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The Main Reasons Why Women Leave Their Boyfriends

You meet someone you like. You make a connection with them. Things seem to go nicely, and then all of a sudden your girlfriend just goes ‘poof’. Your girlfriend just disappears, never to hear from her again. This type of occurrence is pretty common when dating, and can be really frustrating at times. You keep wondering what actually happened, you have no clues, and you’re left with no closure. Well, here we have listed some of the main reasons why women abandon their boyfriends without giving them any explanations:

1. She found someone better. This is a tough pill to swallow, but very common. Sometimes you meet someone you like, go on a few dates with her, and in the meantime, she meets a man who is better than you. If she stops responding to your calls and texts, it means that she met someone better and isn’t interested in you anymore.

2. She thinks you’re boring. This is subject. Some women, who find someone fun or exciting, might be boring or bland to others. If your girlfriend has gone ‘poof’ after having a few dates with you, it might You're too boring for her personality.

3. She thinks you’re a space invader. Women don’t like their dates or new boyfriends who invaded their personal space way too early in the relationship. If you’ve have been dating your new girlfriend for a few days, and begin asking or give hints that you want to be physically intimate with her, we won’t be surprised if never calls you again.

4. She’s scared that you’ll ask her why she left. After going on a few dates, a woman decides that her date isn’t right for her. She ponders telling him why she isn’t into him, but at the same time, she feels afraid that the guy would ask her to give an explanation. So, she disappears. A lot of women agree that they would abandon their boyfriends, then tell them why that they left him because, he was short, too angry or a bad kisser.

5. She thinks you’re clueless about certain things. For some women, it’s easy for them to poof that spend days or hours explaining their boyfriends why the date isn’t working out or will never work out in the future. They don’t want to be involved in a dramatic conversation. So, they fade away instead.

6. She can’t deal with conflicts or arguments. It’s not a good reason, but a real one, nonetheless. Many women admitted that they rather disappear than deal with awkward conversations or conflicts with their boyfriends.

7. The date was bad. If you’re met someone new and went on a date with her, and the date went terribly bad. Don’t be astonished if she doesn’t return your calls or messages. Many ladies told that they severed all connections with their respective dates because of bad dates and lack of chemistry.

The bottom line is when you found someone new and went on dates with her on a few dates, and then leaves you without telling you anything; remember that this can happen to anyone. She left you not because there is something wrong with you; she left because her intuition told her that you aren’t the right man for her.


The Main Reasons Why Men Leave Their Girlfriends

You meet a great guy and start dating him. You start thinking of having a loving and committed relationship with him, but suddenly one day he just disappears without telling you anything. You feel frustrated and rejected. You keep scrambling to figure out why your boyfriend left you, but can’t find any real reasons.

Well, here are real reasons, why men abandon their girlfriends with no explanation!

1. You’re not in a relationship after two dates. Just being on two dates with a man isn’t enough to know him. You can’t be in a relationship after two dates. All you did in these two dates is talking and perhaps kissing. So, don’t make it a big deal if he doesn’t call or texts you. He doesn’t need to explain himself.

2. You criticize people. People say if a man goes ‘poof’ after dating you’re a few times; then he isn’t interested in you. But, did it occur to you that it might be you who chased him by criticizing him with statements like, ‘You have bad teeth, or you’re a bad kisser’. No guy wants to date someone who diminishes their self-esteem with uncomfortable conversations.

3. Sometimes men leave because they’re bad lairs. This applies to women too. Sometimes men abandon their girlfriends because they’ve found someone better or well-endowed woman. When their girlfriends ask them why some men are simply very embarrassed to give an explanation, and even if they give one, anyone can tell it’s a lie. Instead, they go ‘poof’.

4. He’s not ready for a serious relationship. If you’re dating someone and you decided to make the relationship, it can cause immense pressure on your boyfriend. So, they decide to leave you because he’s simply not ready to be in a committed and long-term relationship. Sometimes, men who are scared will rather date multiple women at the same time, and the women who get serious to be in a serious relationship will get the boot.

