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Is “Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater” Really True?

You've probably heard the phrase, “Once a cheater, always a cheater” at some point, right? Many people believe that someone who cheats in a relationship will continue to cheat, either in that relationship or any future ones. Is this really true, though? It turns out, this old saying may not be totally correct…

Sure, there are certain people who are serial cheaters. These people find themselves unable to commit to a relationship physically, mentally, or emotionally. These people are often narcissistic and do not care that they hurt others with their infidelity. This is why their relationships often end very quickly. They always wind up cheating on their partner and then on the next partner…and the next one. The good thing is, serial cheaters are not common.

Isolated incidences of cheating are far more common than serial cheating. Talk to literally anyone you know and odds are, they've either been cheated on or been the person who has cheated at some point in their life. Are all of these people serial cheaters? Definitely not. In most cases, infidelity occurs as a result of poor communication and a faulty relationship. When cheating occurs for these reasons, it's not because one of the partners is a serial cheater. It's because the emotional and physical elements of the relationship had fallen apart, and infidelity suddenly presented itself one way or another.

Now, this is by no means excusing infidelity. Cheating is never okay. Most people have no desire to stay with someone who has cheated, even if it's just once – and they are absolutely right to feel this way! You don't have to stay with anyone who could hurt you in such a deep way and betray your trust like that. However, there are still people who want to give their partner another chance and these are the people who wonder about the validity to “once a cheater, always a cheater.”

If you have experienced infidelity and are choosing to stay with your partner, you need to consider whether they are a serial cheater or not. Is this the first time they have done this? If so, it is likely they have no real desire to do it again. Remember, serial cheaters are rare. Also, what exactly did the cheating entail? Many people consider a quick kiss to be cheating. This kind of cheating is honestly very minor and once you express to your partner that you are not okay with it, it is unlikely they will ever cross that line again.

All in all, “once a cheater, always a cheater” is not true in most cases. It really only applies to a narcissistic person who is a serial cheater. Most normal people in relationships who do commit infidelity are very unlikely to commit it again, which means their relationship can be salvaged if their partner so desires.

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8 Major Signs Your Relationship Is In Trouble

Are you worried that your relationship is headed for a dead end? If you feel like your relationship is on shaky ground, there are always some red flags that can really help you figure things out. Check out eight major signs that your relationship is in trouble:

1. You Never Fight Anymore

We know this may sound contradictory, but not fighting could actually be a bad sign for your relationship.Oftentimes, indifference is worse than anger. If you're not fighting over anything anymore, it means that you no longer care enough to fight.

2. You're Not Having Sex

Sex is a major part of a healthy relationship. Sure, most couples go through dry spells, but if you can't even remember the last time you had sex, consider this a major red flag.

3. You're Annoyed By Things You Once Loved About Your Partner

Did you used to love the way your partner would snort when they laughed, but now you find the mere thought of it nauseating? When your relationship is in trouble, you start to find little quirks that were once endearing to be terribly annoying. It's like you cannot stand even the smallest things about your partner.

4. You Don't Confide In One Another Anymore

Are you sharing secrets with friends and co-workers rather than your partner? Your partner should always be your ultimate confidant, so if you find yourself confiding in others, there's a problem in your relationship.

5. You Don't Think About the Future Anymore

Couples are always looking to the future, especially younger couples. If you're no longer envisioning the future, it could mean that you're no longer desiring a future with your partner.

6. You're Happier When They're Not Around

Are you happier when you're away from your partner? Do you dread coming home from work? This is a huge sign that your relationship is in trouble. If you'd rather be away from your partner than with them, consider things headed towards an end.

7. Your Relationship Feels Like An Obligation

Your relationship should be an enhancement to your life, not an obligation. If you find yourself resenting your partner and looking at them as an obligation rather than a choice, your relationship is definitely on shaky ground.

8. You Don't Include Them In Anything

Do you make dinner plans without inviting them? Are you spending the holidays with family and leaving them out? This is a huge sign that your relationship could soon be over. It's understandable to spend time away from your partner, but if you're not including them in anything you do anymore, it's a red flag.

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What Is the “Seven-Year Itch” and How Can You Overcome It?

Have you ever heard of the “seven-year itch?” The seven-year itch is a very common phrase in relation to marriages and long-term relationships that you've probably heard of at some point. In fact, there's even a classic Marilyn Monroe film named after it! So what exactly does the term mean?

