Often therapists and relationship counselors meet people who are very successful and practical, but not very kind, not very romantic and sort of impatient in their relationships. These men and women usually ask therapists and counselors what changes they can make, as a person, to be more loving, caring, kind and appreciative towards their partners. It’s an important question most relationship experts love to answer.
First let’s be clear on one thing, if you’re a man or a woman with characteristics mentioned above, remember, there are a lot of couples who are struggling with this issue. You aren’t alone here. On the surface, it seems like you need to make a lot of changes for someone to become more loving and kind. But, here’s the good news. There is one effective way that can help your significant other to feel more loved and appreciated. And it all waters down to two simple words, “Undivided Attention.” Think about this for a moment. In today’s world, with incessant demands for attention coming from our work, family, etc., when was the last time you sat down with your girlfriend or boyfriend and gave them your undivided attention?
So what does “undivided attention” really mean?
Undivided attention in a romantic relationship means that when your spouse is talking to you, you listen to them without getting distracted by anything else. You’ll realize if you’re doing it properly if you hear not only what he or she is saying, but you understand why they’re saying it. If you continue with this, your lover is going to feel like he or she has become the center of your universe for the undivided attention for those 10, 15, 20 minutes or however long you can offer this meaningful, wonderful gift. We feel loved and appreciative when we realize that someone else genuinely wants to know how we are doing inside.
For men and women, who are in relationships or looking for one, but isn’t very romantic and impatient, we can safely say their partners would be euphoric if they gave their precious time combined with a healthy dose of undivided attention. As you continue giving your undivided attention to him or her, you’ll become more familiar with your significant other’s needs and wants. This will give you a sense of direction how to proceed to the next step in pleasing your love interest. This way we hope that you’ll experience what it’s like to be in a relationship with a grateful partner, and you’ll get the same amount of even more of love and kindness than you’re now giving.
Now to all those couples, who are experiencing problems and loss of romance in their relationships or marriages, and who need assistance beyond this advice, they’ll be better served by visiting a couples’ therapist. Meeting with a couples’ therapist will not only act as a moderator for the conversation they’ve with other, he or she can also help with understanding each other better. If you’re someone looking forward to becoming more loving and caring toward your partner, begin with giving him or her undivided attention. I can guarantee that you’ll truly enjoy and cherish what follows next.