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6 Best Topics To Talk About With A Girl

There's an old saying that men come from Mars and women from Venus, meaning more or less that they usually speak totally different languages. But is it really true? How can men overcome the awkward moments when they don't find their words and they seem completely lost in front of a woman? Well, you just came to the right place reading the article below.

Usually, most men feel anxious before approaching a woman, because they are afraid of an awkward silence, even more than of a potential rejection. When you’re trying to attract a woman you are interested in, any conversations that you have with her are like little games of poker. Your goal is to get her to invest an equal or greater amount of effort into the conversation, because the more invested she is in your conversation the more invested she is going to be in your interaction.

All great seducers understand this. They know that sharing a great conversation with a woman isn’t just about what they say to her. They understand that it’s as much about what they can get a woman saying back to them.

It’s this conversational effort that a woman commits that will help you find commonalities between the two of you to create rapport, and help you discover unique things about her that you can show genuine attraction towards; both crucial ingredients if you are to escalate the interaction towards a romantic or sexual outcome.

So in this article you will find six conversational topics that seem to have effect on women when it comes to interacting and attracting them.

1. Books, Movies, Music and Art

Let’s be honest! You’re not going to have a woman bearing her soul to you and sharing her hopes, dreams and deepest fears with you from the get go. You’ll need to build a whole lot of comfort and rapport before you get there. This is why you need a few conversational topics that are low effort and still engaging to get things started. Getting a woman talking about her favorite books, movies, music or art is a great way to do so.

The trick here, however, is to not ask for too little. For example, if a woman tells you that she loves music, don’t just ask her what her favorite band is. Ask her for two songs from her favorite band that she thinks you should listen to and ask her what those two songs mean to her. Or if a woman tells you that she loves to read, instead of just asking her who her favorite author is ask her to recommend a book to you and get her to tell you what it’s about.

Not only will this allow you to coax her into putting more conversational effort into your interaction, but it’ll also help you find out things that you both are into.

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2. Relationships

I swear to God, relationship related topics are like conversational crack for most women. And if there’s one thing that women love more than hearing relationship stories, it’s coming up with solutions to relationship problems.

So the next time you hear about your little cousin’s problems with her boyfriend, or hear about your roommate complain about his overly possessive girlfriend, make a mental note of the story and use it in conversation. You’ll be surprised with just how into these topics women can get.

3. The People Around You

Sometimes I hear a lot of guys complain saying that they run out of topics to talk about when they’re with a girl that they’re interested in. But don't get discouraged. Here’s the thing: if you pay close attention to your surroundings the chances are that you’ll find more than enough conversational ammunition to last a whole day.

For example, there’s a fun little game that I love playing with girls that I’m out on dates on. I call it the “what’s their story” game. When you’re out on a date with a girl, pick a stranger at random and talk about what you imagine what their story must be like. And then ask your date to tell you her version. Once she gets the hang of it start getting more and more imaginative and ridiculous with your stories. I guarantee that you’ll both have a blast.

4. Travel

Whenever I’m interacting with a woman I always try to direct the conversation in a direction that’s fun and imaginative. I hate conversations that drab and uninteresting. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned through my experiences with women is that talking about travel always gets them feeling happy and excited.

You see, all people love to travel, even though some love to travel daydream as they lack either the time or the money to do it. The key here, again, is to ask for more than just an impersonal list of travel destinations.

Ask her where the most exciting place she’s travelled to was and what she loved about it. Or ask her where she would go if she could disappear for an entire month without having to worry about her work or any other responsibilities. These types of conversations will get her imagination firing on overdrive and put her in an uplifted emotional state; both feelings which she will start associating with you.

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5. Observations About Her

There’s a school of thought among some men who teach attraction skills that a guy should never compliment or show interest in a woman. I disagree. I believe that to truly attract and seduce a woman you need to make her feel as if she’s won you over. To do this you need to find out things about her that are unique and appreciate them. Listen to this advice my friend: being curious about women can significantly improve your dating life!

You see, a woman’s observational skills are often much more keenly tuned than a man, and being with a man who notices things that other men usually don’t will have a powerful effect on her.

Does she have a fashion sense that you hardly ever get to see on other women? Does she circle words that she thinks sound cute when she’s reading? Let her know that you notice these things and ask her about them. And when she tells you these stories let her know that you find these things attractive about her.

6. Her Passions, Her Dreams and Her Goals

Do you remember the last time someone showed genuine interest in your dreams and goals? It’s always such a nice feeling to talk about things that you are passionate about with a person who’s genuinely interested in these things. And here’s the cool thing. Once you’ve built up a certain level of trust and rapport with a woman, all you need to do to find out these things about her is to ask.

You see, sometimes being a great conversationalist is like learning to become a mirror. The point isn’t to grope about blindly in search of things that your conversational partner to talk about.

The point is to learn to develop a feel for what topics get them excited and to learn to steer the conversation towards those topics.Women will feel refreshed by the genuine interest that you show in their lives and they will remember how you made them feel when talking about these things that they’re passionate about.