The seven-year itch refers to the point in a marriage where both partners grow tired of one another and find themselves bored with the relationship. The name comes from the fact that this point typically occurs after seven years of being together. Obviously it doesn't have to be exactly seven years, but for many couples it falls around that time. At this point in the relationship, one or both partners fail to see the good in their relationship and are overcome with boredom.

You're probably wondering: What's wrong with this? We all experience a little boredom in relationships, right? Well, the seven-year itch is a little different than your typical love life boredom. After that long period of time spent together, the couple may find themselves totally sick of one another – to the point that they want to leave the relationship altogether. In fact, many cases of infidelity occur during this time because one or both partners feel desperate to experience the company of a new person. It's also no coincidence that many divorces occur exactly around this time.

Now, not every couple experiences the seven-year itch. If you don't consider yourselves lucky. It may be coming later on, or it may never come at all. With that said, if you're one of the many couples who is currently going through it, there is a way to fight it and not allow it to destroy your relationship…

As we explained earlier, the main component of the seven-year itch is boredom. The boredom leads to cheating. The boredom leads to divorce. So ultimately, you want to decrease the likelihood that you and your spouse will grow bored of one another. There are numerous things you can do to liven up your marriage again. This may include changing things up in the bedroom. See if your partner wants to try anything new to spark some more passion in your sex life. You can also try out a new hobby together. Whether it be a yoga class or going on bike rides, doing something together can help you re-build the bond you had in the early stages of your marriage. Whatever you choose to do, make sure that you are putting in a sincere and honest effort so that your partner can see how much you really want to keep your marriage afloat.

With all that in mind, not every couple can overcome the dreaded seven-year itch. If you can really commit yourself to re-igniting the spark you once had, your odds look very good!

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Is This the Exact Moment That Harmless Flirting Turns Into Cheating?

One of the most debated topics when it comes to relationships is this: Is it ever okay to flirt with someone else when you're in a relationship. It turns out, flirting with someone else is relatively harmless when you're in a relationship. Many people just have a flirtatious nature and they don't even realize when they're flirting with another person. With that said, there is a line that shouldn't be crossed when it comes to flirting. Read on to find out the exact moment that harmless flirting turns into cheating…

Do you find yourself flirting with a co-worker? Are you exchanging flirty text messages with no intentions of it ever being something more? These things aren't that serious in the larger scheme of things, but there is one tell-tale sign that shows you've taken things too far. That one sign is lying to your partner about what you're doing or keeping it a secret altogether.

If you have a flirtatious relationship with another person or you interact with other people in a flirtatious way, your partner needs to know about this. When you lie to them about it or keep it a secret, that is when it becomes cheating. See, if you feel the need to lie about your flirting, there's a reason for this. Maybe you're starting to develop actual feelings for the person you've been flirting with. Maybe you plan to take this flirtation to the next level. Either way, it shows that the flirtation has become more than just harmless flirting and is now an actual threat to your real relationship. Otherwise, you would have no issue telling your partner about it.

So if you find yourself erasing flirty text messages so that your partner doesn't see them or you find yourself lying about the last time you spoke to the person you've been flirting with, your flirtation has already become a form of infidelity.

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The Surprising Thing That Nearly Everyone Finds Attractive In A Partner

When it comes to attraction, we all have our own preferences. Some of us like men with beards. Some of us like women with blonde hair. You may look for people with certain hobbies, like playing sports. Perhaps you're interested in what someone does for a living. Attraction is a funny thing, since there's no real explanation for why we each have our own preferences when it comes to what we find attractive. With that said, a recent study showed that there is one surprising thing that almost everyone finds attractive in a partner…

A recent study on attraction and what people around the world find attractive in potential partners revealed that there was one particular thing that almost everyone was attracted to. It turns out, over 75% of people who participated in the study said that they are turned on by a partner who can speak multiple languages! Being multi-lingual was shown to be a leading trait that people from all regions of the world found attractive. So why is it that speaking more than one language gets people hot and bothered more than anything else?

We could probably all agree that learning a second (or third…or fourth…) language is not easy. That's why people who speak multiple languages are universally seen as more intelligent. Who doesn't like intelligence in a partner? Intelligence is often regarded as one of the sexiest things in a person, and speaking multiple languages is like a neon sign that screams, “Hey! I'm really smart.” This most likely has a lot to do with why so many people find being multi-lingual as an attractive trait.

Another implication of being multi-lingual is that you are more cultured than the next person. Now who wouldn't want to date someone who was cultured? Being cultured, having spent time in various areas of the world, having knowledge of cultures other than your own… These are all things that most of us can agree are very attractive. So when we find out that someone can speak a variety of languages, we automatically feel more attracted to them.