5. He’s unable to connect emotionally. Most men lack the emotional maturity and the confidence to face an adult person, or tell his girlfriend, that he’s unable to be in a serious relationship, or it’s not working for him. That’s why he disappears without any explanation. It might be painful for you, but in fact, consider this as good news, as having a relationship with a person who is emotionally immature will never be right for you.

6. The illusion that I am a good man is wearing off. We all like to think ourselves as nice and mean the same for other people also. But, it’s obvious that not everyone is a nice person. If you’ve made a lot of expectations, promises and misinterpreted your real intentions for the relationship, and theirs is a chance that the truth will get exposed, then walk away from the relationship. This way you can still maintain the illusion that you’re a great man.

When you love someone, and he or she just leaves you without any explanation, it can happen. There are many reasons for it, but the main thing to keep in mind that it’s no one fault. Get over it, and don’t lose hope in finding love again.


7 Questionable Propositions To Decide Whether To Make Up Or Break Up

When we’re in a relationship with someone new, we only seem to focus only on the good qualities, while conveniently turning a blind eye on the potential red flags. It’s these qualities good or bad, that will make or break a new relationship.

Here are seven most common characteristics and tendencies to look out for in a new romantic partner:

1. Mr. Looker
Regardless, where you’re or what you do, if someone cute passes by your spouse, he will look her, more than once. Suddenly, you start to feel angry and insecure. You tell it to your man, and explain to him how it affects you, makes him appear less committed to you, and you find this behavior acceptable to you. So, does this mean that you should break up with him? Not until he keeps doing it.

2. Ms. Unavailable
Your girlfriend is fun-loving kind of gal. You dated her for a few weeks but noticed that she always loves to hang out with a lot of her friends, even when you’re with her. This makes it difficult for you to connect with her on a one-to-one basis. She also avoids having a quality, engaging conversation with you as she feels uncomfortable. You tried your best to turn her around but failed. So, cut her loose.

3. Mr. Control
You like him. He’s relaxed, confident, and successful. But, there is a problem. He told you that he likes to be in control. He always orders the dinners; he takes you to places he wants, he tells you when you will leave the party, etc. In short, he doesn’t ask you about your opinion regarding the relationship; he calls all the shots. Is this something you can deal with? We will say break up before this whole relationship goes out of control.

4. Ms. Freedom
She’s 30 and still single. She’s full of fun, smart and spontaneous. You feel lucky, but there’s a catch. She told you she’s never been in a relationship for more than six months. So, should you keep dating her? We would yes. Maybe she’s a late bloomer, and we all sincerely believe everyone should be given a chance to let people who they really are.

5. Ms. Flirty
She’s beautiful, and she likes you. But, she's never satisfied by your attention and compliments. She craves for attention from other guys. You feel vulnerable, but we will ask you to give her a chance. This type of baggage is very common and not difficult to resolve it if you’re willing, to be honest and patient with her.

6. Mr. Cheapskate
Who ever told you are savvy with money, has never met your boyfriend. He only pays using coupons, buy things discounts, and proud that he never paid full price. Could this cause trouble for you in the future? Yes, if you’re spender, while he is a saver. If you both are money savvy, we can see any issues here.

7. Mr. Dominator
You seem to like his big personality but noticed that he has the tendency to dominate most conversations. For example, you both go a vacation, and he only tells about what a great time he had with his friends, without giving any chance to share your story. If you don’t his behavior tiring, believe us, you will one day. So, break up before it’s too late!

If you’re seeing someone new, look for all these qualities and deal-breakers, in your partners, if you want to be in loving, committed relationship.


Why Falling In Love With Your Best Friend Is Not A Good Choice?

A best friend is like your support system for life. You share everything with him/her, and their presence has become a constant need in your life. You might as well get into fights with them, but it all sorts out because obviously, they’re your best friend. Things, however, get a little complicated when feelings of love start to get into the friendship bond between a girl and a guy. This is very common because in such a friendship, one definitely falls for the other and that is how friendship starts to become a relationship. If it is you who has fallen for your best friend, then you should take a look at these points and try to move away from this situation:

#1 The judgment starts

Your best friend knows all about you. You were used to sharing every detail of your day and life in general with them. They know everything about you like all your embarrassing moments, your breakdowns, your sad moments, your secrets and desires. Now that love is in the equation, your best friend may not act like before, and he/she will probably get paranoid over whoever you meet from the opposite gender. The secrets that you once shared might backfire now that you’re in love.

