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What He Really Wants: 25 Things Men Secretly Love

Do you know what your boyfriend or husband really wants? Men aren't as expressive or open with their needs as women are. They don't often say what they really want or tell you the things they enjoy. We've put together 25 things that men secretly love, but will probably never tell you about. Check them out below!

  1. Romantic, sappy gestures like love notes and anniversary gifts
  2. When you tell them exactly what you think, feel or want
  3. Watching cheesy rom-coms with you
  4. When you tease and make fun of them (just a little)
  5. When you watch sports with him even though you don't want to
  6. Changes in routine that shake things up a little
  7. When you surprise him by cooking his favorite meal
  8. Giving him a nice massage after work
  9. Having breakfast and coffee ready for him when he wakes up
  10. When you at least offer to pay for dinner
  11. Pampering you and making you feel like a princess
  12. Binge-watching your favorite show with you
  13. Binge-watching his favorite show with you
  14. When you let him have time with his friends
  15. When you go out for the night with your girlfriends
  16. Hearing all about your day at work, school, etc.
  17. When you let him in on secrets you've never told anyone
  18. When you initiate sex
  19. When you let him get out of hanging out with your family
  20. …But also when you include him in important family events
  21. Bragging about you to his friends or family
  22. When you brag about him to your friends and family
  23. When you text or call him (but not too much)
  24. Letting him play video games for hours
  25. Spending the day doing absolutely nothing with you

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Mr. Egocentric: 6 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

Are you dating a total jerk? Does your boyfriend talk incessantly about himself and shows little interest in you? It's possible you're dating a narcissist! It can be hard to tell if your boyfriend is just a little misguided or is he's a complete narcissist, so check out these six sings that show your boyfriend's ego is way too big:

1. He Gets Jealous Easily

If he gets jealous really easily, you may be dating a narcissist. A narcissist is overly concerned with what they consider to be “theirs”, so they'll get very pre-occupied with the idea of somebody coming for their territory. So if you find that he gets jealous when there's really no reason to be, he may have a huge ego.

2. He Talks About Himself Constantly

This one goes without saying, but we'll say it anyways: if he talks about himself non-stop, he may be a narcissist. Normal conversations usually cover both people's lives, opinions and interests. If everything is about him, he's totally full of himself.

3. He Doesn't Listen To Anyone

Narcissists think they know it all. For this reason, it's nearly impossible to find them listening to other people. If your boyfriend thinks that only he knows best and he refuses to take advice from anyone, you may be dating a narcissist.

4. He Compares Himself To Others

A narcissist is obsessed with how other people see them. For this reason, they'll often compare themselves to other people. They'll constantly say that they are better than others and act like other people are beneath them to create the appearance of superiority.

5. He Criticizes You

If he picks apart everything you do and constantly criticizes you, he may be a narcissist. Narcissists think that they know everything and that they are superior to everyone, so you'll often find them critiquing other people.

6. He Puts Himself Before You

Narcissists only think of themselves. If he always puts himself before you, he's probably a narcissist. If he's only concerned with his needs and never with yours, he's got a huge ego and only cares about himself.

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What A Guy Wants: 7 Traits Men Look For In A Partner

It's often been said that women are hard to read. You may have heard that it's impossible to figure out what a woman wants or what she's looking for in a relationship. Well, we'd like to argue that men are just as difficult to decipher! What do they want in a partner? Is it all about beauty? What do they value in their romantic partners? We did some digging and found some universal traits that most men look for in a partner and we're about to share them with you! Read on to see seven traits men look for in a partner:

1. Reliability

No one wants to be with someone they can't count on. This means that reliability was one of the most common traits men look for in a partner. They want someone that they know will be there for them. They want to trust that they can depend on the person they're with.

2. Honesty

Who wants to be with a liar? Nobody does! Men value honesty just as much as women do. Men look for partners that they can trust, not ones who are going to deceive them at every turn. They have to know that they're partner is being truthful with them.

3. Intelligence

You may have been told that men value beauty over brains, but that is so not true. Men appreciate intelligence in a partner. They enjoy conversations with their partner about political or societal issues. What? Did you think men didn't care about those things?

4. Kindness

Kindness goes a long way with both men and women. No one wants to be with someone who is nasty and inconsiderate. You need to show that you can be kind and caring, especially to those who are most in need. That's how you'll win his heart.

