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Facing Your Fears: 4 Dating Tips For People With Social Anxiety

Dating can be incredibly stressful for anyone. Now imagine how stressful it is if you have social anxiety! People with social anxiety get incredibly nervous and anxious in certain social situations, which makes things like dating very difficult. Things that may seem easy to the average person can seem like a daunting task to them when it comes to dating. With that said, you cannot let social anxiety keep you from dating. To help out, we've got four great dating tips for people with social anxiety. Check them out here:

1. Acknowledge the Problem

Denial is no way to approach a problem. If you struggle with social anxiety, you need to acknowledge it. This doesn't mean you have to disclose it to any potential partners right away. It just means that you have to acknowledge it to yourself. Recognize that because of your anxiety, you're going to feel uncomfortable in certain social situations. This will help you figure out how to address your feelings.

2. Don't Avoid Dating

Perhaps the most important dating tip for social anxiety is to actually date! You may feel like it's too scary to start dating, but you cannot let this stop you from going out. Avoidance is a symptom of social anxiety and it doesn't help the situation. It will only make your anxiety even worse. You have to confront your anxiety head-on and jump right in to the dating scene!

3. Don't Be Afraid To Take Small Risks

Dating is going to involve certain risks. There will be times you feel uncomfortable. Now, we are not suggesting you do anything that puts yourself in danger. If you feel unsafe with someone or in a certain situation, you should leave it. We're talking about confronting minor discomforts. For instance, some people feel uncomfortable eating around potential partners. This is an anxiety issue that needs to be conquered! Consider this a “small risk” that you can tackle. The more you face certain discomforts, the less they'll be able to affect you.

4. Be Prepared For Failure

It sounds harsh, but this is reality. All of us experience failure and rejection when it comes to dating. While most of us can bounce back from it smoothly, people with social anxiety have a harder time. You may feel like you're done with dating after one failure, but you shouldn't be! Dating is full of up's and down's for everyone, and this needs to be realized. Once you can accept that dating is going to involve some failures and rejections, you'll be prepared to conquer whatever comes your way.

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Long-Lasting Love: 5 Habits of Happy Couples

While so many of us struggle to make our relationships work, there are tons of couples out there who have been together forever. These couples have made it all work and always seem happy! So what is their secret? We've got five habits of happy couples that lead to long-lasting relationships. Check them out here:

1. Making Time For One Another

One of the most important habits of happy couples is making time for one another. It's easy to get caught up in things like work or school and neglect your partner. Eventually, this will lead to the breakdown of your relationship. Happy couples make it a priority to set aside time for their partner. It doesn't need to be time for a week-long vacation. It can just be designating one night each month to a “date night” with your partner, where you don't let the rest of life get in the way.

2. Showing Appreciation

A lot of relationships fall apart because one or both partners stop showing the other that they appreciate them. If your partner is taking care of chores around the house or paying a lot of the bills, show them that you appreciate what they do. If your partner has dinner ready for you when you get home from work, let them know how much that means to you. Don't let your partner think that you're taking them for granted or they'll be gone before you know it.

3. Picking Their Battles

Another habit of happy couples is knowing which battles to fight and which battles to let go. Happy couples do not fight over every little thing. They learn to let the little things go and move on. Happy couples know when something is important enough to bring it up for debate. If you choose to fight over every single little thing, your relationship will become miserable. You need to know which battles to fight and which to let go of.

4. Sharing Responsibilities

The happiest couples know that responsibilities need to be shared. You cannot let your partner do all the work while you sit back and reap all the benefits. Both partners should be working hard to keep the relationship afloat. Both partners should contribute to things like house work and paying bills. If one partner does everything for the other, they're going to become resentful and want to give up on the relationship.

5. Giving Each Other Space

One of the major habits of happy couples is giving each other space. You cannot smother your partner and spend every moment with them. This will only drive them away. You need to know when to give your partner space. Let them have a monthly night out with their friends. If they have to spend their entire lives with you, they'll eventually get bored with you and want to leave.

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Forever Alone: 5 Reasons You Don’t Have A Girlfriend

Are you having trouble wooing a woman? Do you feel like you're doing everything right, but you're still alone? There are some things that absolutely repel a woman and you might not be aware that you're doing those things! From personal hygiene habits to annoying conversation quirks, we've got five reasons you don't have a girlfriend:

1. You Talk About Yourself Too Much

If you talk about yourself all the time, it may be one of the reasons you don't have a girlfriend. No one wants to be with a narcissist. If all you do is brag about your accomplishments, your job, your car, or whatever else, she's going to stay far, far away from you.

