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Hurtful Words: 30 Things You Should Never Say To Your Partner

Arguments happen in relationships. That's a fact. There's no way you can have a relationship without getting into a few arguments. It's totally okay and normal to argue with your partner, but it's important to be mindful of what you say during an argument. Certain things will do permanent damage to your partner and will have lasting effects long after the argument is over. You cannot take back what you say, so you want to make sure you don't say something you'll regret. Below are 30 things you should never say to your partner:

  1. You're too dramatic.
  2. Why aren't you more like *insert someone here*?
  3. I wish you weren't so lazy.
  4. I was happier before I met you.
  5. You've been a waste of my time.
  6. You can't do anything right.
  7. I don't care how you feel.
  8. You eat too much.
  9. You've gained weight.
  10. You should dress differently.
  11. You looked better before.
  12. I don't care about your family.
  13. I wish you made more money.
  14. You didn't even graduate.
  15. Your don't have a good job.
  16. My ex was better than you.
  17. I had more fun in my previous relationship.
  18. You bore me.
  19. I'm embarrassed of you.
  20. I feel better when you're not around.
  21. I hate hanging out with you.
  22. You don't know anything.
  23. You're a bad parent.
  24. My friends think I can do better than you.
  25. I wish I never met you.
  26. I should've went out with *insert someone here* instead of you.
  27. Everything is always your fault.
  28. I don't need you in my life.
  29. Other people want me/flirt with me all the time.
  30. I could find someone better than you in a heartbeat.

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No Excuses: 3 Times You Should Leave Your Partner Immediately

When it comes to relationships, there are always going to be problems. No relationship is perfect. It all comes down to figuring out what you can and cannot work through. While there are many issues that can be dealt with, there are certain things that can never be remedied. In these instances, the best thing for you to do is leave. Read on to find out three times you should leave your partner immediately:

1. They're abusing you.

If your partner is emotionally or physically abusing you, there is no reason for you to stay with them. You need to leave them immediately. A person who hits you or subjects you to constant emotional abuse does not love you and will only get worse the longer you stay together. You need to value your life and your well-being and get far away from this person.

2. They're unfaithful.

If you're partner is cheating on you or has cheated on you, you should leave. Being unfaithful shows that your partner has no respect for you or the relationship. They do not care about hurting you or how their infidelity might make you feel. Staying with a partner who is unfaithful also puts your heath at risk by making you vulnerable to any sexually transmitted diseases they may get from someone else.

3. They are mistreating your children/pets.

Your children and your pets are completely dependent on the adults in their life. You need to make sure they are cared for and safe. If you've brought someone into their lives who is hurting them or mistreating hem, you need to leave that person. You do not want to be with the kind of person who would mistreat an innocent child or animal and you do not want to expose your children or pets to abuse.

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More Than Friends: Should You Start Dating Your Best Friend?

A common question when it comes to love and romance involves dating a friend. Many people have had romantic feelings for one of their close friends, but hesitated to act on those feelings because they were unsure of whether or not it was a good idea. We're breaking down the pros and cons of dating your best friend below!

The Pros

One of the biggest pros of dating your best friend is that you're already really comfortable with them. You get to skip right over that whole “getting to know one another” phase. You're already familiar with what they like and dislike, and they're already familiar with yours. It's also likely that you already know one another's families and you have the same friend group, so you don't have to worry about making a good impression with new people. This all means that the relationship is super comfortable and casual from the get-go and the two of you can settle into the “lovey-dovey” happy phase right away.

The Cons

The biggest cons surrounding dating your best friend all involve the possible end of the relationship. When you begin dating anyone, you never know how the relationship will ultimately end up. It could last forever or it could crash and burn after a month. You just never know. If you start dating your best friend and things end badly, it could lead to a whole host of problems. For starters, you've just lost a great friendship. It's unlikely that that the two of you will just go back to being friends after a bad breakup. Another problem is the way it could affect your entire friend group. If you share a mutual group of friends, these friends will now feel obligated to “pick a side.” They won't feel comfortable staying friends with both of you, so they will be put in the awkward position of choosing who they should stay friends with!

So What Should You Do?

Basically…it's up to you! The decision to date you best friend could be the greatest choice you've ever made…or it could ruin a great friendship. The only way to know is if you try, so you need to decide whether you are willing to risk the friendship to see if the two of you are soulmates. Best of luck to you!

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Incidental Insult: 5 Little Things That Hurt Your Partner

When it comes to your relationship, you would never intentionally do something to hurt the person you love. With that said, there may be little things that hurt your partner and you don't even realize you're doing them! It could be something you didn't think would bother them, or it could be something you did without even realizing you did it. Either way, these little things can all add up and lead to major trouble for your relationship in the long run. If you want to keep a healthy, happy relationship, you'll want to be aware of these five little things that hurt your partner:

1. Not Asking How Their Day Was

This is something we're all guilty of in our relationships. When our lives are busy and hectic, we often forget to check up on the people we care about. We might go days or even weeks without asking our partner how they are or how their day was. When your partner gets home from work or school, ask them how it went!

