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6 Great Things About ‘Old-Fashioned’ Dating

Often, we paint the past with

a golden blush, gleaming over all the imperfections that were pretty much a part of life then. But, it’s also unwise to assume the past as useless, tacky, and out of fashion, that needs to erased and forgotten, particularly when it comes to dating and relationships. Here are six ‘old-fashioned’ ideas about dating that needs to come back:

1. Clear and precise intentions
Back in those days asking someone for a date or dating as a whole was a little straightforward. If a guy asked a woman, it was pretty clear that he was interested. Then the next step was getting ready and steady. The man also asked for that too. We really want love to return to a place with more clarity. We want to go back to the place where we knew where we stood and why.

2. One-on-one meetings
Who doesn’t cherish the idea of going on a date, and not being interrupted by your family, friends, co-workers or your boss, who are constantly attached to by technology? Connecting with our love interests becomes more intimate and emotional if we stay away from the distractions that plague us every day such as our smartphones.

3. Making love meant something else back then
Back in the old days when a man wanted to make love to a woman, he brought her flowers, wrote her poems, praised her beauty and expressed his desire to court her. Well, things sure did change a lot, not for the best of course. Now, the concept of vulgarity has almost become a passé. We sure do need to learn a lot of how to express our deepest and innermost desires to our girlfriends just the way our ‘old-fashioned’ ancestors did.

4. Going steady
Not only had we stepped ahead from our ancestors when it comes to accelerated sexual intimacy, but we also tend to take things pretty quick. If you take things too fast in the relationship, it’s difficult to see if both of you are compatible with other or not.

5. Can I hold your hand?
Back then, the most accepted gesture and the first step to making an intimate physical contact in a romantic relationship was the simplest of all gestures – holding hands. Tell about it today would be a joke. Nowadays, for most new couples, hyper-sexuality has become the new starting point, with most ending up with painful emotional consequences. The reason is pretty obvious as a brand new relationship can’t handle high-voltage sexual urges of both partners, because you need trust to experience such kind of openness, and it takes some time to grow.

6. Slow Down

Most of the young couples will keep rolling their eyes when they hear how dating used to be in the old days. These days most men and women take things too fast too soon in their new relationships. Our grandparents and their parents moved at glacial speeds that won’t only make us crazy, but will also make them blush on how we rush into physical intimacy in our relationships. Balance can only be found in the middle. Therefore, don’t rush!

These Bad Dating Habits Will Make It Hard For You To Find Someone

If you’ve been on many dates, and you’re still aren’t in a relationship, it’s time that you reflect on yourself. Maybe it’s your personality or bad habits that are repelling your dates in having a relationship with you.

Here are six common dating habits that you should consider quitting as soon as possible!

1. Being available all day and all night!
He calls you for a date, and you’re ready for a date. You go to the date that night. He calls again, and you go to date the next evening. Getting excited about an upcoming date is perfectly fine, but making yourself available at all times, and letting your partner know about, can create problems in a new relationship. Your date might be the idea that you’ve no social life or friends and assumes that you’re willing to cancel all your plans for the date night. This kind of behavior might make you appear desperate, not to mention feeling bored or alone to your date.

2. Being less available
Being too available can be a problem, but being less available will also create problems in a new relationship. If you don’t enough time to date, why are you doing it? Your date will assume that you’re elusive, disinterested and incapable of maintaining a loving and committed relationship. Make sure to set aside a few hours every week for your dates and show some enthusiasm that you’re interested in spending time with your new love interest and getting to know him/her better. If you skip your dates frequently, stay prepared to kiss your relationship goodbye.

3. Stalking your date online
If you’re interested in someone, don’t get to know more about them by searching him/her on Google or Facebook. It’s okay if you’ve done it once, and that it. Don’t stalk his or her ex online. If you really want to know your date ask him or her in person. If you tell him or her something that you found online, it might scare your date.