2. You Have Bad Personal Hygiene

Perhaps the biggest turn off to women is bad personal hygiene. If you smell bad, you're not going to get a girlfriend. If your breath is awful because you don't brush your teeth, you're not going to get a girlfriend. If your hair has small animals living in it, you're not going to get a girlfriend. If your….okay, you catch our drift.

3. You Laugh At Your Own Jokes

Girls love a funny guy, but they don't love a guy who thinks he's funny when he's not. Laughing at your own jokes immediately kills any potential to be funny, Instead, be humble when joking. Let her laugh at your jokes instead of you laughing to reaffirm your humor.

4. Your Wardrobe Is All Wrong

Style is important to a lot of women. A man who dresses sloppy is a huge turn-off for many women. You need to make sure your clothes are clean, fitted, and free of holes or stains. Otherwise she'll just think you're a slob.

5. You're A Bad Tipper

This may seem like something small and trivial, but it's really not. There are few things less attractive than a person who tips poorly. If you're a bad tipper, consider it one of the reasons you don't have a girlfriend. Women do not want to be with a man who is either inconsiderate or cheap…or both. So the next time you go out to eat, leave a good tip!

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Just A Friend: 5 Great Tips For Escaping the Friend Zone

It's a common phenomenon that many men have experienced: being in the friend zone. The “friend zone” refers to a girl thinking of you only as a friend when you actually want to be in a relationship with her. For some guys there is no hope of ever getting out of the friend zone. Women have no obligation to be more than your friend and honestly, you should be glad to have them as a friend! However, for others, there may be a chance for a potential romance with a girl who once thought of you as “just a friend”. In these instances, you'll have to put some work in. Check out five great tips for escaping the friend zone:

1. Acknowledge That You Have Been Friend Zoned

The first step to escaping the friend zone is acknowledging that you're in the friend zone. It may be hard to do this, since many men tend to be in denial about it. You need to recognize that you have, in fact, been put in the friend zone and you need to be okay with this. Yes, you need to be okay with this. You don't want to force a woman to be with you. You want her to actually want to be with you. So you need to realize that at this point in time, she doesn't want to be with you. From there, you can move forward.

2. Work On Self-Improvement

The next step in escaping the friend zone is to start working on yourself. There are obviously some reasons this girl does not want to be with you. They may be physical, like your haircut or your physique. They may be personality traits that turn her off. Either way, you need to work on improving yourself so that you have a better chance with her.

3. Be A Good Friend To Her

Now, we shouldn't have to tell you to be a good friend to someone. This girl is your friend, and you should already be a good friend to her whether it's going to end in romance or not. Now, with that said, being a great friend does improve your chances of this friendship turning into romance. Show her that you can be loyal and compassionate as a friend, and she might realize that you can be loyal and compassionate as a boyfriend.

4. Hang Out With Your Other Friends

Another step for escaping the friend zone is by spending time with your other friends. Don't obsess over this girl or smother her. That will only ruin your chances of ever having a relationship with her. Show her that you have a life other than her and that you do enjoy spending time with other people. This also gives her the space to spend time with her other friends.

5. Improve Your Flirting Techniques

Sometimes a guy gets friend zoned due to poor communication and bad flirting skills. This means the girl honestly doesn't know that he wants to be more than friends! If she doesn't know that you like her, it's unlikely you'll ever progress to more than a friendship. You have to be more obvious when flirting with her so that she knows you're interested in something more.

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Fake Identities: 4 Major Signs You’re Talking To A Catfish

By now most of us have seen the MTV show Catfish, but if you haven't, we'll give you the basic idea of what “catfishing” is. A “catfish” refers to a person you meet online who pretends to be someone they are not. Catfishes go to great lengths to take on another identity. They steal other people's photos and pass them off as photos of themselves. They make up fake stories about their lives and fake names. Many people fall victim to being catfished on the internet, so we're giving you four major signs that the person you met online is actually a catfish:

1. They Won't Talk On the Phone

If you've been talking to someone online for awhile, you'll eventually want to take it to the phone instead! If they refuse to talk to you on the phone, they're probably a catfish. They may be avoiding the verbal conversation because they're not the gender or age they claimed to be, and they don't want you to find out by hearing their voice.

2. They Never Upload New Pictures

If the person you're talking to only has a handful of pictures on their social media and they never upload any new ones, they might be a catfish. (Or they're just not into selfies….) Another thing to look out for is if they have no pictures with other people in them. Catfishes often steal other people's pictures, but very rarely take ones that have others in them.

3. They Refuse to Video Chat

This is a major sign you're talking to a catfish. We live in a society where most people have the modern technology to video chat through a webcam or Facetime. If the person you're dealing with won't video chat with you, they're either freakishly shy or a total catfish.