#2 One of you will end up getting hurt

There is a very high chance that your friend doesn’t feel for you the same way as you do. Previously, when you needed them, they were always there without any questions asked. Now, when you finally open your feelings to them, you really don’t know how they will react. The chances are that they might agree or even say no. The worst that can happen is that they might even end the friendship.

#3 Being best friends doesn’t mean you’ll be the best couple

Friendships are easy and hassle free because there are no demands or expectations from it. The friendship is only about unconditional love and care. In a romantic relationship, things are different where you have to prove your love to the other person. Expectations will be there, and maybe you will not be able to fulfill them. When you were just best friends meeting them was like taking that time off from all the tensions, but now that you are in love it might become a full-time duty. You have to be careful about all that you say and that you do. You will see entirely different sides of each other, and it will be hurtful knowing that you were once best friends.

#4 No one to share your problems with

Your best friend, as we mentioned, was your support system. You would go to him/her whenever there was anything wrong going on in your life. What about now? Who are you going to share your couple issues with? You have now lost your greatest friend, and all you are left with is regret. Things could have been perfect the way they were, but getting into love ruined it even when it was not what you wanted.


Five Signs You’re Suffering Exhaustion In Your Relationship

Typically most of us are acquainted with the term ‘exhaustion.' Burnout happens when you’re working too hard for the results that are being produced. Exhaustion can also be seen in a relationship. When we feel burned out, we lose enjoyment, frustrated, and depressed. If we’re working too hard to make our relationship work and it still fails, we become upset and begin to think that being single would have been better than staying in a dysfunctional and unhappy relationship.

So, how can we tell that we’re tired and burned out in our relationship? Here are five ways to explain it:

1. You start to resent dating. Some people after a breakup get all prepped up to get into the dating, while other seem disinterested or indifferent to dating. These are all somewhat positive indications of wanting to be single again. But, if you’ve decided not to date for a significant period after a breakup or a divorce, it points that you’re tired of being in relationships.

2. You don’t have much enjoyment while meeting potential partners. Most men and women find looking for a date as a stressful activity, but about when you’re meeting one or dating someone you met at work or introduced by a friend? If you feel less excited about these prospects, then we can conclude that you won’t get over your relationship exhaustion anytime soon.

3. Your emotional energy is almost empty. Most folks are depressed and feel exhausted after a breakup or after a final divorce proceeding. There another consequence of a relationship burnout – the lack of emotional energy. If you’ve depleted all of your emotional energy, you won’t feel any emotional reaction even in simple things such as jokes and laughter.

4. You remember only the bad moments. Usually, whenever someone leaves a job and found an opportunity or excited to pursue their passion, they keep reminiscing all the good and bad times about their past jobs holistically. If someone feels grateful to quit a bad job or a relationship, they will only remember all the bad and stressful times they had during that period. You can only recall the fights and arguments with your ex, rather than reminiscing all the good time you both during the early days of the relationship that brought you close to each other.

5. You feel pessimistic or cynical about love. You don’t get into a new relationship because you think sooner or later it will fail. You always think of people who are in love or relationships as fools. You always keep telling bad things about the concept of love and relationship like lies, illusions, etc. If this is all you can think about love, then it’s an unfortunate outcome of relationship exhaustion.

To make this critical period of your life easier and get over it, try to understand what lessons you've learned from your previous relationship so that you can heal and prepare yourself for your next relationship. Even you meet someone interesting, and he or she likes to date you, be straightforward with and tell them you aren’t interested at the moment. If you’ve lost your spark, try to cultivate it again by focusing your interest and passion in other parts of your life.


How To Avoid Too Much Pain While Breakup

A heart can’t be broken without a heartbreaker. Believe it or not, it’s true. It’s also encouraging to know that some heartbreakers are more graceful and compassionate than others. But, how can you tell it?

There are no simple answers. But, there is a way you can end a romantic relationship without smashing the other person’s heart into millions of pieces. So, what’s the approach you may ask? The answer, make a clean break.

