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25 Relationship Habits You Need To Drop When You Turn 30

Romance isn’t always about the undying love you have for your partner. It isn’t about getting roses or a box of chocolates on Valentine’s Day. A committed and satisfying relationship can make people feeling healthy and happy. But successful relationships are not born, they are made. Successful, long-lasting relationships aren't just about rainbows and butterflies. If you want to be in a happy, healthy relationship or marriage, you need to have respect, communication, and lots of good habits from both people.

Speaking of habits, you’d be amazed with the insane number of annoying, bad dating habits people have. In some circumstances, these habits have become so disturbing, rude, and cruel to the point that some men and women are opting out from the dating scene altogether.  Successful and healthy relationships can be created and destroyed by the way you behave and treat your boyfriend or girlfriend each day.  If you’ve been dating for some time, and still aren’t in a relationship, maybe it’s time to take a good look at yourself. If you look deeply, it’s possible that it’s your bad habits or personality that is making your dates consider not having a second date with you.

So, if you’re looking for a relationship or thinking about dating that special someone, then don’t withhold your feelings, avoid drinking too much, don’t stalk their exes on Facebook, and stop splitting your double cheeseburger every night.

Below is a list of 25 bad habits that you need to quit by the time you're 30:

  1. Taking a nap or sleeping on a futon
  2. Drinking until you are dead drunk and blacked out
  3. Wearing dresses or clothes that don't adequately cover your body or ass
  4. Staying in hostels or dorms, especially with strangers
  5. Obsessing over your high school or college sweetheart
  6. Swearing or dropping the “f-bomb” every 5 seconds
  7. Going to bed with your makeup still on
  8. Expecting a man to save you
  9. Expecting a man to do all the wooing
  10. Staying out all night
  11. Kissing 21-year-old's at parties
  12. Dating 21-year-old's or teenage boys
  13. Going to nightclubs and getting drunk every weekend
  14. Always tell yourself that you will settle down when you get older
  15. Staying with your parents
  16. Dating or being in a relationship with someone who still lives with their parents. Though, there might be some real legitimate and compelling reasons for it.
  17. Borrowing money from your parents or friends to take someone on a date because you’re broke and not looking for a job.
  18. Having multiple one-night stands with friends or strangers
  19. Making out or misbehaving with your BFF's at parties or bars for attention
  20. Making out with your boyfriend at parties or bars seeking attention
  21. Making out with your girlfriend at parties or bars for attention
  22. Obsessing or loving someone you haven't seen in the last five to ten years
  23. Still crushing on Justin Bieber
  24. Declaring an entire gender “jerks”
  25. Using Tinder to date or pick up guys or girls

There you go. If you’re looking for a partner or want to be in a healthy relationship, get rid of these bad habits as soon as you can.

5 Ways To Let A Woman Know You’re Interested Without Saying a Word

How can you tell a woman you like her without actually telling her?Well, it turns out that it's all about body language. According to experts, 55 percent of our communication is expressed with our body, while only 7 percent is expressed with our words.  The remaining 38 percent originates from our tone of voice. So, with our posture, mannerisms and eye contact we can let someone know we're interested in them.

Here are five body language clues that a man can use to show a woman he's attracted to her:

1. He Touches His Face

A man who's interested in a girl will make her look at his face. He does this by touching his face at various times. He might also touch his ears, scratch his chin, run his fingers through his hair, or lick his lips – all of this screams that he’s attracted to her. By the way, all of these body language signs are also seen in women when they’re attracted to a man. One big reason both men and woman touch or lick their lips when they see someone attractive or sexy is because lips are one of the most erogenous zones in the human body. So, we subconsciously feel good when we touch them.

2. He raises his eyebrows

When a guy is excited, the pupils of his eyes will become wider than usual. When this occurs, the eyebrows rise and fall as the eyes get bigger. If a woman talks to a man and he feels attracted to her, you can easily see that his eyebrows go up and down while having a conversation with her. Body language specialists also report that a man will become more lively when talking to a girl that he feels attracted to, as he is trying to lure her in.