4. They Won't Meet You In Person

This is the indisputable proof that you're talking to a catfish. If the person you've been talking to online refuses to meet with you in person, they're a catfish. The only reasonable excuse to not meet in person is if they live very, very far away and do not have the resources to travel. Otherwise, there's a reason they don't want to meet you in person. So if you find that they keep making excuses to not meet you, they're probably a catfish.

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Swiping Guidelines: 6 Tinder Rules To Always Follow

Tinder has become the pinnacle of online dating, and for good reason! You may have your concerns about Tinder, but you can't say it's not convenient. It uses GPS to show you the people who are in your immediate area. You can easily dismiss people that you're not interested in by swiping them away. Plus, there are no unsolicited messages from creeps! You can only get messages from users that you match with. So I think we can safely agree that Tinder is a great dating app. With that said, there are some guidelines you need to follow when using it. These tips will help you use the app as efficiently (and safely) as possible! Check out six Tinder rules you should always follow:

1. Don't Be Over-the-Top With Your Expectations

There's no bigger turn off than seeing a Tinder profile where the person lists off their expectations for a potential partner. It's totally okay to mention one or two things you're looking for, but if you've got a laundry list of what you do and do not want, you're gonna get a firm left swipe.

2. Avoid Using Tinder on the Weekend

Though you're probably most tempted to use Tinder on the weekend, don't. The weekend is the worst time to use a dating app. You're more likely to swipe right on all the wrong people. You're more likely to send desperate, ridiculous messages to your matches. It's just a bad idea all around.

3. Don't Give TMI

This is one of the major Tinder rules. Don't air your dirty laundry on your profile. Don't launch into a super personal story when a match messages you. Don't post ultra revealing pictures of yourself. Keep things simple. If you bring all the skeletons out of your closet on Tinder, you're going to scare away all your potential partners.

4. Try Not to Make It All About Yourself

It's important to remember not to make everything about yourself on Tinder. If your entire profile is just you listing off your accomplishments and positive attributes, you're going to come off as a narcissist. If a match messages you. make sure you ask them questions about themselves rather than just talking about yourself.

5. Be Aware That Not Everyone Is Who They Claim To Be

This is one of the more serious Tinder rules. You have to remember that not everyone is who they claim to be. There are a lot of catfishes out there and you need to be prepared to encounter one of them. Many people use fake pictures, names, stories, etc.You may have to go the extra mile to make sure that someone is who they claim to be before you meet up with them in person.

6. Don't Take Things Personally

Finally, one of the best Tinder rules to follow is to not take things personally. You may match with someone, and once you talk to them find that it's not going to work. There may be days/weeks/months where you don't get many matches. It's important to not take these things to heart and remember that it's just online dating!

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What He Really Wants: 25 Things Men Secretly Love

Do you know what your boyfriend or husband really wants? Men aren't as expressive or open with their needs as women are. They don't often say what they really want or tell you the things they enjoy. We've put together 25 things that men secretly love, but will probably never tell you about. Check them out below!

  1. Romantic, sappy gestures like love notes and anniversary gifts
  2. When you tell them exactly what you think, feel or want
  3. Watching cheesy rom-coms with you
  4. When you tease and make fun of them (just a little)
  5. When you watch sports with him even though you don't want to
  6. Changes in routine that shake things up a little
  7. When you surprise him by cooking his favorite meal
  8. Giving him a nice massage after work
  9. Having breakfast and coffee ready for him when he wakes up
  10. When you at least offer to pay for dinner
  11. Pampering you and making you feel like a princess
  12. Binge-watching your favorite show with you
  13. Binge-watching his favorite show with you
  14. When you let him have time with his friends
  15. When you go out for the night with your girlfriends
  16. Hearing all about your day at work, school, etc.
  17. When you let him in on secrets you've never told anyone
  18. When you initiate sex
  19. When you let him get out of hanging out with your family
  20. …But also when you include him in important family events
  21. Bragging about you to his friends or family
  22. When you brag about him to your friends and family
  23. When you text or call him (but not too much)
  24. Letting him play video games for hours
  25. Spending the day doing absolutely nothing with you

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Mr. Egocentric: 6 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

Are you dating a total jerk? Does your boyfriend talk incessantly about himself and shows little interest in you? It's possible you're dating a narcissist! It can be hard to tell if your boyfriend is just a little misguided or is he's a complete narcissist, so check out these six sings that show your boyfriend's ego is way too big:

1. He Gets Jealous Easily

If he gets jealous really easily, you may be dating a narcissist. A narcissist is overly concerned with what they consider to be “theirs”, so they'll get very pre-occupied with the idea of somebody coming for their territory. So if you find that he gets jealous when there's really no reason to be, he may have a huge ego.