4. Don’t be too picky.
We all standards and preferences that we like to see in our partners. But don’t get obsessed or too picky on them. If you think that you want someone who won’t meet all of your 100 qualities you want to see in your man or woman, better head to Disney land or quit dating. Give every people of various body types, careers or paychecks a chance.

5. Don’t be stuck in the past.
Don’t hold any grudges against your new love interest because you’ve a few bad dates in the past. Don’t expect her to fail like your ex, and don’t expect him to be better than your previous boyfriend. If you really want to share something from your past relationships, make sure you new date understands the perspective of it.

6. Stop engaging in off-putting behaviors.
Do your friends tease you that you dress like a teenager, gossip or drink too much on dates? Did your past partners complain that you swear too much or be rude to the waiters on dinner dates? If yes, then it’s time you take a close look at yourself, and get rid of all of these annoying behaviors. It is fine to be yourself, but it’s also important to the best of yourself, especially on dates.

If you’re looking for a relationship or in one already, and if the relationship evolves into love, only then your partner will know who you really are as a person, what your value most in life.

6 First Date Conversation Tips

Dating is already hard enough, and we all know the how to make the best impression on the first date conversation. So, how do you bring the best of you when you’re meeting someone for the first time?

Here are six ways for making the most of a first date conversation, so you can hope to be on a second date with him or her.

1. Don’t talk too much
We tend to over talk, when we get nervous. The more we talk, the less we get to know someone. Typically when we meet someone new, we start by making small talk. But, as we get settled down, we start to get familiar with him or her. Keep your chatting time limited in the first five minutes. Don’t talk about everything that pops in your head, unless it seems interesting and worth sharing.

2. Look at him or her
Don’t look like a creep. Keep your gaze soft, steady and be focused on your date. Looking at your date in this will convey that, you’re interested in him or her. Use your eyes to tell and invoke your date a sense of warmth, and safety.

3. Find out if both of you are on the same page
When meeting your date for the first time, you want to convey your emotional maturity to him or her, which is important to have a committed and long-lasting relationship. Ask questions like, what his or her goals in life are, or what is the most important thing in life is for him or her at the moment, and so forth. This will help you to get you more acquainted with each other.

4. Tell the truth, but maintain boundaries.
Always be honest and never lie, but don’t share too much of your life at the first date. However, it’s okay to talk a little about your past relationships or marriages. Don’t be scared or be honest about sharing your emotional baggage. When talking about your exes, don’t thrash them. It’s very unattractive.

5. Ask them how they feel
Ask your date how they’re feeling about the date. Don’t shy away from asking them about their emotions and feelings, and what made them come on this date. Ask them what motivates them to make important decisions in life, like why did they take teaching as a career or why did they relocate to a new city and so on. Pay attention when they answer you and figure out if the answers are concrete or emotional. For example, if your date becomes emotional when talking about kids, it’s obvious that he or she loves children and want to be around them.

6. Exit the date gracefully
Whether your first date was good or bad, end the date in a graceful manner without offending the other person across the table. Smile, convey “Thank you,” and tell them you enjoyed the date and meeting him or her. The date may have been bad or failed to live up to your expectations, but don’t leave feeling disappointed with yourself or your date.

The first date conversations are hard and can fail to meet your expectations, given that both parties are feeling nervous and don’t know what’s going to happen. However, if you’re meeting someone new for the first time, these tips will help you to make your first date conversation a pleasant experience.

Simple Tips For A Happy Relationship

If you want to have a loving, long-lasting relationship, there are some factors that you need to focus on a few qualities exclusively. These are trust, honesty, loyalty, excellent communication, and commitment. These elements are the bedrock for a healthy and happy relationship. If a man and woman don’t respect and appreciate each other feelings and the role they play there is anger, sadness, and resentment in a relationship or marriage. Communication between the two people breaks down, the gap between two partners grows, and consequently, the relationship ends.