3. He Fidgets With His Drink

If you see a guy playing with his drink while speaking with a lady, it doesn’t mean that he’s bored or worried. Instead, he’s actually into her. Guys, who are sexually attracted to a girl, might play with things using their hands. For instance, he’ll try to peel off the label of his beer bottle, adjust his watch, tie, undo his cuff links, etc.  The fidgeting will become more pronounced the more attracted he is.

4. He Leans Towards Her

If a man feels interested in a woman, he’ll lean towards her. He’ll also look into her eyes. If he keeps looking into her eyes while having a conversation with her, it’s an indication that he’s interested.

5. He Touches Her

While dating a woman, if a man feels attracted to her, he’ll subconsciously touch her throughout the whole date. Even the most sensitive and shy guys will attempt to nudge her elbow, hand, or back. The challenging part for any woman here is to understand whether these delicate touches are accidental or on purpose. If it’s on purpose, then his intentions are clear and he is interested.

What Is The Key Component of the Best Relationships?

There will be problems in relationships, even in the best relationships. But have you thought that a lot of the issues in relationships, particularly the recurring ones, are the outcome of people getting involved in a relationship that isn’t right for them?Even if the relationship looks amazing

or the both partners feel happy and satisfied, that doesn’t always mean that it’s the perfect kind of relationship for you.

We have seen many couples staying in ill relationships, and when asked why they are still in relationships that aren't right for them, the answers they gave are quite obvious – it's no big deal, my friends love them, my family loves them, etc.  Some couples say that there’s nothing necessarily wrong with it. Some say that they don’t want to be alone and decided to put up with this one as they don’t think they could find a better fit. When asked how they ended up with a relationship that is a poor fit for them, most said they just started dating, and this was the best they could do.

Here’s what we think – if you want something that fits you well, you’ll have to know what fits you in the first place. For instance, if you’re a guy with an athletic body, wearing something big and bulky isn’t going to make you look good. The same thing applies if you’re a curvy woman. So, in both cases, you need to wear something that’s more structured and tailored. Over the course of their lives, men and women eventually figure out what types of clothes tend to fit them well. But, we don’t think that most people intend to put the same effort into figuring out what’s a good fit for them or what works for them when it comes to relationships or choosing partners. We also see that men and women are trying for many years to fit themselves into relationships that aren’t exactly right for them. Most people would date individuals who looked good on paper, but didn’t have the qualities they wanted in reality.

For some people it can take many months or years to figure out what kind of partner they want. It’s a long, hard process of self-exploration that’s worth it. Why? Because by then you’ll be able to be more selective and ensure that your relationship is actually the one you always wanted. If you want to have a fantastic and healthy relationship, we have to spare some time and effort at knowing ourselves.

If you can’t trust yourselves and aren’t being true to yourselves, then we can safely say that you are not participating in the relationship. And if we don’t know what we want from a romantic relationship and want makes us truly happy, then the chances of accidentally getting involved in one are pretty small. So, before you embark on a new relationship, take some time to think about what you want and need to do if you want to see yourself in a happy and long-lasting relationship.

Are You Overly Attached To Your Girlfriend? Take This Quiz To Find Out!

When you’re in a relationship, bonding with a partner is a natural part of falling in love and getting to know someone. But, things will get a little odd if you’re overly attached to your boyfriend or girlfriend. Getting overly attached to someone will land you in the category of unhealthy emotional bonding.

When you truly love your girlfriend, you shouldn’t possess or keep her because this will make your girlfriend distance herself from you and you run the risk of losing the relationship. Instead, you should respect her autonomy and spirit. True intimacy is always about maintaining the balance between bonding and letting go to allow the relationship to thrive.

So, are you overly attached to your girlfriend? Not sure? Well, below is a quiz for you that will help you determine your bonding pattern with your girlfriend.