All in all, keep these conversational topics in mind and make a conscious effort to practice your conversational skills, and I guarantee that you’ll see a marked difference in the quality of the conversations you share with women.


9 Get-The-Girl Guarantees EVERY Guy Needs To Know

We are facing a period with extremely fast changes. Everything is affected by these, even dating and getting a girl to feel attracted by you. How to adapt more rapidly to these changes? Below you will find the answer.

In the past, when women were not independent as nowadays, the rules were extremely clear. Even the roles of men and women were very clearing defined while dating. Things were pretty simple, the man was courting the woman and both of them knew that if everything went smoothly the next was marriage.

But now, when the society has evolved, dating has become more complicated. What is to be done in this case? 

“Hanging out” and “hooking up” have replaced traditional courtship. Sex is no longer sacred and potential partners are far quicker to jump in the sack.

Some would consider this new direction advantageous for both sides. Yet despite this, many men and women seek dating advice that helps them find the meaningful connection they still yearn for (and haven't found despite these “advancements” in modern dating).

Having that  meaningful connection, one that's more than skin-deep, takes effort but is immensely rewarding. The real difference with men and women is that each goes about looking for this connection in different ways.

In a moment, we'll look at what you can do to date successfully. But first, let's look at some seriously outdated dating approaches that just DON'T work for you anymore, men. If you're doing one or more of these things, you're unknowingly repelling women of worth.

  • Focusing mainly on your job and not making dating a priority.
  • Misrepresenting yourself in your online profile. (Examples include not being truthful about your height, appearance, age, interests, etc.)
  • Being closed off to women who aren't in your desired age range.
  • Getting overly caught up in a woman's appearance and measurements.
  • Sending boring messages, one-size-fits-all messages or cheesy pick up lines to women online.
  • Texting and emailing for weeks, instead of talking on the phone and asking her out.
  • Saying what you think she wants to hear and not meaning what you say.
  • Taking advantage of a woman's money, generosity, sex, fragile state, etc.
  • Dragging things out with the wrong woman because there's no one else you're interested in.
  • Leading a woman on by making her think you're dating exclusively when you’re also seeing other women.
  • Trying too hard and giving off the energy of desperation.
  • Focusing on sex too much. (Examples include making sexual innuendos, saying what you think she wants to hear so that she'll have sex with you, and rushing/pressuring a woman to have sex.)
  • Dating women who deplete your energy. (Examples include women who take advantage of you, are drama queens, selfish, too critical or hypersensitive.)

Guys, now let's leave aside the history and are some tips for how to date women and enjoy more dates that lead to meaningful connection.

1. Be your true self
Present yourself as the same person online and offline. Women are pleasantly surprised to meet a man who portrays himself accurately. Trust is necessary and starts with being honest about the superficial things (i.e. height, appearance, age, interests, etc.).

Communicate openly about who you are, your beliefs, your views on life and love, etc., so that your dates gets to know who you truly are. Let her make an honest choice if the real you is right for her.

2. Be a gentleman
No matter the times you are facing, you have to be a gentleman. Treat a woman the way you'd like a man to treat your sister, daughter or someone you care about; this means dating responsibly. Take care of your appearance and hygiene. Be a man of your word. Be well-mannered, courteous and respectful in your words, behaviors and actions.

Take the time to learn who she is and what she's about, and share who you are with her. Let things unfold as they're meant to instead of trying to rush having sex with her. When you are a gentleman, having sex will not be difficult to happen.

3. Have integrity 
Be honest. If at the end of a date, you don't wish to see her again, don’t say, “I'll call you and let's do this again.” Empty words and empty promises create false hope and end up being more hurtful. In this situation, kind honesty is best.

Say something like, “Thank you for meeting me. I really enjoyed talking with you, though I didn't feel a romantic connection. I wish you well in life and love.”

4. Ask her out first
Though women lead every day in their professional lives, many of us prefer men to still make the first move romantically. If you're interested in her, ask her out.

Contact her based on what you read in her dating profile (i.e. referencing common interests, asking her a question about something that sparked your attention) before the window of opportunity passes.

The caveat is: Don't make mention of her appearance in a creepy way (i.e. “Hey sexy, love your body.”). A woman of worth doesn't respond positively to this kind of messages.

5. Be open to who she is
Be open to more than a woman's physical appearance, measurements and age.

Wonderful women come in all packages. Instead of making physical appearance your main criteria, focus 80 percent of your opinion on a woman's inner appearance and 20 percent on her outward appearance.

This also means dating women who are closer to you in age. You'll increase your odds of meeting and dating more women.

6. Be thoughtful
Show consideration and caring to a woman's feelings. A woman of worth must feel connected to a man to keep a positive momentum going. When a woman doesn't hear from you between dates, a space of negative energy builds up.

A woman likes to know you're thinking of her in between the times you see each other. So let her know this with a text, a quick phone call, etc. It's the little things that matter and add up to make a big difference.

7. Be patient
When it comes to dating, patience is a virtue. Don't sacrifice short-term urges for your long-term happiness. When you rush things, you sabotage your chances for dating to turn into a meaningful connection with a wonderful woman.