For some men and women, breakups are extremely hard to deal. Some get over soon and get involved in a new relationship, while for the pain from the breakup is so extreme that they never get over it. They stop dating anyone new, and depression and loneliness creep into their lives. Therefore, it’s crucial that we should have partners who are right for us and complements us. You can’t have a happy relationship if the person you’re dating isn’t right for you.

Folks often say that you’re in a happy relationship because of luck. But, remember that happy relationship doesn't just happen through sheer luck, they are made. If you want to be happy in your relationship, all you need is a sincere intention to establish an amazing and intimate connection with your partner, and follow some simple rules.

First, pay attention to your own happiness and health. Happy relationships exist when each partner feels good about themselves in their own way. He or she knows how to take care of their own physical, mental and emotional health and do so in the right way.

Second, hone your communication skills. It’s difficult to have a healthy relationship is your partner can’t understand your emotions, feelings and your needs. Focus on expressing your emotions and feelings without getting blamed or criticized. This way you will have fewer fights and arguments, and strengthen your emotional connection with your spouse.

Third, learn how to appreciate more. In a successful relationship, appreciation will always triumph criticism. Here, criticism also includes what you think. Thinking negatively will cloud your mind of any positive criticism, and you’ll always find something wrong with your significant other. You’ll always see the bad stuff. On the other hand, if you focus your attention on things that they’re good at, you’ll always see more of the good.

Fourth, reward yourself with what you want, and when you want it. One of the major mistakes most men and women make in relationships is that they sacrifice their own joy and happiness to provide for their partner’s happiness. It will fail in the long-run and eventually, lead to exhaustion and resentment. If you can’t be happy yourself, how can you make others happy?

After all, we all want to be happy in our relationships, fulfill and satisfy the needs of our partners – physically, mentally and emotionally. Honesty is essential for a happy relationship. So, check in with your partner occasionally and find out if the relationship is working for both of you.

Got Rejected? It’s Not Always Your Fault!

Let’s be honest; Breakups are hard to deal with. When someone you loved and cared ends a relationship with you, it seems like your whole world is falling apart, you feel upset, disappointed and everything in between. You started to that it’s because of you that your partner broke up with you. The same things can be applied to someone with whom you did like to have a relationship with, but he or she didn’t feel the same way about it or was simply not interested in you. Rejection can sometimes be very painful at a personal level. If you can’t overcome the pain, it can limit your chances of finding true love in the future and create barriers to find future happiness.

So, if you’re interested in someone and the relationship ends, or you got rejected, it’s critical that you embrace a healthy perspective on what just happened. Below are some suggestions that can help you understand it. Read on to find out more:

• When a relationship ends abruptly, recall the facts. Stop thinking about self-deprecating thought like ‘you aren’t worthy of a relationship’ or ‘you’ll die alone’ and so on. These opinions about yourself aren’t only wrong; they will create more pain inside of you for the loss of the person you loved and cared about so much. In fact, if you realize that you’re sadder about what this break up tells about than the person you just lost, it all points to self-condemnation. It’s time that you think positive and says positive things about you.

• Sometimes rejection occurs because there wasn’t any love among the both of you. When someone breaks up with you, it doesn’t mean that you’re imperfect or that you’ve failed to love him or her. It’s neither about you or your partner. Sometimes love fizzles out during the initial days of dating. This is why it’s always a bad idea to have discussions or plans to make lifetime commitment after just a dating for a few weeks of falling in love. The affection and the attraction between the two people can dissipate. It takes time for both people to know that the love they’ve for each other is the permanent or everlasting type. In other words, we can also say that the relationship simply ran out of gas before reaching the finish line. So, don’t think that it happened because of you.

• Usually, relationships can only be long-lasting, if the visions and goals of two people complement each other. Relationships get dismissed when someone in a relationship realizes that his or her vision or plans for the future aren't compatible with his or her partner. We all have expectations from our relationships. When we see that our expectations aren’t in sync with our existing relationship, we lose hope in it and decide to end it. However, don’t think that your partner decided to terminate the relationship or rejected you because you’re inadequate or deficient. It just means that we both don’t have a couple what it takes to have committed, long-lasting relationship.