2. Watching A Show Or Movie Without Them

In the new age of Netflix and binge-watching, this is something a lot of us do. Our partner is at work or out running errands, so we start watching a show without them or even watch a new movie that they may have liked. We never consider that our partner may want to relax and watch that show or movie with us! It's even more insulting when it's a show that you know your partner wants to see, and you still watch it without them.

3. Cooking Only For Yourself

This is just downright mean, but we may do it without even realizing. You get hungry and decide to pop something in the oven, but you never think to ask your partner if they want anything. It could be as innocent as just not thinking, but it makes your partner think that you just don't care about them.

4. Not Noticing A New Hairstyle or Outfit

Men are mostly guilty of this one! When your girlfriend or wife gets a new haircut or gets herself a special outfit, she appreciates it when you notice and compliment her! If you don't even recognize her new hair or new clothes, it makes her feel like you never really look at her.

5. Forgetting An Important Date

When our lives get hectic, it's possible for all of us to be guilty of this one. While it can easily happen, it's still hurtful to your partner. If their birthday or an important anniversary comes up and you don't even remember, it makes them feel like you don't care to remember. This is why it's helpful to set reminders on your phone or write them in a planner, so that you never miss an important date.

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Travel Troubles: Should You Take Your Partner On A Family Vacation?

While there are endless tricky situations that you'll encounter as a couple, one of the hardest ones is this: Do you take your partner on your family vacation? Is it appropriate to take a significant other on a vacation with your parents and siblings? We're discussing it below!

As far as we're concerned, the decision to bring your partner on a family vacation depends on one thing: How long have you been together? If this is a relatively new partner, as in you've only been dating for one to three months, then no. We understand that you want to make memories with your significant other, but when the relationship is still in these early stages, there's no way of knowing if it's going to last. Do you want to take this person on your family vacation only to break up with them a month later? It's pretty awkward having the evidence of your short-lived relationship in your family's vacation photos and videos.

Now, on the flipside, if you've been with your significant other for longer than three months, bring them along! At this point, the relationship should have reached a serious enough level for your partner to be considered part of the family and welcome on vacations. Your relationship is also more likely to last if you've made it to the three-month milestone. This means that taking your partner on a family vacation will lead to lasting memories you can look back on when you're still together years from now.

With that said, before your bring anyone on a family vacation, check with your family first! You want to make sure that any and all guests are welcome on the trip!

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Long Distance Love: 3 Ways To Improve Your Long Distance Relationship

Relationships are hard to maintain and they're even harder when it's a long distance one! Long distance relationships often end in failure because it is just too difficult to keep up with the relationship when the two of you aren't in the same place. If you're currently in a long distance relationship, you'll want to check out these three great ways to improve your long distance relationship:

1. Create A Communication Schedule

One of the best tips for a long distance relationship is to create a communication schedule. While you may feel inclined to talk to your partner constantly since you can't see them at all, this will only backfire. Make a designated time that the two of you talk, preferably once or twice a day. You might have a short phone call in the morning and then a longer one at night. Sticking to a schedule will make it easier for you to not lose touch.

2. Plan Reasonable Visits

You can't expect your partner to travel cross-country to see you every weekend (unless they're filthy rich). To make your long distance relationship work, you should plan reasonable visits. This means visiting maybe once a month or once every other month, if it's affordable. You also can't put all the expectations on one person. You need to take turns visiting one another so that it's not one partner putting in all the effort.

3. Accept When Things Are Not Working

Sometimes the best way to make something better is to let it go entirely. We know this sounds counterintuitive, but it could be better in the long run. If you have tried really hard and your long distance relationship is just not working, then you need to know when to let it go. Too many couples try to hang on to relationships that are failing and they end up getting hurt trying to salvage something that is falling apart. Recognize when your long distance relationship is not prospering and make the choice to walk away.

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Quality Time: 3 Easy Ways To Spend Time With Your Partner

Between work and other responsibilities, life can get hectic. It can be hard to make time for your relationship when there are so many other things you need to focus on. Fortunately, there are easy ways to spend quality time with your partner while still getting things done! You can be together, while still doing the things you need to get done. Check out three easy ways to spend time with your partner below:

1 Cook Dinner Together

You have to eat, right? Cooking a meal together is a great way to spend quality time with your partner and also put food on the table. Cooking is also a great way to learn new things about one another and also, cooking is just fun!

2. Work Out Together

Odds are you have a certain time of day that you dedicate to working out. Since you're going to be working out anyways, you might as well incorporate your partner!

