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Why Communication Is The Most Important Tip For Dating In the “Me Too” Era

In 2017 we saw the emergence of the “Me Too” (#metoo) era. For those of you living under a rock, Me Too is a movement in which women are opening up about being sexually assaulted or sexually harassed. Women all over the world have started to share their stories of being verbally harassed, physically assaulted or violated by men. Many of these stories involve women being violated by men in positions of power over them, such as employers. While this movement has given women everywhere the courage and foundation to finally speak out about being abused by men, it has left many men wondering how to navigate their interactions with women. We'd like to give some insight as to how both men and women should approach dating in the “Me Too” Era.

Let's start off by saying this: Men, if you do not know the difference between a consensual interaction and sexual assault, we have a problem. We do understand that men are raised in a society in which hyper-masculinity is put on a pedestal and women's bodies are treated like tangible objects. This can create dating scenarios in which the lines get blurred: “Does she want it or not? I guess I'll just go for it…” While this is a mistake that many men have made, it is not okay. Assuming that a woman wants to be touched by you is wrong. Assuming that you can just take what you want from a woman's body is wrong. For this reason, communication is the best tip for dating in the “Me Too” Era. Do not assume that a woman wants you do to anything to her. Instead, actually verbally ask her what she wants. Ask her if it is okay before you touch her in any way. Ask her if she is comfortable. Ask her if she wants to continue. For those of you that have grown up in ignorance, this is called consent. If she tells you to leave her alone, or that is she not comfortable with what you are doing, that means you stop.

Now, it is important for women to communicate also when it comes to these situations. In the past, many women felt intimidated or afraid to speak out when put in uncomfortable situations. Thankfully, “Me Too” is giving women the courage to speak out. If a guy is doing something you don't like, tell him. Tell him to stop. Tell him you're done. Tell him to leave you alone. Whatever it is, don't be afraid. Just tell him you're done. If he doesn't stop, and you are unable to remove yourself from the situation, tell someone what happened immediately. Tell a friend. Tell a family member. Tell the authorities. Do not be afraid to speak out about someone assaulting or harassing you.

All in all, communication cannot solve every instance of men violating women. There are people that don't seem to understand “no means no.” For those of you who do not want to contribute to the cycle of violence against women, learn to communicate!

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Family Affair: What Should You Do When Your Parents Hate Your Partner?

It's one of the most common problems in a relationship: Your family does not approve of who you are dating. What do you do when your parents hate your partner? This is a terribly tricky situation that so many people have to navigate and very few know how. Do you breakup with your partner? Do you cut ties with your parents? Neither answer seems fair or reasonable! We're here to discuss what to do when your parents hate your partner!

First things first: Why do your parents hate you partner? That is the first thing you need to think about before making any decisions regarding your relationship. Maybe your parents hate your partner for a totally valid reason, like this person is abusing you or cheating on you. In cases like this, most parents would hate their child's significant other. They want the best for their child and don't want to see them get hurt. Obviously they are going to hate the person who is hurting them! If this is why your parents hate your partner, you need to take a close look at your relationship and consider leaving this person. Your parents are clearly on to something!

On the flip side, if your parents hate your partner for a totally trivial and ridiculous reason, you might want to examine your relationship with your parents. If they hate your partner for some silly, judgmental reason like your partner doesn't make enough money, sit them down and have a serious talk with them. Explain to them that you love this person and this person loves you. They may need time to realize that they are concerned with trivial things! Now, if your parents hate your partner for a more insidious reason, such as your partner's race, you should probably cut ties with your parents because they are racist and you're better off without them!

As you can see, the way you approach the divide between your parents and your partner depends on why your parents hate your partner! Figure this out and you'll know which way to go from there. Best of luck to you!

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Is It Wrong To Reject Someone Because Of Their Body Type?

When you talk about dating, people always acknowledge the difficulty of being rejected. There are a million articles out there discussing how to cope with being rejected. What about when you have to reject someone? The act or rejecting someone is not often discussed, and we have to say: it's not easy to reject someone! Having to reject someone is an inevitable aspect of dating. After all, you're not going to be interested in every person that is interested in you. It is particularly difficult if you are rejecting someone because of how they look. People who do this are often regarded as “shallow” or cruel, but we would like to argue in their favor. Let us explain why there is nothing wrong with people who reject someone because of their body type.