  1. Do you cling to your girlfriend?
  2. Do you want to possess her?
  3. Do you constantly think about your girlfriend?
  4. Do you think you are obsessive about your girlfriend after you have sex?
  5. Do you often get anxious or afraid that your partner might abandon or betray you someday?
  6. Do you feel nervous when she doesn’t call or text you every day?
  7. Does your girlfriend think that you’re trying to suffocate or control her?
  8. Do you have a feeling that your life will be meaningless without her?
  • If you answered “Yes” 6-8 times – it indicates that you’re extremely over-attached to your girlfriend.
  • If you answered “Yes” 4-5 times – it indicates that you’re moderately attached to your girlfriend.
  • If you answered “Yes” 2-3 times – it indicates that you’re somewhat overly attached to your girlfriend.
  • If you answered “Yes” 0-1 times – it indicates that you have a healthy level of emotional bonding with your girlfriend.

Some men have a tendency to get overly attached to women. This happens particularly after sex. These men bond quickly and fuse with a woman to such an extent that they can’t scale back and get detached from her. Later, they start thinking about her constantly and become obsessive. Humans are sexual beings. So, for some guys, if they haven’t had sex in a while, they can get quite desperate and needy compared to men who are already in a committed relationship.  Being in this position makes men, as well as many women, susceptible to getting overly attached. For example, if a man is extremely overly attached to his partner and he doesn’t hear from her for a few days, he can become anxious and scared of losing her of being rejected or abandoned. This isn’t healthy for the relationship, and it’s a total turn-off for most women.

So, what is the solution to becoming possessive or overly attached to your partner? The right approach will be to focus on strengthening your self-esteem and confidence, and addressing and getting rid of your fears and insecurities, including the fear of rejection or abandonment. Addressing your tendency to get overly attached to your partner will enable you to have a happier and more pleasurable relationship.

6 Things Women Do That Turn Men Off

Let’s be honest; hot, beautiful women have a way easier time getting guys to like them compared to women who are “average.” But just because they’re beautiful and lucky doesn’t always mean they’ll win. It’s possible for a man to end a relationship with a girl even if she looks like Angelina Jolie.

Here are some things women do that turn men off, no matter how pretty she is:

1. Always Talking Negatively

Negativity and depression are contagious, no doubt about it. No person wants to feel bad while dating someone and even the most positive and confident man will subsequently get dragged down if he’s constantly bombarded with negativity. A man will eventually run away from a woman who is always depressed, whining, and complaining.

2. Not Bathing

This applies to everyone. If you want to make people come close to you, you’ll need to bathe and smell good. Not taking a bath means you’ll smell like death, and that’s a turn-off.

3. Being Overly Aggressive

There are plenty of angry and overly aggressive women who are dealing with personal issues. But, unfortunately, these ladies continue to go on dates with men without dealing with their anger problems. If a guy happens to date one of these women, and when he discovers her anger issues, he will usually run the other way because he thinks that woman might be unstable. It’s not possible to have a happy and healthy relationship with someone that you hate or feel bitter towards. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or woman, if you haven’t dealt with your anger issues, it may be time to stop dating.

4. Always Talking About Her Ex

A man hates it when he hears his girlfriend always talking about her ex. This also applies to guys too, and it’s not much different. It’s an indication that she is still in love with her ex, he is still on her mind, and this guy’s a rebound. And no man wants that.

5. Acting Desperate and Insecure

Being desperate or needy is unattractive in romantic relationships. Desperation or neediness is something people can smell from a distance, and it will drive away any man. It’s not easy to hide it. We understand people can be desperate if they haven’t been in a relationship for a long time, but walk away if you feel desperation manifesting inside of you. Another thing that turns off a man is when he discovers a woman who can’t handle her insecurities. So, get all your fears and insecurities figured out before you start dating. There are many cases of good relationships that have been ruined because of insecurities.

6. Having No Ambition Or Motivation

A man gets turned off by a lady who has no motivation or ambition to do anything, discover anything or even try anything out. It’s common for men to encounter a woman who wants them to have a great career, be ambitious, motivated, driven and have a vibrant and exciting life to offer. Equally, men also like to date women who have the same attributes. Most guys want a life partner, not a pet.

Other things that turn men off while looking for a woman are: if they’re social media obsessed, play dumb, smoke, hide their real personality, act overly dramatic, etc. Therefore, if you’re a woman reading this and you’re doing any of the following, stop immediately.