5. Stability

Movies and television may lead you to believe that there is something intriguing about instability…but there isn't. Men are not looking for someone whose life is a mess. They want someone who can keep it together and stay on the up-and-up.

6. Perseverance

There's something wildly attractive about a woman who is hard-working and determined. For this reason, men look for partners with perseverance. They want to see someone who powers through hardships and never stops fighting.

7. Creativity

Creativity is one of the major traits men look for in a partner. They don't want someone who is bland and boring. They want someone who thinks outside the box and isn't afraid to challenge the status quo. They put great value on creativity and independent thinking.

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Online Romance: 4 Common Myths About Online Dating

With the rise of the internet came the rise of online dating. Online dating is easier than going out and meeting people because it removes the whole, you know, “going out” part. You can stay in the comfort of your own home and swipe through potential love interests, narrowing it down to your top picks. It's kind of like online shopping! While a lot of people are enjoying the benefits of online dating, there are many others who are staying far, far away from it. These people have fed into all the myths about online dating. To quell your fears, let us break down some of those myths and put a rest to them once and for all:

1. It's only for young people.

A lot of people think that online dating is made for millennials, but this is just not the case. Online dating is for people of any age (okay, not under 18, you guys…). In fact, there are entire dating sites dedicated to middle-aged people or senior citizens who are looking to meet someone. Don't fall into the notion that this is just for the youngsters!

2. It's doesn't lead to lasting relationships.

One of the common myths about online dating is that it's just for hook-up's and doesn't produce long-lasting relationships. This is so not true! There are endless couples who met online and have been together for years. (Anyone watch 90 Day Fiance?) Sure, a lot of people use online dating for casual hook-up's – and there's nothing wrong with that – but you can also use it to find your soulmate!

3. You can't trust the people you meet.

This myth needs to be approached carefully. Let us make it explicitly clear that there are dangerous people online. Not everyone is who they claim to be on the internet, so you do need to be careful when meeting someone online. With that said, not everyone is dangerous. Most people are exactly who they claim to be, just a regular person looking to meet someone much like yourself!

4. It's all about looks.

There are many people who steer clear of online dating because they think it's all about looks. After all, potential partners look at your profile picture to determine whether or not they're interested in you. Don't let this deter you, as the reality is that it's not all about looks. While some people may not be into your appearance, there will be tons of others who are. What really matters is how you act, what you say, and the person you are. People will have to give you a chance and get to know you!

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Tech Etiquette: 5 Rules To Follow When Texting Your Partner

Texting is a huge part of our lives. It is the most popular form of modern communication. Now, we all love to text, but are we doing it correctly? There are certain rules to follow when texting, especially when texting your partner. For help in that department, check out our five rules to follow when texting your partner:

1. Don't Argue

Arguments should never take place over text messages. Arguments should be reserved for in-person conversations or phone calls if necessary. This is because it's hard to read someone's emotions and tone through a text message. Arguments can easily escalate and be more than they should be all because someone misinterpreted the tone of a text.

2. Keep It Short and Simple

One of the biggest rules for texting your partner is to keep it short and simple. Don't send them entire paragraphs with unnecessary details. Texts should be to-the-point. Say exactly what you need to say and keep it at that. Texting wasn't meant for long-winded discussions, but rather short reminders or “hello's”.

3. Timing Is Key

It's important to consider the time you're texting your partner. You shouldn't be texting them when they're in the middle of an important meeting or when they're having dinner with a family member. Be considerate of what you may be interrupting and then only text them if it is an emergency. (Actually, if it's an emergency, you might want to pick up the phone and call…)

4. Don't Text Too Often

Listen to us on this one: never text your partner too often. You will drive them insane. If you're texting your partner over and over again, not even giving them time to respond, you're texting them too much. Give them some space and time to read your text and then text you back

5. Know When To Make A Call

The most important rule about texting is to know when you shouldn't text at all. Some conversations should be reserved for phone calls (or ideally in person). This includes anything private, emergencies, disputes, or really just anything serious. These conversations are too heavy for texting and therefore shouldn't be texted.

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Man’s Best Friend: 4 Ways Having A Dog Can Help Your Dating Game

Is your dating game awful? Are you having trouble attracting women? We hate to tell you, but you might need something a little more than your good looks and charm to entice a lady. They say that women flock to men with babies, but women also flock to men with pets! Now, we don't mean just any pet. Walking around with a snake may not attract a lot of women. What we're talking about is dogs! Not only are dogs “man's best friend” – they're also total “chick magnets”. Check out four ways having a dog can improve your dating game:

1. It shows you're compassionate.

Someone who shares their life with an animal is automatically a compassionate person. Animals aren't always easy to deal with. They require a lot of time and patience. Having a dog shows that you can care about something other than yourself. This is especially true if your dog is a rescue dog. It shows that you care about animal welfare and that you wanted to give an animal a good life.