If you’re looking for someone or already in a relationship, have a deep conversation with your partner about what it takes to be in a healthy and enduring relationship.

Try These New Year Dating Resolutions To End Your Single Life

Often people tell that New Year resolutions are meaningless and silly. But notice that it’s these pessimistic folks who have made them in the past and failed to honor them. If you’re someone who is organized in making a list and put the effort in achieving them, you’re probably one of those people who get things done efficiently and timely. If you’re single, it is important that you set your dating goals and get to work on your love life, and what’s better to start at the beginning of a new year.

We will discuss three resolutions here; we hope you give at least one a try. So, read on:

First, date at least one new person for the first three months of the year. If you’re still looking for someone, but just don’t have the drive to do it, maybe this will give you some inspiration. If you date at least one person every month, it means that you can date twelve people a year, and hopefully, you’ll find your match there. However, just for any goals or resolutions, it’s better to keep it realistic. What’s the point of keeping promises which you can’t keep? Anyways, we will recommend you stick with dating at least one new person for the first three months of the year. This target is necessary as it keeps you motivated for dating and meeting new people.

Second, have a date with someone at any month of the year, who isn’t your usual type. Suppose, you like tall and blonde women. Just for change go out with a lady who is a brunette, yet not very tall. We understand why most men and women always like to date people who are their type or can relate to. But, it’s important that you expand your “types” category. Dating only individuals who abide by your strict types and preferences will make it harder for you to find a match. Many couples have settled for partners who aren’t their original types because they couldn’t meet someone that fitted their inflexible type codes. So, if you’re still single and looking for a partner, looking for someone that will be a perfect match and type is the last thing you should be doing. The best thing you can do for yourself is to expand your options and to give someone else a shot to be your significant another.

Third, consider adding one new activity or interest into your usual dating schedule. Meeting or hanging out over a cup of coffee or a beer is not bad, but it’s not exciting either. Instead, try doing something different this year. If you’re active and full of energy, do something active and exhilarating that sitting at a coffee table with someone you don’t know. If you’re already dating or in a relationship, doing something active or exciting like a bike ride, skydiving or hiking, will make your relationship fun and successful. And if you had an active date, yet failed to score a relationship, well, you didn’t lose anything.

Going on dates at the beginning of a new year can be a really exciting. So, take some risks, try new things and be kind to yourself. But, for the moment, flirt with women, flirt with men, and get surprised to see the results.

Think Before Saying ‘I Love You’

In relationships, who do you is more likely to say, “I love you”? Men or women? Who’s first? Most people will probably say, women. Well, it’s true the ladies were first to confess to their partners that they love them. A study done by Ackerman, Griskevicius, & Li found that 64 percent of women are likely to tell their partners, “I love you,” within two months of being in a relationship. The study reiterates the stereotype that the ladies are more interested in love and relationships than men, so that’s why women are more likely to confess their feelings quickly.

That doesn't mean that men aren’t interested in professing their love to their partners. When it comes to real relationships, it's men who are more likely to declare their feelings first! It’s also been found that men take around three months to profess their love to their partners, while women start thinking about saying their partners they love after dating for five months. Researchers suggest this happens because of women’s physiological and evolutionary characteristics such as childbearing, nurturing abilities, etc. are more valuable. Therefore, women have no issues to wait to confess their love to their partners. Also, women are choosier about whom they like to date and who they like to physically intimate.

Now, let’s move on sexual intimacy and love. Researchers told that men felt more happiness and emotionally positive if their partners said they love them before having sex. They also felt that the confessions were more honest and heartfelt if said before sexual intimacy. These findings were especially true for guys who are looking for casual or short-term sexual relationships rather than committed and long-term relationships. To these people, hearing the words, “I love you” meant more to them emotionally before sex indicating that their partners were also interested in having sex with them.