Society is only just now beginning to open up to the idea of “body inclusivity.” Body inclusivity means that people come in all shapes and sizes and that different body types should be represented in media and in retail. We are all for this! We are in favor of body positivity and representing all body types. With that said, body inclusivity should not be enforced when it comes to dating. When it comes to romantic relationships, everyone has a type. Everyone has certain physical attributes that they find attractive and desire in a partner. We feel that when you are looking for someone to date, you shouldn't have to take body inclusivity into consideration. You should date who you really want to date and for most people, that's someone who falls into their “type.”

We understand that there is so much more to a person than their physical appearance. There are so many things that are more important than being skinny, fat, tall or short. However, when someone gets into a relationship, attraction is a vital part of that. If you're not physically attracted to the person you're with, it will lead to a myriad of problems and ultimately the end of the relationship. For this reason, we suggest that people feel okay dating someone with the body type they are attracted to. Don't be afraid of being called “shallow.” You are not being shallow – you are seeking your own happiness. You don't need to feel pressured by society to date anyone and everyone just so that you do not make people feel bad.

Now, if you feel that you are on the other end of this scenario, don't feel bad. Every person of every shape and size has been rejected for their body type. At the end of the day, it is better for these people to reject you so that you are open to meet someone who desires you. No matter what your body type is, there are endless people out there that find you attractive, Everyone has a different “type.” You need to find the person who considers you their type, and you consider them your type. This is the best way to have a healthy, happy relationship.

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The 3 Worst Ways To Break Up With Someone

Breaking up is hard to do. No one would call it easy! While breaking up is hard for person who is doing the “breaking up,” it's even harder for the person who is being broken up with. In order to not hurt this person any more than you have to, you need to handle the breakup with care and sensitivity. This means that you need to break up in a manner that shows you respect the person and the time you spent with them. The best way to break up with someone is in person, but it seems like some people think other methods are okay. We're here to tell you the three worst ways to break up with someone. Check them out below!

1. Social Media

Social media has become so ever-present in our lives that some people actually think it is an acceptable place to break up with someone. Social media is the worst of the worst ways to break up with someone! It is so inappropriate, it will basically tell the other person that you didn't care about them at all. While it's bad enough to break up with someone in a direct message on Facebook, it's even worse if you do it publicly on their timeline! Just steer clear of this!

2. Text Message

While texting has become the standard form of communication for well, all of us, it's definitely not okay to break up over a text message. Texting is too informal and impersonal for breaking up, which is almost always a delicate situation. If you absolutely cannot break up with someone in person, actually calling them on the phone is a much better option than texting them.

3. Email

Do people even email one another anymore? Email has become an act reserved strictly for formal matters like work conversations. When you open up your email, you expect to see a message from your boss – not your partner breaking up with you. Breaking up with someone over an email is just plain strange and hurtful. It kind of shows that you viewed your relationship as a business relationship that you could just terminate over an email!

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Lackluster Romance: Can You Stay In A Relationship With Bad Sex?

There are a lot of things that can lead to the demise of a relationship. Things like lying, cheating and different life goals can all lead to couples breaking up. A common question in regards to relationship is: Can bad sex lead to a breakup? This is a complicated dilemma that many couples face and it is easy to understand why. Imagine that you get in a relationship with someone and everything is perfect. They're honest. They make you laugh. They have the same goals and aspirations for the future as you do. Then you find that you're just not sexually compatible at all! Is this grounds for breaking up? Does a bad sex life cancel out all of the good things about the relationship? We're discussing it below!

In most cases, we would say that bad is a perfectly good reason to break up. Sex is an important part of a romantic relationship for most people. If the sex lacks intimacy or the two of you are not sexually compatible, then your relationship is going to be lacking. You may not mind it sometimes and you may think that you can get past it, but it will ultimately take a toll on your relationship. You or your partner may end up feeling sexually deprived or unsatisfied and seek sexual gratification from someone else, which will end your relationship. In a healthy romantic relationship, both partners should feel happy and fulfilled in all aspects of the relationship, including sex.