2. It shows you're responsible.

Caring for an animal isn't easy, so having a dog shows that you're a responsible person. This helps your dating game because it shows that you can take care of something and have major responsibilities.

3. It could be common ground.

Having a dog helps your dating game because it creates common ground for you and potential partners. Other dog people will have a reason to approach you and a subject to talk about. It also gives you more places to go to meet people, like dog parks or pet stores.

4. Women just love pets.

This is just a fact. Women love pets and are automatically more attracted to men who have pets. Having a dog with you makes you ten times more attractive and will draw women straight to you like a magnet.

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Psycho Magnet: 5 Traits That Attract Crazy People To You

Do you find that you're attracting all the wrong people? Do you always wind up in relationships with people who, for lack of a better word, are totally insane? It could be that you have the worst luck in the world, or it could be that you have one of the five traits that attract crazy people. Check them out here:

1. Excessive Empathy

While empathy is definitely a positive trait, being too empathetic can put you in a vulnerable situation. Having excessive empathy can make you feel like your partner's inappropriate behavior may be justified. You may even feel like you deserve however they are treating you. This is being far too understanding and empathetic.

2. Codependency

People who are codependent are far more likely to end up in relationships with crazy people. This is because codependent people tend to be more anxious to be in a relationship, so they will accept whichever partner shows them a lot of attention. This often means settling for someone who behaves inappropriately.

3. Extroversion

Extroverts are fun, outgoing and lively. Everyone loves to be around an extrovert, and for this reason, they can attract the wrong people. Most extroverts will talk to anyone and everyone, which means they are likely to get tangled up with someone who is bad for them. It's totally okay to be an extrovert; you just need to be cautious of who you engage with.

4. Introversion

While extroversion is one of the traits that attract crazy people, so I introversion. This is because introverts often appear to be easy targets. They like to keep to themselves, which the wrong people will try to use to their advantage.

5. Insecurity

People who appear insecure or give off an aura of insecurity will often attract crazy people into their lives. Being insecure conveys weakness and being easy to manipulate. The wrong people will pick up on these feelings and know that they can take advantage of this person.

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do: The 7 Stages Of A Breakup

They weren't lying when they said, “breaking up is hard to do.” (We're not exactly sure who “they” are, but they're right!) Breakups are stressful, painful and sometimes downright traumatizing. In fact, breakups are such an ordeal, they occur in multiple stages! Let us fill you in on the seven stages of a breakup:

1. Shock

Immediately after a breakup, you're likely to be in shock. You'll wonder how it happened or why you didn't see it coming. You may feel totally blindsided and not able to comprehend that your relationship is over.

2. Denial

Denial is one of the most difficult stages of a breakup to get past. You'll spend a lot of time denying the fact that you're relationship is really over. You'll convince yourself that you and your ex are just going through a hard time and you'll get back together soon. You'll tell yourself anything, even if it's totally delusional.

3. Isolation

Once the denial has passed and you realize that your relationship is truly done, you'll want to isolate yourself from the world. You might lock yourself in your room and listen to music. You may isolate yourself to your apartment and binge-watch television. You'll avoid your friends and spend all of your time to yourself.

4. Anger

At this point in the breakup, anger is going to set in. You'll start to lash out at the mere mention of your ex. You may even reach out to them and fight with them, telling them how wrong they were to end the relationship. You're feeling a lot of anger and resentment at your ex for putting you in this position.

5. Bargaining

This stage of a breakup is when you start imaging a reunion with your ex. You may start thinking of trying to get them back. You'll start figuring out ways to win them back, like changing your appearance or taking up new hobbies.

6. Depression

This is one of the hardest stages of a breakup. Your stuck in the transition between bargaining and acceptance. Part of you still wants your ex and the other part of you has accepted that it is over. This combination makes you feel incredibly confused and depressed. You'll probably think that you cannot move on with your life because your heart is at a standstill.

7. Acceptance

This is the final stage of a breakup. You have fully accepted that the relationship is over. While you may not be entirely ready to move on, you have at least accepted that you're not going to be with your ex. You can acknowledge why the relationship ended, where both you and your partner went wrong, and how you plan to move forward.

