things. If you can't accept failure, your love life is going to be miserable. Instead try to learn from whatever went wrong and use that insight to make your next date or your next relationship better.

3. Realize That Compromise Is Key

Compromise is key when it comes to healthy relationships. If you've been seeing someone for some time and you find that you're arguing all the time and constantly disagreeing, it could be time to learn how to compromise. Learn to give a little and learn to pick your battles. This will help you avoid constant fighting and lead to a happier relationship.

4. Stop Setting the Bar Too Low…Or Too High

Many people have trouble finding a partner because they set the bar too low. They accept people who are bad for them when they know that they deserve better. Being with someone toxic is worse than being alone. On the flipside, people also set the bar too high. They have standards that are unrealistic and because of this, they let a lot of perfectly good people slip through the cracks. If you set the bar too high, you could miss out on your soulmate!

5. Be True To Yourself

The most important New Year's resolution to improve your love life is to promise that you will always be true to yourself. A lot of people try to change themselves so that they can find a partner or so that they can make their current partner happy. Not being true to yourself will only hurt you in the long run. Your first priority should be staying true to yourself and as long as you do that much, you're more likely to find the love you desire.

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Holiday Help: 5 Christmas Gifts Your Girlfriend Will Love

Christmas is almost here and if you're freaking out because you still haven't found the perfect present for your girlfriend you can officially stop worrying. There are some easy gifts to get her at the last minute and they're all things that she'll absolutely adore! Check out five great Christmas gifts your girlfriend will love:

1. A Photo Album Filled With Your Memories Together

This gift is perfect because it's budget-friendly and will make her swoon. Women love sentimental things and what is more sentimental than a photo album filled with your favorite memories as a couple? So go out and grab a nice photo album and fill it with pictures of the two of you together! It might require a *little* work on your part just to put it together, but her reaction will be totally worth it!

2. Jewelry

They say “diamonds are a girl's best friend” and they're not totally wrong…whoever “they” are. Most women do love wearing jewelry, but it doesn't have to be something super expensive like diamonds. You can get her something dainty and delicate for a fraction of the cost and she will love it just as much as a pricey piece of jewelry. You'll get extra points if you make it something meaningful like a locket with a picture of the two of you in it.

3. Tickets To A Concert Or Play

A gift that your girlfriend will undoubtedly love is a pair of tickets to a concert or show she really wants to see. They don't have to be incredible, front-row tickets. (They shouldn't necessarily be nosebleed seats either…) Get some decent tickets to an event she really wants to go to and it will give her something fun to look forward to which basically will make Christmas last for weeks!

4. Beauty Products

This one is gonna require some work on your part. Take a peek in her bathroom and look at what beauty products she uses: makeup, lotions, shower gel. See what she's almost out of and go grab some more! Put it all together in a nice package like her very own personalized beauty basket! She'll be amazed that you knew exactly what she uses and she'll be thrilled that she's not emptying her wallet to stock up on what she needed!

5. Anything Personalized

Like we previously mentioned, women love anything sentimental and meaningful. This means she'll love a personalized present! You can get anything – a picture frame, a bracelet, a t-shirt, you name it! Ge a picture of the two of you put on it or have your names and anniversary engraved into it. This personalization takes an average gift and brings it to the next level and she'll definitely appreciate it!

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A Lonely Holiday: 3 Reasons People Hate Being Single For the Holidays

The holidays are generally supposed to be a happy time full of love and laughter, but it's not always like that for anyone. While many people are just fine being single on the holidays (they're happy about it, actually!), others feel totally depressed about being alone this time of year. Just know that if you're feeling down and out about being single for the holidays, you aren't alone in your…well, loneliness. There are many other single people out there who are hiding their holiday misery. To see how they feel about this time of year, check out these three main reasons people hate being single for the holidays:

1. Their Family Bothers Them About It

Family is by far the most bothersome thing about being single for the holidays. When you show up to Christmas dinner all by yourself, you're greeted with a million questions from nosey family members. You're not seeing anyone? Whatever happened to that nice girl/guy you used to date? Are you putting yourself out there enough? You're not getting any younger, you know? We've honestly heard them all and every single one of them makes us roll our eyes. Why can't family members just mind their own business?!

2. It's Lonely

Sure, the holidays are supposed to be all about coming together and spending time with loved ones, but for single people the holidays are just a major reminder that their all alone. You go to parties and see friends or co-workers with their partners. You get Christmas cards with lovely pictures of your family members with their spouses and children. You go shopping and see all the gifts that people are buying for their boyfriend or girlfriend. All of this is just a constant, never-ending slap in in the face when you're single for the holidays.

3. The Holidays Are a Timestamp

Something we don't always think of is that the holidays signify the end of the year. As soon as Christmas is over, we prep ourselves for New Years and we begin reflecting on all the good and bad things from the last year. For people who are single on the holidays, this can be a painful reminder of failed relationships. It can also be a measure of just how long they've been single. This realization can either be inspiring or depressing…for many it's depressing.

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