With that said, there are a few instances in which relationships can withstand bad sex. While these relationships are rare, they do work for some people. This may include a relationship between two people who do not have sexual desire. They may love each other deeply and all other aspects of the relationship may be perfect, but they do not have sex at all and it is no problem for them. Sex is not an essential part of life for every single person. When these people get into relationships with other people who do not need sex, they may be able to make it work based on the other aspects of the relationship.

All in all, it depends on what you and your partner both need in a relationship! To determine whether or not your sexual incompatibility is going to be your demise, you have to know how important sex is to you and your partner. We suggest sitting down and having a talk about it and seeing if it is something that you both can deal with. If not, it's time to say goodbye!

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Bad Boys and Girls Gone Wild: Is A Criminal Background A Dealbreaker?

When it comes to dating, a lot of people have dealbreakers. For instance, a lot of women won't date a guy who doesn't have a job. A lot of men won't date a woman who wears too much makeup. Everyone's dealbreakers vary, but a very common one is having a criminal background. Both men and women agree that they wouldn't date someone with a criminal record. We'd like to argue this dealbreaker and say that when it comes to criminal records, don't count everyone out.

By no means at all are we suggesting you date someone who has committed a serious crime. This includes animal abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence or armed robbery. This also includes murder, obviously…but are there really a lot of murderers out there in the dating scene? Serious crimes are dealbreakers. People who commit these crimes are dangerous and of the lowest moral character. We also think you should steer clear of people with a minor, but lengthy criminal background. Maybe they've committed minor crimes…but they've done so habitually. This shows that they are creatures of habit – bad habit. It also shows that they fail to learn lessons. So when is it okay to date someone with a criminal background?

We think it is okay to date someone with a criminal background if they have one, maybe two minor offenses. So what is considered minor. If they were arrested one time for having some marijuana on them, this is minor. If they were arrested one time for underage drinking, this is minor. These are mistakes that nearly all people make in their youth and it shouldn't affect their dating life as an adult.

With all that said, obviously it is your choice to date whomever you want. If someone's criminal past does not make you uncomfortable, go for it. If their minor criminal background bothers you, stay away. At the end of the day, you need to do what is best for you and whatever makes you happy!

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Keto Diet Plan: Easy Ways To Follow the Ketogenic Diet!

It seems like there's always a new diet craze that everyone is raving about. Some of them are totally crazy (the all chocolate diet) and others are legitimate, like the latest craze, the ketogenic diet. Odds are you've heard about the ketogenic diet, otherwise known as the keto diet. The keto diet is designed to put the body in a constant state of ketosis, which accelerates weight loss by converting fat in the body into energy. How exactly does it put the body into a state of ketosis? We're explaining more about the keto diet below and giving you a great example of what the keto diet plan looks like!

Following The Keto Diet Plan

The keto diet plan puts the body into a state of ketosis and converts fat into energy by eliminating carbohydrates from your diet. When you eat carbohydrates, the body converts the carbs into glucose, which then convert into energy. This is all well and good until you remember that carbohydrates are also notorious for increasing weight gain. The keto diet plan is high-fat and low-carbohydrate, so it forces the body to find an energy source other than carbs. When the body cannot convert carbs into energy, it begins to convert fat into energy. This means you are burning fat and also not consuming carbs that cause weight gain!

One of the hard parts of the ketogenic diet is figuring out exactly what you can eat. A high-fat, low-carbohydrate diet means that you need to consume a lot of healthy fats (no saturated fats) and little to no carbohydrates (no breads, pastas, sugars or soft drinks.) To help get you started, we have put together an example of what one day of the keto diet plan might look like.

Keto Breakfast

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Since consuming a large portion of healthy fats is essential to the keto diet, you'll be seeing a lot of avocado in this diet plan! Avocados are an excellent source of healthy fat. A great example of a keto breakfast might include an avocado, two strips of bacon and an egg (however you prefer it cooked.) Protein is also necessary in the keto diet and eggs are a great source of protein.