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Romance Management: 6 Dating Tips For People With ADHD

Dating is difficult for everyone, but it can be especially difficult for someone who struggles with ADHD, or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. ADHD alters a person's behavior and may make it hard for them to be in certain social situations, which makes things like dating more complicated. If you or someone you know is trying to navigate the dating scene with ADHD, check out these six dating tips for people with ADHD:

1. Be Open and Honest

Being open and honest is an important part of any relationship, but it's especially important if you have a condition like ADHD. You need to communicate your thoughts and feelings with your partner so that they are aware of what is going on with you. If you're feeling agitated or upset, you need to let them know. It's also important to be open about your ADHD when you're still in the dating process. Sometimes people try to hide their condition from prospective partners, but it ultimately comes out. You need to be honest from the beginning if you want things to work out.

2. Have A Sense of Humor

One of the best dating tips for people with ADHD is to have a sense of humor. This is a great tactic used by anyone who has a mental or physical condition that affects their daily life. There will be times your ADHD is very apparent, and if you feel embarrassed about it, make a joke out of it. This will make you and the person you're with feel more comfortable about the situation.

3. Practice Empathy

It's important to remember that not everything is going to be about you and your struggle with ADHD. There will be times you need to put yourself in your partner's shoes. For most people, this will be the first time they've dated someone with ADHD. They are not always going to know how to deal with things. They won't always know the right thing to do or say, so you can't freak out on them if they make a mistake. Imagine if you were in their shoes, trying to cope with your partner having ADHD.

4. Don't Be Afraid To Ask For Help

Everyone needs help sometimes. It's important that you're not afraid to ask for help. Don't worry about appearing weak or needy. Don't worry about what people may think or say. If things become too much, always ask for the help that you need whether it be from your partner, a friend or a family member.

5. Recognize Your Strengths

Some people feel insecure about having ADHD and they let it define their lives. It's important to remember that you have a lot of things going for you and that ADHD is not who you are. If you're afraid to start dating because you're worried that ADHD might turn people off, remember that there are tons of things that someone will love about you.

6. Take Care Of Yourself First

The most important of all the dating tips for people with ADHD is to remember to take care of yourself first. Don't get in a habit of constantly putting other people's needs in front of your own. Don't get caught up trying to impress a potential partner and forget to take care of yourself in the process. If you really want to find someone to be with, you need to make sure you're on good terms with yourself first.

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Moving On: 5 Ways To Move On From A Long Term Relationship

Breakups are rough, but they're even worse if it's the end of a long term relationship. The longer you've been together, the harder it will be to get past the breakup. You may feel like you'll never get over it but if you take the right steps, you'll be able to move on. We want to help you move forward with your love life, so we've got five ways to move on from a long term relationship. Check them out here:

1. Take Some Time To Yourself

The best way to move on from a long term relationship is to take some time to yourself. If you were in a relationship for years, it's been a long time since you've been on your own. You need to take this time to be alone and focus on yourself. You can start a new hobby. You can read books or watch movies you've never seen. Just take the time to enjoy being alone before you move on to a new relationship.

2. Envision A New Future For Yourself

To move on from a long term relationship, you need to start envisioning a new future for yourself. When you've been in a relationship for a long time, you probably envisioned your future being with your partner. Now that you're not together, you need to imagine what a future without them is going to look like. This may include new career aspirations or moving to a new location. It may include nothing new at all. Either way, you need to look to the future at this point.

3. Take A Critical Look At the Past

When a relationship ends, you spend a lot of time dwelling on it. We don't want you to dwell on the past, but we do want you to look back at your relationship in a critical way. Be honest with yourself about what went wrong. This will help you to realize what you're looking for in your next relationship. It will help you to see what you want in a partner and what you don't want. It will also help you to avoid making the same mistakes you may have made in the past.

4. Spend Time With Friends and Family

Another great way to move on from a long term relationship is to spend time with friends and family. Spending time with your loved ones will distract you from sitting around and feeling sad. It will also help you to see how much the other people in your life care about you and how they are there for you when you need it.

5. Look At Things Positively

It never ever hurts to look at things positively. This can be applied to anything in life, but especially to bad breakups. Focus on all the good things in your life. Focus on all the good things about yourself. Look to the future and think of what great things may lie ahead. This will help you to move on from the end of your long term relationship.

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