5 Reasons Why Dating an Alpha Woman Is a Great Decision

If you want to have a relationship with a strong-ass, confident woman, you need to be one confident man. And if you manage to be in a committed relationship, then we can safely say you'll be rewarded with a challenging, satisfying and thrilling partnership. Why? Because an alpha woman knows what she wants in a relationship and can communicate it. She’s adventurous and has both the motivation and strength to try new things. She has no issue taking control when needed, which allows her partner to sit back and relax. Overall, alpha women are the best of them all.

Below are seven reasons why dating an alpha woman is the best decision a man can make:

1. She Knows Her Worth

An alpha woman never dates jerks. She knows all too well that she doesn’t have time for that. She knows that she deserves to be treated like a goddess. An alpha woman doesn’t like to play games. She knows her self-worth and also knows that she’s great on her own. Confident, strong ladies don’t like to have relationships with men who won’t stick around for them and aren’t worthy of them.

2. She Doesn't Play Games

If you’re looking for a real life partner and want to have a committed relationship, you need someone who isn’t going to fool around. An alpha woman doesn’t like to play games and waste her time by having a boyfriend who's just looking for a good time. Instead, she would like to date someone who will share his life with her. She’s open to making compromises, but she’ll never sacrifice anything that will make her lose her personality and defines her as a person.

3. She Can Take Care Of Herself

Unlike other women, an alpha woman likes taking care of herself. She might be high-maintenance, but it’s because she can take care of herself, and don’t necessarily need a man to provide for her. She’s independent. However, an alpha woman also knows how to balance being tough and showing softness and vulnerability in certain situations, and she doesn’t need anyone to remind her of it. An alpha woman wants to be with a man because she wants him, not because she needs him.

4. She’s Never Boring

An alpha woman is unpredictable. She isn’t afraid to speak her mind and challenge the status quo. An alpha woman will never back down during uncomfortable or painful moments because she wants to show others how she can take care of challenging situations. Besides, she wants to show who she is.

5. She’s Super-Ambitious

An alpha woman has high ambitions about her career and life goals, and she’s ready and willing to work hard and sacrifice for them so that she can reach where she wants to be. That’s why alpha women, when it comes to dating, are looking for a relationship with a man who can handle their ambitions. Also, he should have aspirations, career and life goals of his own, so he too can be with her on the way to the top. As alpha women are strong and confident, they can expect a lot in return. If she happens to be a highly capable woman or a high achiever, she’ll prefer to date and have a relationship with men who are of the same standards.

5 Tips That Will Help You Date an Over-Thinker

When it comes to dating and relationships, we want someone who's honest and straightforward. But sometimes we have the tendency to overthink and struggle with it. So, who is an over-thinker? An over-thinker is just a person who needs to have a little extra reassurance in their relationship. For some men and women, this is a little extra work for their partners. However, if you make the extra effort in your relationship with an over-thinker, it will be very rewarding.

Below are some things you need to know to make your relationship work if you’re dating an over-thinker:

  1. If you’re looking for someone who will listen to your thoughts, worries, desires, hopes, and dreams, then this is the person you want to have as your life partner. The best people are those who sit there and simply take in everything a person has to say and accept it. And over-thinkers are the kind of people who will do just that.
  2. Some of the things over-thinkers say are irrational, but listen to them anyways. The mind of an over-thinker is anything but simple. Over-thinkers have a tendency to over-analyze everything. They regularly run over details and often freak out at things most men and women won’t find odd or unusual. So, if you happen to have a boyfriend or girlfriend who overthinks and find themselves in situations like this, don’t call them crazy, rather let them vent.
  3. Sometimes over-thinkers are told to relax. Over-thinkers hate this. They only want other people to tell them to stop overthinking when it needs to be. To be honest, over-thinkers are desperate just to inhale some fresh air, exhale all of their worries, and loosen up once in a while. If your girlfriend is an over-thinker, she needs a little help to do that, just like any other overthinking person. When over-thinkers are feeling down or depressed, they need someone to reel them back in. Otherwise, they’ll spiral further down off the ledge, unless someone stops them.
  4. When things aren’t going well, over-thinkers need their partners to tell them they understand. You see, most over-thinkers are accustomed to handling things on their own; it’s the over-thinker's way. But at certain times, it’s nice just to have someone to help carry or handle whatever baggage they have to bear. But more than anything else, over-thinkers just want someone who will be honest and respectful of them, and someone who is going to stay, and they’ll always be appreciative and reciprocate that loyalty.
  5. Over-thinkers want to have partners who are honest and straightforward. They want to date and be in a committed relationship with someone worthy of their time and love. And once they get that from their spouses, they have a lot to give. There’s no doubt that over-thinkers worry about anything and everything. That being said, if you say something to an overthinking individual, he or she will become busy decoding all possible meanings. And, often, they’ll probably create a problem that isn’t even there to start with. So, if you say something significant regarding your relationship to your overthinking girlfriend, be open, honest and direct.