Keto Lunch

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Fish is a great staple of the keto diet because it contains both protein and your essential healthy fats. A perfect example of a keto diet plan lunch may include some canned tuna (if you're pressed for time) or grilled salmon (if you want to be fancy). Pair it with some slices of avocado and drizzle it all with olive oil, another source of healthy fats! Toss on some salt and pepper for seasoning and you've got yourself a keto meal!

Keto Snack

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Who could go through the day without having some snacks? We all have that craving for a little something mid-afternoon, but if you're on the keto diet, your snacks need to adhere to the rules for you to get the best weight loss results! (So put those potato chips down…) A great keto snack may include some crispy bacon strips (for that protein) and a nice portion of guacamole (again with the avocados!) This snack will be so good, you won't even crave potato chips anymore!

Keto Dinner

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By the time dinner rolls around, you'll be wondering exactly how you can put together a full meal that falls within the restrictions of the ketogenic diet plan. A good example for a keto dinner is ground beef and veggie lettuce wraps! You can take ground beef (or turkey…or chicken). Give it some light seasoning. Add some diced peppers, onions, and tomatoes. Then, instead of tortilla shells (you know, carbs) wrap it all in large lettuce leaves!

Voila! You have just successfully followed the keto diet plan!

No Scrubs: 5 Dating Dealbreakers For Women

When it comes to dating, there are just certain things that no one wants to deal with. Some things are total red flags that say: “DO NOT DATE THIS PERSON!” When it comes to these “dating dealbreakers,” men and women are a little bit different. Women have some absolute dealbreakers about men that they cannot get past. If you want to know what women absolutely do not want in a man, check out the five dating dealbreakers for women below:

1. He doesn't have a job.

Perhaps the biggest dealbreaker for women is when a man does not have a job. It's one thing if he is transitioning to a different career. It's another if he consistently gets fired from part-time jobs, or if he just refuses to get a job. Having a job means having responsibility and stability. If a man doesn't have these things, he's not a keeper.

2. He doesn't have a car.

Unless he just totaled his car in a freak accident, this is a dealbreaker. Women want their man to have reliable transportation. They don't want a grown man who is riding a bicycle around or taking the bus everywhere! They want a man who can be self-sufficient and get himself where he needs to go…because he has a car.

3. He still lives with his parents and has no justifiable reason to.

This one is a little debatable, because there are certain instances in which someone needs to live with their parents. For example, are his parents sick or elderly and rely on him as a caretaker? Then it is totally understandable and actually respectable for him to be living with them. If he lives with his parents because he just wants to be a bum and have them take care of him at 30 years old, this is a dealbreaker.

4. He's got a criminal background.

Having been arrested for a trivial crime once when you were younger is not a big deal. Having been arrested 10 times for serious crimes is a big deal. If a guy has a lengthy criminal background, consider this a total dealbreaker.

5. He hates animals and/or children.

Some women love animals. Some women love children. Many women love both. For most women, a man who hates animals or children lacks compassion. It also means he'll never want to be a pet owner or a father. That makes hating children and/or animals a complete and utter dealbreaker.

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Taking the Plunge: How Soon Is Too Soon To Get Engaged?

One of the trickier questions when it comes to relationships revolves around getting engaged. With the recent whirlwind romance of Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson, many people are asking, “How soon is too soon to get engaged?” We're discussing the controversial topic right here!

Ariana and Pete got engaged after just a few weeks and the world erupted into a collective frenzy. Many people called it “nonsense” and “crazy.” Others called it romantic and said that “when you know, you know.” So who is right? Is it crazy to get engaged early on in a relationship? Or is it okay if you know that this person is the one? Here's what we think…

In the vast majority of cases, it's crazy to get engaged only a few weeks into a relationship. We would suggest that you date someone for at least a year before you get engaged, honestly. You just don't know someone well enough when you've only been dating for a few weeks or months. It's likely that you haven't even met their close friends or family yet. You may not even know basic things about them, like where they went to elementary school or what their favorite color is. These things aren't vital for a healthy marriage, but you do want to know the person you're going to marry! Getting engaged too early in a relationship usually leads to disaster because both partners didn't know each other well enough. They didn't know what the other person wanted in life. They didn't know what the other person liked or disliked. And in most cases, when you've only dated someone for a few weeks, you have an idealistic idea of them. During the early stages of a relationship, most people are on their best behavior and only show the positive aspects of themselves. If you get engaged too soon, this means that the realistic, sometimes problematic aspects of a person only come out once you're married.