2. He Talks About Himself Constantly

This one goes without saying, but we'll say it anyways: if he talks about himself non-stop, he may be a narcissist. Normal conversations usually cover both people's lives, opinions and interests. If everything is about him, he's totally full of himself.

3. He Doesn't Listen To Anyone

Narcissists think they know it all. For this reason, it's nearly impossible to find them listening to other people. If your boyfriend thinks that only he knows best and he refuses to take advice from anyone, you may be dating a narcissist.

4. He Compares Himself To Others

A narcissist is obsessed with how other people see them. For this reason, they'll often compare themselves to other people. They'll constantly say that they are better than others and act like other people are beneath them to create the appearance of superiority.

5. He Criticizes You

If he picks apart everything you do and constantly criticizes you, he may be a narcissist. Narcissists think that they know everything and that they are superior to everyone, so you'll often find them critiquing other people.

6. He Puts Himself Before You

Narcissists only think of themselves. If he always puts himself before you, he's probably a narcissist. If he's only concerned with his needs and never with yours, he's got a huge ego and only cares about himself.

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What A Guy Wants: 7 Traits Men Look For In A Partner

It's often been said that women are hard to read. You may have heard that it's impossible to figure out what a woman wants or what she's looking for in a relationship. Well, we'd like to argue that men are just as difficult to decipher! What do they want in a partner? Is it all about beauty? What do they value in their romantic partners? We did some digging and found some universal traits that most men look for in a partner and we're about to share them with you! Read on to see seven traits men look for in a partner:

1. Reliability

No one wants to be with someone they can't count on. This means that reliability was one of the most common traits men look for in a partner. They want someone that they know will be there for them. They want to trust that they can depend on the person they're with.

2. Honesty

Who wants to be with a liar? Nobody does! Men value honesty just as much as women do. Men look for partners that they can trust, not ones who are going to deceive them at every turn. They have to know that they're partner is being truthful with them.

3. Intelligence

You may have been told that men value beauty over brains, but that is so not true. Men appreciate intelligence in a partner. They enjoy conversations with their partner about political or societal issues. What? Did you think men didn't care about those things?

4. Kindness

Kindness goes a long way with both men and women. No one wants to be with someone who is nasty and inconsiderate. You need to show that you can be kind and caring, especially to those who are most in need. That's how you'll win his heart.

5. Stability

Movies and television may lead you to believe that there is something intriguing about instability…but there isn't. Men are not looking for someone whose life is a mess. They want someone who can keep it together and stay on the up-and-up.

6. Perseverance

There's something wildly attractive about a woman who is hard-working and determined. For this reason, men look for partners with perseverance. They want to see someone who powers through hardships and never stops fighting.

7. Creativity

Creativity is one of the major traits men look for in a partner. They don't want someone who is bland and boring. They want someone who thinks outside the box and isn't afraid to challenge the status quo. They put great value on creativity and independent thinking.

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Online Romance: 4 Common Myths About Online Dating

With the rise of the internet came the rise of online dating. Online dating is easier than going out and meeting people because it removes the whole, you know, “going out” part. You can stay in the comfort of your own home and swipe through potential love interests, narrowing it down to your top picks. It's kind of like online shopping! While a lot of people are enjoying the benefits of online dating, there are many others who are staying far, far away from it. These people have fed into all the myths about online dating. To quell your fears, let us break down some of those myths and put a rest to them once and for all:

1. It's only for young people.

A lot of people think that online dating is made for millennials, but this is just not the case. Online dating is for people of any age (okay, not under 18, you guys…). In fact, there are entire dating sites dedicated to middle-aged people or senior citizens who are looking to meet someone. Don't fall into the notion that this is just for the youngsters!

2. It's doesn't lead to lasting relationships.

One of the common myths about online dating is that it's just for hook-up's and doesn't produce long-lasting relationships. This is so not true! There are endless couples who met online and have been together for years. (Anyone watch 90 Day Fiance?) Sure, a lot of people use online dating for casual hook-up's – and there's nothing wrong with that – but you can also use it to find your soulmate!

3. You can't trust the people you meet.

This myth needs to be approached carefully. Let us make it explicitly clear that there are dangerous people online. Not everyone is who they claim to be on the internet, so you do need to be careful when meeting someone online. With that said, not everyone is dangerous. Most people are exactly who they claim to be, just a regular person looking to meet someone much like yourself!

4. It's all about looks.

There are many people who steer clear of online dating because they think it's all about looks. After all, potential partners look at your profile picture to determine whether or not they're interested in you. Don't let this deter you, as the reality is that it's not all about looks. While some people may not be into your appearance, there will be tons of others who are. What really matters is how you act, what you say, and the person you are. People will have to give you a chance and get to know you!

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