The Number One Reason She Doesn’t Want Another Date With You

First dates are always awkward. It’s okay to feel that way, as both people don’t know much about each other. Most men and women tend to refrain from showing their true colors or personality on the first couple of dates because they are afraid they’ll get rejected. But, by hiding who we really are and withholding our thoughts and feelings, we’re doing a disservice to ourselves.

In dating and relationships, rejection is inevitable. It’s a part of the dating process. When dealing with rejection, it’s imperative to understand that being yourself is the more challenging thing to do. Instead, you think you’ll be better off if you put on an act. If you’re okay with this approach, any criticism you feel will not be a direct attack on you who you are as an individual. Though, it’s natural to feel scared to be yourself during the first two dates. But if the relationship gets a chance to nurture, your true colors will come out eventually.

So, what does it really mean to be yourself?

Sometimes in life, when it comes to dating, most of us put on an act. During the first few dates, we tend to be more polite and considerate. We pretend that we’re interested in topics that she is interested in, even if we aren’t. We partake in tasks and activities that we wouldn’t normally do or enjoy, rather than being open and honest. Sooner or later, our act gets exposed and she eventually discovers who we really are. And this is the reason she's not asking you for a second date.  Being yourself isn’t holding you back from who you are with your family, friends, and coworkers. This is why some people like double dating, because it gives both parties the chance to see how their dates are around their buddies. It is very different from who they are when they are in a one-on-one encounter.

Do you know what you’re looking for in a partner or a relationship?

During the first, second, or third dates, it’s difficult to communicate what you’re looking for in a partner or a relationship. In most situations, we don’t know what we’re really looking for. The harsh truth is that many of us go on dates without knowing what we want. Dating gives us the opportunity to witness and interact with different types of people and relationships. Still, if you’re firm about getting into a serious and committed relationship, don’t get involved with a woman who isn’t sure about what she wants, unless you’re adamant about taking the risk of getting hurt. However, these opinions and feelings eventually will change as you and your girlfriend get to know one another, but you’ll need a little luck and a lot of honesty and patience.

Breakups are tough and painful no matter how you do them, but they’re easier if done earlier in the relationship. Ending things with your partner early, between the first and fifth date, will be easier because both of you are less emotionally invested in the relationship.

Instead of focusing too much on how to be a good date, focus on how to love being yourself. You’ll be surprised how successful your dating life and relationships will be if you feel confident, secure, and comfortable with yourself from the beginning.

6 Ways Facebook Is Destroying Your Relationship

Not all infidelities are the same. They come in all shapes and sizes. The most obvious kind is the one where someone secretly has an intimate physical and emotional relationship with a person who is not his or her partner. Most people say you’re cheating on your spouse if you flirt with someone other than your boyfriend or girlfriend. But now, in the digital era, thanks to social media, there is a new type of affair that is more and more evident. It’s called digital infidelity. It's like emotional infidelity, except for the fact that it’s happening via social media. Apart from looking for potential mates through online dating sites and dating apps, more and more people are looking for love or affairs on Facebook. Did you know that remote infidelity by using Facebook can ruin your relationship?