With all that said, we will admit that there is one instance in which it is totally okay to get engaged early on in a relationship. It is totally okay to get engaged early on in a relationship if you were friends with your partner for a long time beforehand. This means that you do know the other person well. You have a history with them and you know their likes and dislikes. You have a pretty firm grasp of who they really are and you know what you are getting into. As far as we know, in the case of Ariana and Pete, they were friends before they started dating! Who knows how close their friendship was, but they obviously feel that they know each other very well. If that is the case, then we're totally on board with their engagement and wish them the best!

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Does Garcinia Cambogia Really Work For Weight Loss?

Obesity is an American epidemic, with millions of people around the country struggling to lose weight and get healthy. While it's the old standard, diet and exercise just doesn't work for everyone. People who fail to lose weight with diet and exercise often resort to drastic measures like liposuction and gastric bypass surgery. These procedures may be effective, but they come with the risk of complications. Not to mention they're insanely expensive! Is there a safer, easier way to lose weight?

Recent studies have shown that the answer to weight problems may be a simple substance found in nature. Many people are finding that garcinia cambogia is an all-natural way to lose weight without spending a fortune or putting your health at risk. As with any new weight loss trick, we've been skeptical about garcinia cambogia. To find out what it's all about, we did some research. Check out everything you need to know about garcinia cambogia for weight loss below:

Garcinia Cambogia Basics

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Garcinia cambogia is extracted from the rind of the gamboge fruit. The gamboge fruit is a melon-like fruit that grows in tropical regions of Asia, America, Australia and Southern Africa. It is very popular amongst the communities in these regions. It is also commonly called the “monkey fruit” because monkeys climb into garcinia trees and eat it!

Garcinia cambogia is known for having various health benefits, like lowering cholesterol and increasing energy. Its primary benefit is accelerating weight loss.

How Garcinia Cambogia Accelerates Weight Loss

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Garcinia cambogia extract is rich in a natural compound called hydroxycitric acid or HCA. HCA offers various weight loss benefits. The first of which is suppressing appetite. Suppressing appetite helps people to avoid over-eating and snacking throughout the day, which are both common things that lead to weight gain. HCA also increases energy levels, making it easier to exercise more often and for longer durations. The main way that HCA facilitates weight loss is by speeding up metabolism. This is especially helpful for older individuals whose metabolism has slowed down with age.

Using Garcinia Cambogia To Lose Weight

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Now, how do you use garcinia cambogia to lose weight? Most of us don't live in the tropical regions where the gamboge fruit grows, so we're not able to obtain garcinia naturally. Fortunately, the weight loss industry has caught on to the many dietary benefits of garcinia. Various manufacturers have started making garcinia cambogia supplements that deliver the weight loss benefits of garcinia cambogia extract in a tiny pill! Looking into garcinia cambogia online, you'll find endless testimonials from satisfied customers who got in their best shape with the help of these supplements. Some users claim that garcinia cambogia supplements led them to lose as much as one pound per day!

There are a few important things to remember if you want to start using garcinia cambogia to lose weight. The first is that you need to check with your doctor before taking any new supplements or starting any new weight loss program. You want to make sure that you are in good health to get the best results. The second is that you need to do your research before purchasing and consuming any new supplements. Look into various brands. Read customer reviews. Read all labels and manufacturing information. You want to make sure that whichever garcinia cambogia supplements you choose are made with pure garcinia cambogia extract. This will not only ensure your safety, but also ensure that you get the optimal weight loss results you desire. The final thing to remember is that you need to be conservative when taking supplements. Never exceed the recommended dosage. While all of our research shows that garcinia cambogia is safe to use, it can produce adverse effects (gastrointestinal upset, vomiting, diarrhea) when used in excess.