For women, it’s the opposite. Women felt more happiness and emotionally positive if their partners told they love them after having sex. This feeling of happiness and satisfaction is related with romantic excitement, particularly, for people who are looking for committed and long-term relationships than casual or short-term sexual relationships. Women think that if their partners told them they love them before being physically intimate with them, they assume that the man is less sincere and trustworthy.

For relationships where couples have already engaged in sexual activity, both men and women believed that the best time to declare their feelings and love for each was between three to six months. Meanwhile, if men and women are dating and they still haven’t had sex, they thought the appropriate time to profess their love to their partners would be a month earlier into the relationship given the same time frame.

Love and relationships can be messy and confusing sometimes. Whether you’re looking a casual sexual relationships or a long-term relationship, saying “I love you,” to the person you love is an individual decision that depends on many factors including relationship goals, timing, personal feelings, and so on. So, think long and hard before you say, “I love you!”

You’re Never Too Late To Be In Love, Here’s Why!

Regardless of how old you are, how many wrong decisions you’ve made in the past, or how much you’ve waited to be in a relationship – being in love is your birthright. Often people say that there is a certain age to fall in love or you can’t be in love after a certain age, or you’re just too old to be in love! These comments aren’t only hurtful; they’re lies.

All the time folks say that we should be lucky to have found each other. That might be true to some people given the fact we all mistakes while dating and in relationships, and unless for ‘luck,' our partners won’t have stayed with us, and we would have been miserable and alone. If you want to love just for the sake of it, let me say love isn’t about who you are, but who you’ve been in this world. Instead of looking for the perfect men or women, who aren’t superficial or chasing you for your money, focus on yourself. Try to understand what you really want, what’s going inside of you, and how it’s affecting the decisions that you make in your daily life.

Here are some tips to follow that will help you create love at any age in your life:

Forget the Past

If you’ve bad experience with your past relationships or broken up with your ex, and always have a space for him or her to fill, you won’t find love quickly. Keep in mind that your former lovers can only get into that space if there’s one for him or her. So, that space should be removed. If you haven’t still got over your ex or reminiscing about your past relationships, it will only make it difficult for you to move one and find someone new. So, forget the past, forgive yourself, forgive your exes, and move on.

Envision Your Ideal Relationship

You can get what your desire if you don’t know what you want. You much have a clear vision of how a relationship works and how you feel if you’re with this person. We are referring to the emotional connection between two people in a relationship, not how tall he is, what his career is, how much money he has, etc. Take a good look at the list of the qualities and values that drives and motivates you in a relationship and see if it relates to the kind of relationship you desire.

Take Different Actions

If you want something you never had before, you’ve to do something you haven’t done before. Try online dating for a change, go to parties and events where singles hang out, take some cooking classes, join a gym, etc.

Finally, age doesn’t matter at all when you’re looking for a woman to love. If you believe in yourself that you have a chance to meet someone and start a relationship, you can do it. You have the desire to be in love because your heart isn’t fulfilled by it. So, get out there and find someone to love!

10 Ways To Make Your Lady Fall In Love With You

Men and women who are dating or recently have experienced a break up know very well that there are no shortcuts when it comes to making someone fall in love with you.

However, if you have a special woman in your life, you can easily sweep off her feet by following these ten easy tips.

1. Listen to your lady. At the end of the day, women like to talk and work on their problems. You don’t need always to solve her problems. All she wants is to listen to her when she vents, muses or just explains her issues.

2. Compliment her. Most women put on a lot of effort to look perfect for their dates. So, it’s only fair that you compliment her. This will not only flatter her but also make her feel happy that you noticed her.

3. Support her. Be a cheerleader for her. Support her opinions, views, choices, successes and failures, and she will become your biggest fan. Hands down!

4. Be chivalrous. Chivalry isn’t dead, no matter what people tell you. Chivalry is hot and very attractive to ladies. Hold the door, pull the chair, and wait for her to seated, before you sit. Send her flowers for no reason at all. Even better, send flowers to her at work to her feel beautiful and dedicated. Remember, treating her like a lady is never going out of style.