Most men and women when deciding to break up with their partners don’t say it directly to them. They think it’s inhumane and disrespectful. Instead, they will gradually implement a series of disappointments that will make his or her partner so miserable and resentful towards you that he or she will break up with you. This type of emotional torture can also be called emotional terrorism. Not only does this emotional terrorism, belittles the other person, it can also ruin their self-esteem and confidence.

The best approach is to be direct and honest. But, that mean that you will meet the other person and break the news that this romantic relationship is over in their faces. The key is to convey the message compassionately. How do you do this? First, communicate it in person. You might think that it’s too obvious, but you’ll get surprised to know a lot of people break up over the phone, text message, email or even by changing their relationship status on Facebook and other social media sites. Some leave messages on the answering machine, while some even ask their friends to tell his or her, boyfriend/girlfriend, the relationship has ended. It’s indecent and utterly disrespectful to your ex. If you’ve decided to break up with someone, then break up like a man. Make a clean breakup, be truthful and be honest.

Being honest and being harsh isn’t the same thing. Some heartbreakers were super mean. They think they can shut their eyes, forget about the relationship, and somehow can make the relationship go away. These folks can do it because they’ve lost all of their common sense and courtesy, and have pointed every known flaw their soon-to-be-ex ever had.

Then some folks sugarcoat the rejection with false promises of reconciliation. They give out mixed messages such as they’re interested in him or her, but they don’t want to be in serious relationship. So, they end the relationship with that note. The biggest problem with being so conciliatory is that the other person won’t listen what you want them to hear. They will take your words literally and will begin to envision a happy future with you. They only recall the positive side of the message and conveniently ignore the actual message you wanted them to hear. You still can make a clean break; you just have to gentle and honest. Start by telling the person what you like about them. Don’t point out their weaknesses, and appreciate their strengths and remind them what made you attracted to them in the beginning.

Getting over a breakup isn’t easy, but if you follow these bits of advice, breaking up with someone will be much less painful. Besides, moving on after a breakup and finding someone new will also less hard.


5 Things You Shouldn’t Apologize For While Dating

Do you often find yourself apologizing, subconsciously or consciously? To most men and women, being sorry for something and everything has become a habit. It’s difficult to get rid of. Persistently shaming yourself lowers your self-esteem, confidence, and often at times also makes you look unattractive to potential partners.

So, boost your courage and stop being sorry for these five things:

1. I won’t apologize because I expect you to communicate. Despite the numerous benefits, there are some significant drawbacks when it comes to online dating. Though men and women regularly exchange messages; there are hardly any face-to-face interactions between the matches. Besides, some messages can be rude, annoying and downright ridiculous. At times, some of us step up and speed up the conversation, and later apologizing for going ahead too soon. The fact is there isn’t anything to be sorry about. We should date someone who is a talker, and ask meaningful, interesting questions, and give appropriate decisions. Communications is a two-way street. Therefore, don’t be sorry that you want someone who can communicate.

2. I won’t apologize because I have deal breakers. It’s perfectly fine that you weren’t attracted to someone. Maybe you didn’t like their height, their habits, personality, etc. It might be you both didn’t have any chemistry. It’s okay if you’re picky and only want to date someone who is ambitious, loving and has a great family. So, don’t be sorry for being ‘too choosy’ or ‘you just happen to have high standards.'

3. I won’t apologize for being honest. Most of us laugh at jokes, that aren’t funny, rude, or inappropriate. We also tagged along on a conversation we have no interest in. But now I am excited to share, no scared to argue and express my beliefs. If my date finds it offensive, then maybe he or she needs to change their attitude, and if they can’t, I will politely opt out. I don’t want to laugh or have another drink with him because I am not interested, and if it hurt his feelings, then it’s his problem. I won’t be sorry for being honest and what I believe in.

4. I won’t apologize that I still want romance. Call me old-fashioned, but kind, thoughtful gestures, such as opening the door for me, is still necessary for me. While all these gestures have become more and rarer while dating in the digital age, the truth is there is still something sexy and gratifying about romance and mystery. I would like my date to ask about my life in person, and express how he feels about instead of searching me on Google and texting me now and then. These gentlemanly acts make me feel appreciated, loved and connected. I won’t be sorry for it.