So you heard it here, folks. If you want people to find you more attractive, it's time to pick up Rosetta Stone or book a trip to another country. You'll have people falling at your feet in no time!

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Find Out Why Having A Crush On Someone Else Can Be Good For Your Relationship!

Have you ever been interested in someone else when you were in a relationship? Have you had a crush on someone other than your partner? Having these feelings can come with a lot of guilt, as you probably feel like you should only be attracted to your partner and for the most part, that's true! In an ideal world, we would only ever be attracted to the person we were with. However, we're still human beings and feeling attracted to someone else is only natural. It turns out, it's totally okay to have a rush on someone when you're already in a relationship. In fact, having a crush on someone can actually be good for your relationship! Read on to find out why…

If you find yourself feeling attracted to someone else when you're in a relationship, don't sweat it. It's okay to have a crush on someone else. What's not okay is acting on it. As long as you keep that person at a distance and never act on your feelings, your attraction remains a harmless crush and should not interfere with your relationship. We all get these harmless crushes and they can actually be good for relationships!

When you've been with the same person for a long time, it's very common to fall into a routine. When you fall into this routine, you might find yourself bored with your partner and the relationship in general. Having a crush on someone else can actually help this situation because it allows you to fantasize about what it's like to be with someone else. This doesn't mean you don't love your partner anymore or that you're going to leave them. It just means that you are engaging in some minor, harmless escapism. As long as this fantasy remains in your head and never becomes a reality, you're not doing anything wrong.

You may find that your little crush goes away rather quickly and once the fantasizing stops, you feel excited about your partner and your relationship again. Many people have noticed that having a small crush has actually reignited their feelings for their partner and led to a better relationship!

With that said, if you find yourself really wanting to act on your crush, then it could become a problem. You don't want a crush to turn into infidelity. So if you cannot restrict this crush to your fantasies, it's best to just end your relationship.

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Should You Care That Your Partner’s Friends Don’t Like You?

We all know that relationships come with their fair share of trials an tribulations. One of the toughest ones to tackle is when your partner's friends don't like you. This is a very common occurrence, which means a lot of people are wondering how to handle it. What can you do when your partner's friends don't like you? Should you even care that your partner's friends don't like you? Find out what we think below…

So your partner's friends totally hate your guts. They can't stand to be around you and think that their friend should dump you immediately. What can you do? Well, the first thing you can do is talk to your partner about it. Ask them if they know why their friends don't like you. Get some insight as to what the problem might be. If your partner doesn't know or just won't tell you, your next option is to confront their friend's directly. This doesn't have to be an angry confrontation. It can be an innocent inquiry, just asking if they dislike you or there is something about you that is upsetting them. Hopefully, they will be upfront and tell you exactly what the problem is and you can go from there.

Now, if they choose to not tell you what the problem is, don't worry about it. it probably means that they have no legitimate reason to dislike you or they are afraid to tell you what their reason is. In any case, you shouldn't care. In these instances, you should only worry about what your partner think of you. Their friends are judging you for an unfair reason or one that they cannot support strongly enough to own up to. When this happens, just write it off and ignore it.

On the other hand, what if they have a totally legitimate reason to dislike you and they shared that with you? Perhaps they think that you treat their friend poorly. Maybe they know of something bad that you did in the relationship. Or it could be that you've been rude to them before. If they have a legitimate reason like any of these, and they actually explain that to you, it means there is work that needs to be done on your partner. You need to apologize to them for the way you have acted. You need to show them that you are treating their friend well. Whatever their reason was you need to show them that you will never act like that again and that their approval means a lot to you.

All in all, whether or not you should care that your partner's friends don't like you depends entirely on their reasoning. If they dislike you for no good reason, forget them. If they dislike you because you did something wrong, make it right!

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The One Thing You Should Do Every Day For A Happy Relationship

Having a healthy, happy relationship isn't easy for anyone. Relationships take hard work and it's important to really put in the effort if you want to make your relationship last. When it comes to striving for a healthy relationship, there are endless tips out there that long term couples will give you. All of these tips and tricks are important and very helpful, but we've found that there's one major tip that all happy couples seem to follow. It turns out doing this one thing every day can help you have a healthy, happy relationship!

So what is this great secret to long-lasting love? Well, it's all about communication. The one thing you should make a point of doing every single day is talking to your partner. That probably sounds super easy, right? I mean, who doesn't talk to their partner every day? This is where communication really becomes key. There's a difference between talking at your partner and really communicating with them. How can you tell that difference?