5. Focus on Her. Gazing on your lady is boring and rude. Instead, focus on her and pay attention in a way that looks like you are interested in her.

6. Tidy up. Women don’t like to date messy guys. So, keep your rooms and stuff clean and organized. Don’t stuff your toilet or kitchen with wet towels or dirty napkins or nail clipping on your basin. You don’t want her to end things with you in a disgusting way.

7. Family is important. If you’re a man and really love your date, you will introduce her to your family and friends. It will make her think that she’s important to you and you also want your family to like her too. Also, be good friends with her buddies and be kind to her family members. Trust me you need her friends and family to like you. Otherwise, she won’t be yours forever.

8. Surprise her. Women like to be spontaneous. Surprise her with unexpected gifts or dinner dates, or take her somewhere new. Send her a flirty voicemail at work and slip her lunch on her bag while leaving for work. Crack up jokes when she feels down and bored. Encourage her to feel easy, comfortable, and be silly.

9. Ask her for advice. Ask her for her advice and feedback on matters even if you don’t need to. Consulting her on important things will make her feel appreciated and valuable.

10. Leave a Message. Regardless, if you’re meeting your special lady for the first time or taking her for the seventh date, don’t forget to text her telling her how much you enjoyed your time with her. Send her flirty and loving texts throughout the day. Also, be appreciative of her efforts to spend time with you and end by asserting that you can hardly wait to see her again. Timing is everything, so never be late for a date. If for some reason, you can’t be there on late or forget something, send her a message and let her know.

How to Overcome Fear And Find the One You Deserve

Fear is natural. We all have fears. We all get scared. For some, fear is evident and is easily seen, while others hide it within their own conscience. All of our hidden fears get exposed when we’re in a relationship. Sometimes we get overwhelmed with fear when falling in love, and most of the time we fail to see it.

When fears get entangled with our relationships, it will prevent us from connecting with a man and keep us away from love. If you’re having a tough time sustaining long-term relationships or being in relationships with the wrong men, it’s highly likely that your fears are engulfing you. The more vicious our fears are, the more power they have to prevent us from having healthy and loving relationships.

Some common unseen fears most of us have are; the fear of not be enough for man, the fear of being unlovable, and the fear of always being wrong. These fears come up because real love requires us to be insecure and vulnerable, and this can make us very uncomfortable. Intimacy and vulnerability go hand in hand, and most get afraid about it. So, our fears will attempt to take control of the situation and put on the defensive, and we don’t know that it’s happening! Being defensive is a human’s natural response to protect ourselves. Our defenses have kept us secure since birth and are a must if we want to survive. How we respond to fears, have become of our personalities and what makes us as a person.

Here’s an example.

Have you been in a situation when you were overreacting when you're criticized by your partner? Let’s assume that your guy doesn’t like the way you dress or complains about your behavior while having dinner at the restaurant? Our fears take over immediately, we feel attacked, and we respond defensively, even before considering even if it’s right or wrong. We view criticism as an invasion to our personality and identity, and we fight back. We only calm down when we can prove that he’s not right. We have become so obsessed with defending ourselves, that we have totally forgotten the fact what we’re actually feeling is fear.

Unless we recognize the fears that trigger our defensive traits, we won’t be able to feel secure in our relationships. We’ll always be in a state of alert, delusional, and unable to feel any comfort and be relaxed. If we can identify our fears and prove them baseless, only then we can stop ourselves from getting defensive and have successful and lasting relationships. We need work deep within our conscience that will enable us to believe in our worth as women. We should start thinking that we can be wrong sometimes and none of us are perfect. We should be in love and in relationships that none can take it away from us and destroy it.

Overall, if we challenge our hidden fears, they’ll lose their power and influence over us. As our fears decimate, we will have love, kindness, and acceptance – the things we always wanted to have in our relationships.