3. Clean the House Together

Look at this as a way to kill two birds with one stone. (We hate that saying, by the way…) You need to clean your house, right? You need to spend time with your partner, right? Clean the house together! This will also get the cleaning done twice as fast!

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Dating and Dining: How Hard Is It To Date Somone Who Follows A Restricted Diet?

We live in an age of a million different dietary restrictions. From restricted diets that are by choice, such as veganism or ketogenic, to restricted diets for medical reasons, such as lactose-free, it seems like everyone follows a restricted diet. We commend those who follow certain diets for ethical reason, such as veganism and vegetarianism. We also understand those who follow certain diets for medical reasons, such as gluten-free or lactose-free. But, since we discuss dating and relationships here, we'd like to take a look at how dietary restrictions affect dating.

How hard is it to date someone who follows a restricted diet? First and foremost, we firmly believe that all dietary restrictions should be respected. Whether it be for ethical reasons of health reasons, or no reason at all, people should eat whatever they want to eat without being criticized for it. If you can't be respectful of your partner's dietary restrictions, then don't be with them. With that said, it would be a lie to say that dietary restrictions don't present certain challenges in a relationship. This mostly applies to new relationships. In long-term relationships, your partner has likely adapted to your dietary restrictions and making sure there are options for you is like second nature. In a new relationship, it can be hard for some people to adapt to your restricted diet. They might make plans at a restaurant that has no options for you and they may not realize it at first. It might be awkward when they take you to meet their family and their family cooks a meal you cannot eat. These things may sound trivial, but they can be hard to get used to in a relationship. Some people may find your dietary restrictions annoying and inconvenient and honestly, these people aren't worth being with!

All in all, while there can be difficulties when it comes to dating someone with a restricted diet, you shouldn't judge someone for what they do or do not eat and you should not let it get in the way of a healthy relationship!

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Tough Choices: 3 Times It’s Okay To Still Talk To Your Friend’s Ex

There are so many difficult dilemmas when it comes to friendship and relationships. The intersection of the two can really lead to some tricky situations! One of the hardest problems to solve is deciding if you should still talk to your friend's ex after they breakup. Some friends see this as betraying them and feel that you should never communicate with their ex. However, we feel that there are some scenarios in which it is totally okay to still talk to your friend's ex. We're explaining those circumstances below:

1. You Were Friends With The Ex Before the Relationship

Let's say you were the one who set your friend up with the ex in question…because that ex was also a friend of yours. If you were friends with this person before their relationship with your other friend, then it's totally okay to stay friends with them now. You shouldn't have to choose between two friends just because their relationship didn't work out.

2. You Work With the Ex

This is a very specific, rare circumstance, but what if your friend's ex is one of your coworkers? You can't just ignore a coworker because they happen to be your friend's ex. If you want to keep things civil at your workplace, you'll have to stay friendly with this person regardless of what happened in their relationship with your friend.

3. You Became Friends With the Ex During the Relationship

Some people might argue with this idea, but we think that if you became friends with your friend's ex during their relationship, then you should be able to stay friends. We're not talking “Hi/Bye acquaintances.” We're talking about a meaningful friendship. If you developed a substantial friendship with this person, you should be able to stay friends with them in spite of whatever happened in the relationship.

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Is It Disrespectful To Your Partner If You Post Revealing Pictures Of Yourself Online?

We're all addicted to social media. Who isn't constantly on their phones or laptops checking things like Instagram and Twitter? A big aspect of social media is sharing pictures with your followers. This often includes the mirror shots or selfies, but some people take it a step further. More and more people are sharing photos of themselves I revealing clothing – or no clothing at all, in some cases. Now, we have no problem with this. If you feel that you look good and want to show yourself off, so be it. We do wonder, though: What if you're dating someone? If you're in a relationship, does your partner care that you are sharing revealing photographs online?

The answer to this question depends on your partner. If your partner is more conservative and feels that your body is for their eyes only, they'll feel like it's disrespectful of you to share revealing pictures of yourself with people online. They may feel that you are trying to get attention from other guys/girls, or that you don't feel validated enough by the attention they give you in private.

On the flipside, if your partner is more progressive and open-minded, they're likely to be totally okay with it. They may feel that posting these pictures is not disrespectful and that it boosts your confidence. On both sides, your partner should want you to feel good about yourself. If you need to post pictures of yourself online to feel good about yourself, it may be a problem that requires some self-reflection. If you do it just every once in a while because you feel really proud of a certain picture or the way you look in it and it makes you feel confident to share it, then that is fine. If you have a partner who is uncomfortable with you doing this, you need to have a discussion about it and either reach a compromise or go your separate ways. In the end, you want to be in a relationship where both people feel good about themselves, but both people also feel respected and secure.

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