When we say that you should talk to your partner every single day, we mean that you should strive to have at least one meaningful conversation with one another every day. A meaningful conversation can be talking about how your day was at work. It can be talking about something that happened with a friend or family member. It can even be sharing a silly story about something funny you saw or heard. Even if it's just five minutes of laughing and talking about something like this, you'll find that both you and your partner will feel closer that day.

A meaningful conversation is not talking about daily chores, bills, or any sort of argument. Sure, these are vital parts of communicating with your partner and they do need to be discussed, but you cannot count them as your meaningful conversation of the day. This is because things like finances and household duties are the common burdens of life. While essential to life, these things become nuisances in a relationship and weigh the couple down. When you make a point of having at least one real conversation every day that is about something meaningful, you keep the line of communication with your partner open. You can still see one another as someone that you can open up to and be vulnerable with, rather than someone you're just sharing your daily responsibilities with. When you can still maintain that open line of communication, you're just one step closer to having a healthy, happy relationship!

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How Can You Balance Work and Your Relationship?

Work is a part of everyone's life – well, almost everyone. Most people spend much of their adult life working. You have to work so that you can take care of yourself and support yourself, right? While work is a major part of life, it can take a major toll on your relationship. Depending on your job, you may spend hours away from home working overtime. You may have to go on frequent business trips. Maybe you work a regular 9 to 5 job but it's become so mentally taxing that you don't have the energy to focus on your love life at all. Whatever the case may be, if you have found that work is affecting your relationship, you need to find balance.

So how exactly can you balance work and your relationship? There are several things you can do that will help you find time for your relationship without sacrificing your work. The first thing you need to do is look at your schedule. Are you working overtime every single week? Are you sticking around work for a little while after clocking out, just to help out with a few things? If either of these is the case, you have to realize that your relationship is just as important as your job is. Actually, it's more important. You can replace your job; You can't replace your partner. It could be time for you to prioritize your partner over your work and this could require taking a stand. If you've been working too much overtime, have a discussion with your employer and see if you can take turns with another employee staying after and doing the extra work that needs to be done.

Another way that work interferes with a relationship is the mental exhaustion and burnout that many jobs can cause. Even if you're working the standard forty hours, you may come home too exhausted to even function, let alone spend time with your partner. Your job may be occupying the entirety of your mind, making it impossible to give your relationship the attention it needs. If this is the problem, you have to find a way to simultaneously de-stress and spend time with your partner at once. This could involve finding a hobby to do together that brings you closer together and further away from work. This may be practicing yoga, painting, playing music, going for walks. These are all activities that will calm your mind and help you re-connect with your partner at the same time.

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3 Things You Can Do When Your Partner’s Parents Don’t Like You

When it comes to relationships, there are so many problems that can come up. Sure, we know that sounds pessimistic, but it's true! One of the most common problems in a relationship is your partner's parents not approving of you. For most people, it's important that their boyfriend or girlfriend's family likes them. So it's pretty painful to find out their parents can't stand you. It can also take a huge toll on the relationship, especially if your partner really values their family's opinion. So what should you do if you find yourself in this predicament? Check out three things you can do when your partner's parents don't like you:

1. Talk To Your Partner About It

If you feel like your partner's parents don't like you, the first step is to bring it up with your partner. Ask them how their parents really feel about you. Find out if there's something you did wrong. If you're really bold, you can even go right to the source and ask their parents if you did something to offend them. This will get things right out on the table and help everyone involved move forward.

2. Do Some Self-Reflection

If your boyfriend or girlfriend's parents don't like you, it could be time to do some self-reflection. Try stepping outside of yourself and seeing things from their point of view. Do they have a valid reason to not like you? Were you rude or offensive to them? Do you mistreat their son or daughter? If so, you'll realize that you need to make some major changes and hopefully these improvements will change the way that they see you. On the other hand, if you cannot identify a valid reason for them to dislike you, then you should just brush it off and ignore them. If this can't be done, it's time to move on to your last option…

3. Consider Breaking Up

The last option when your partner's parents do not like you is to end the relationship. This is the best choice when you have a partner who really values their parent's opinion. If the fact that their parents dislike you has caused your partner to become distant or push you away, it's time to just call it quits. This is especially true if their parents dislike you for no good reason or for something you cannot change. If their parents have judged you unfairly and decided they don't like you and your partner goes along with this, then you are probably better off moving on.

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