5. I won’t apologize that I want real love. It is okay if you’re looking for a committed, loving relationship, and won’t just date anyone else. You want an exclusive relationship with someone special, rather than wasting your time energy on a fleeting relationship.

We know that’s it not in your nature to stand up and speak your mind, your views, and opinions, emotions, etc. But, when you’re dating someone, your date will be impressed and appreciate your honesty, insecurity, and willingness to be open about your thoughts and feelings.


Do you want Breakup With Your Partner With Class. Learn How!!

There are hardly any breakups that aren’t drama-free. Breakups are painful affairs; they overwhelm us with emotion and despair and bring the worst in us. It’s hard to get control of ourselves in these situations, but if we can exercise some restraints, we can leave a decent and lasting impression on our exes.

Here are four ways to end your relationship with your ex with class:

Resist The Urge To Bash Your Ex.
Adhering to this rule will be hard especially to those who have been wrong, done something wrong, or got dumped, or all of the above. But, you will come out classy if you can resist your urge to talk ill or bash your ex. Sure, you can talk about your grievances to your friends and family, that’s why they are here for. But, by spreading the word that you broke up because he or she cheated on you with a friend of your is just plain ridiculous. Don’t make folks think that you’re the victim here, and when they why you broke up, and they will just tell them that things didn’t work out. And, by the way, don’t ever talk about your sex life with your ex. Ever!

Don’t Get Your Friends Involved
One big painful consequence of a breakup is that sometimes you’ve to let go some friends to keep your sanity intact. It’s recommended that you don’t be mutual friends with ex’s friends. Your splitting up should be all about moving on to the future, not about taking sides. Even if your friend's circle dwindles in size, it is still better than hanging out with your ex’s friends. It’s fine to friends who are sincere in supporting you in this critical moment and let go of certain friends for the greater good. We aren’t asking you to let go of all of your ex’s mutual friends, but if you’re taking advantage of your friendship to keep tabs on your ex, it’s a bad move.

Leave Your Problems at Home
It’s crucial that you don’t talk about your love life at work or have a conversation about it with your boss or coworkers. Not gossiping about your ex and relationships should be one of you top professional priorities. We understand that it’s hard to bury your harrowing breakup without sharing it with someone for 8 hours straight, but there is a silver lining to it. If you occupy yourself with work, it will get your mind rid off the heartbreak, allowing you to be more productive at work.

Avoid Indulging in Crazy Behavior
Breakups make us angry, depressed and desperate, and can sometimes make us snap. We start acting crazy and do things that are entirely misaligned with our character. We are talking about doing silly stuff, like calling or texting your ex incessantly, driving to your ex’s home or workplace in the middle of the day, and so on. We know you miss your ex, and can’t resist seeing or talking to him or her, but once you broke up, leaving it all aside.

Breakups suck. Whether you broke up or you were the victim, it’s best to sever all connections with your past relationship, and take the high road. Find someone new to fall in love with and move on.


5 Breakup Phrases That Hint The End of Relationship

If you’ve been startled by a breakup, it’s highly likely that you failed to pick up the subtle and not-so-subtle cues that your partner has been giving to end the relationship. Some men and women are blessed with super-sharp perception and can see the little hints, while others need everything to be said to them. If you think you fall somewhere in between, then you shouldn’t overanalyze every significant other says and does. But, start paying attention when your relationship is at the breaking point.

Here are five breakup phrases that signal your relationship is on the verge of breaking apart:

1. I Think We Need Some Space.
Regardless who says it, this line should never be ignored. Though this phrase doesn’t mean that you two are breaking up, it indicates that both of you need to be physically and emotionally separate temporarily. Time and distance will ultimately decide, whether you and your partner will remain in the relationship or not. Nonetheless, if your partner thinks about the being separate for some time, it’s never good for the relationship.