Here are six ways that the social networking site Facebook is destroying your relationship:

1. Using Facebook excessively can result in conflict with your romantic partner

If someone is addicted to Facebook, he or she is more likely to get into conflict with his or her partner. It’s been reported that men and women who are in relationships but use Facebook excessively are inflicted with terrible outcomes like infidelity, breaking up, and even divorce.

2. Bragging on Facebook is doing you more harm than good

So, now you’re in a relationship and you want your friends and others to know that you aren’t lonely or single anymore. But, according to a new study, it’s been discovered that men and women who constantly brag about their significant others tend to be more insecure and less happy. Also, most people are annoyed by folks who consistently share updates and brag about their relationships.

3. Young relationships can be adversely affected by excessive Facebook usage

People who use Facebook a lot are highly likely to get into conflict with their spouses, especially if the couples are young.

4. Using Facebook excessively can increase jealousy

Excessive use of Facebook can spark jealousy in a relationship. There are many factors responsible for it. Facebook users can get jealous if they see more information on what their partners are doing. This can result in couples finding it difficult not to stalk their partners on Facebook, or create misunderstandings with their boyfriend or girlfriends.

5. Your selfies on Facebook are making your partner feel less appreciated and supported

If you happen to be someone who posts or shares too many photos of your friends and events than those you snap with your partner, he or she will feel less appreciated and supported. So, if you’re sharing more pictures of your friends than your girlfriend, it’s time to evaluate your actions.

6. There is a link between Facebook and breakups or divorce

If you want to be in a relationship or marriage that is happy and long-lasting, then stay away from social media sites. New research has found that men and women who use various social media sites, particularly Facebook, can be a predictor of a breakup or divorce. So, if you’re married or dating, it’s for the best that you limit your Facebook and other social media usage.

8 Ways Women Wish Their Boyfriends Would Say “I Love You”

Being in love is a wonderful thing. No doubt the woman in your life loves you and wants all the good things in her love life. Sure, there are times when you probably get angry or frustrated with your girlfriend, who is always asking you to say those three special words, “I love you.” This might seem trivial to you, but it means more than anything to her in the entire world. Don’t get annoyed telling your girlfriend, “I love you” again and again. Because, if you truly love your girlfriend, it will never stop, period. After all, when you love someone, why would they want you to stop saying it to them?

Here are some simple ways you can tell your girlfriend you love her without saying “I love you” again and again:

1. Kiss her on the forehead

This gesture isn’t very highly rated and encouraged. When it’s done perfectly, it’s incredibly intimate and sweet.

2. Send her thoughtful texts

Women always love to have a real conversation, but they’ll be very appreciative if you send them a cute or flirty text during the middle of a busy day. This will let them know that you’re thinking of them, and girls want their boyfriends to think of them. Want some bonus points? Then send a romantic text to your girlfriend when she wakes up in the morning and goes to bed at night.

3. Show her your vulnerable side

You don’t need to show your soft side to everyone you know. But, you can show your soft side to your significant other because it will help them to know and understand who you really are as a person. So, don’t be scared to be vulnerable and emotionally intimate with your girlfriend.

4. Cook for her

Women want their lovers to cook for them and they really love it.  Some say that it’s very appealing and sexy for guys.

5. Introduce her to your friends

When you’re out, hanging out or having fun with your buddies, don’t forget to bring along your girlfriend and introduce her to them. Women really do expect it from their partners.

6. Give her chocolate

This one isn’t surprising at all. Every girl’s face will light up when they hear the word, “chocolate.” So, bring your girlfriend chocolates whenever you can. We are totally serious.

7. Keep your word

A woman feels incredibly attracted to a man who lives by his word and actually does the things he says. It doesn’t matter if those tasks are big issues or small ones. It’s an indication of respect and admiration he has for the woman he loves and cares about.

8. Accept her quirks with admiration and without hesitation

No two people are the same. We are all weird in our own way. Most people really like it when other people love their particular quirks. So, guys, no need to be afraid. When you’re dating a girl, don’t hesitate to tell her that you adore and love the way she sings or dances or even laughs!