2. I Will Call You Later.
Tone plays an important role with this phrase. If he or she says this statement with an agitated tone, it implies that ‘you leave him or her alone.' However, the meaning of the word, ‘later’ can be ambiguous. Did they mean today or later next week or month? If you’ve gone from seeing your partner daily from once a month or never, your relationship might be sinking. It can also mean you’re too needy or your partner is busy and finding it difficult to communicate with you. Whatever the situation, don’t push it. Your partner obviously doesn’t want to discuss it now, and if you force them, you might lose them for good.

3. You’re a %*&@$#!!
Calling names and throwing insults is one of the worst ways of disrespect in a relationship. Realize that your relationship is reached rock-bottom when you’re verbally hurting your partner’s feelings and emotions. There isn’t any rationalization, justification or excuse for treating and disrespecting your spouse in this way. Sure, we all overreact during heated situations, but there is a difference in giving constructive criticism and blaming it all on the other person.

4. He Does That! Or She Doesn’t Do That!
When your partner keeps comparing you to someone else or other relationship, it’s disturbing. Whether if it’s a romantic relationship or work, comparisons belittle and undermine people. Maybe your partner is deliberately doing to jeopardize your existing relationship or don’t want to have a fresh start. This kind of denunciatory judgments points that your partner believes your relationship isn’t worthy.

5. No Communication
When you’ve fully stopped communicating altogether with your spouse, your relationship is dead, and probably has been for some time. Break up officially, cut your losses, and move on. You’re doing nothing for the relationship for yourself and your partner either, by clinging on to a loveless relationship.

The bottom line is the signs of deterioration of your relationship will become evident if you be vigilant and sharpen your perspectives. If that’s the scenario, break up, find someone new and move on.


9 Big Reasons Your Partner Breakups With You

You’re dating; everything feels wonderful. And then the bad news comes along. He breaks up with you. The beautiful world you created around you starts to fall apart. You’re stunned and puzzled to why did he or she break up with you.

Here are the nine biggest reasons why relationships end:

1. You want to get married, but he doesn't. You want to get married soon, but your man isn’t enthusiastic about it. It feels like a lot of pressure for him, so he opted out, no surprises there. He might love you, but it’s clear that his relationship goals are entirely different than yours. You’re lucky here. It’s time you date someone who is ready for marriage.

2. Long distance relationships. Distance doesn’t always make the heart grow fonder for people. Long-distance relationships might work for some people, but for most, it doesn’t. Most of us need to spend a lot of time and effort with our partners to make our feelings strong for each other.

3. Financial problems. The harsh reality is when it comes to relationships, money matters. It’s hard to make it work if one of is unemployed, ridden with debt, struggling to pay bills, or working two jobs to ends meet. It can create a lot of stress in the relationship. However, communication can help to minimize it to some extent.

4. Emotional issues. If you’ve been dating someone for some time, you get to know whether he or she has serious emotional problems like anger, jealousy, depression, etc. Many will leave the relationship if they found that one of their partners has some serious emotional baggage.

5. You keep secrets. Relationships end if one of the partners haven’t been honest or lied to the other person about something specific in their life. So, if you have a drinking problem, don’t keep it a secret from your date or partner.

6. Jealousy. Do you feel paranoiac or threatened when your girlfriend/boyfriend hangouts with their opposite-sex friends? If yes, then it might be your jealousy. Even if you don’t tell it to your partner openly, your behavior will make it apparent. Unless you can address it, it’s time you break up with him or her.

7. Religious beliefs. For some men and women, their spirituality or religious beliefs are very much a part of their identity and play a significant role in their daily lives. So, if their partners aren’t religious or their religious beliefs don’t align with each other, it can be a deal-breaker.

8. The family gets in the way. Family plays a critical role when it comes to choosing which person you can or marry. So, if your family is dominating, intrusive, or belittles your partner, there is a high possibility that he or she will leave the relationship.

9. The love runs out, or they are in love with someone else. Sometimes breakups take place because the love simply isn’t there for the relationship to continue. The chemistry and the spark that was present in the initial days of the relationship fizzled out. Or, maybe the whole thing was an infatuation. Breakups also happen if one of the partners is in love with someone else. This one is the most painful. You both have a loving relationship, and suddenly your partner decides to end the relationship as they found someone else to love. What’s more painful is that your partner has found someone who is better than you.