Instead of approaching dating as the destination, approach dating as the journey to finding a meaningful connection.

8. Balance your life
What you place your attention on becomes prominent in your life. Assess the amount of time and energy you spend working, with the amount of time you are with you your friends, dating, etc.

If you tend to work a lot or spend most of your free time with friends, your dating life won't fall into place by itself.

Dating takes time, effort and energy. Balance your life so that you're able to work well, date well and spend time with friends. When your life is in balance, life flows better.

9. Get out of your own way
When it comes to dating, the most important thing you can do is take responsibility for your side of the dating equation. This means understanding how you're getting in your own way and what's stopping you from having a great dating life.

To put it in a nutshell, identify the common tendencies that show up in your dating life. Then work on changing yourself so these tendencies don't show up.


HOW TO GET (AND KEEP) HER ATTENTION

She is amazingly beautiful and you want to do the impossible to get her attention. You have read over and over again on the internet about tips to make a girl be interested in you and keep the flame burning. But sometimes too much information is not helping, right? Therefore, in order to make the mission possible, we have summarized some of the most important steps which you could easily follow and you will definitely get the girl you want.

STEP 1: MASTER THE APPROACH

Stop looking for that ultimate line. Just catch her attention, says Nick Savoy, a dating expert and author of Magic Bullets. “You just want her interested in the next thing you're going to say to her.” Tell her about your trip to Prague or an interesting book you've recently read. Find a way to show her that you're a multi-dimensional guy, without sounding pretentious or self-involved.

STEP 2: AVOID THE LULL

This is where most guys hit a wall. “Never leave a conversation because you've run out of things to talk about,” Savoy says. At the very least, use something like, “that's just like when . . .” to keep things moving. If you're feeling confident, try the “cold read”—tell her something about herself based on her appearance or mannerisms. Point out her striking cheekbones or her cute laugh. You will see afterwards that her reaction will open up a new avenue in the conversation.

STEP 3: THE REEL-IN

“Confidence and humor are your biggest assets,” Savoy says. Make her laugh and take control of the conversation. Just don't overdo it—too often, guys fall into the habit of trying to be comedians or hogging the conversation. Be interesting and fun but make sure she's part of the discussion as well. “You don't want to yank on the line as soon as there's a nibble,” he explains. “Women value what they have to work for.”

STEP 4: TAKE IT OUTSIDE

Now think from the logistics point of view. Ditch loud, crowded surroundings for something more intimate. “That's where you'll discover your shared interests,” Savoy says. “It's where you build a connection.” You will never really get to know someone deeply when you have loud bass pumping in your ears. Ask her if she wants to go somewhere for coffee so you can talk. Then find a nice, quaint cafe—she'll will fall in love seeing this side of you.

STEP 5: KEEP THE NIGHT ALIVE

Obviously, you'll want to avoid sudden separations, like an hour-long drive to your place in two cars. Give her a reason to come over—watching an old movie, for instance. But be careful and don't try to trick her: At this point, you should both know what you want. And always make sure that she feels comfortable. Your expectations should be to simply hang out with her and get to know her better—that's when other things are most likely to happen.

 


The Most Important and Fundamental Dating Advice for Guys

It's not uncommon these days to find a lot of men looking for special techniques and ways to attract the women that they're interested in, getting sucked in by false promises claiming to expound “the ultimate secrets regarding love advice for men.” Most of these guys have it wrong from the get-go however, and instead of focusing on special tactics and relying on some “magical” words, they should be concerning themselves more with their own personal qualities, coupled with a solid understanding of what women often look for in a man. The real reason why you can't get a girlfriend is primarily a matter of attitude. Keeping things simple and “rudimentary” will allow you to approach women with ease and confidence, and can help you to score that first date! It all comes down to putting yourself in an advantageous position where a woman will naturally be interested in knowing more about, and spending more time with you in the process. This article aims to give you a succinct run down of the above mentioned rudimentary concepts and personal qualities, and serves as a general guide to dating advice for guys.

Be a Leader

Presenting yourself as a leader, or a “hunter” is considered by many women to be attractive. In general, women don't like indecisiveness in a man, as they're often looking for security and direction. They'll often look for a man that knows what he wants in life, and is working towards his goals. This doesn't mean you should be a jerk or act all “macho” and put on a fake show – this can actually be a big turn off to many women. A great way to go about applying this tip is to plan a little bit in advance. This is especially the case for dates; Knowing where you're going, what you're doing, and how you're going to do it will naturally keep your confidence levels up.

What Makes You Interesting?

Being able to “separate yourself from the herd” so to speak is very important. What can you offer a potential partner that other men out there can't? This kind of goes with the above tip, and goes along with being confident and knowing what you want in life. Women will tend to notice someone that is unique or pursuing special interests in their lives over those that aren't really doing much at all in the first place.

Work On Your Overall Social Skills

This is a pretty big one. Most dating advice for guys has to do with this key point. Being able to strike up interesting conversation with a girl in a confident manner is a surefire way to get them interested. Even if you're not the most motivated, “going places”, most interesting guy in the world, solid social skills can still make dating a beautiful woman possible. You don't necessarily have to have a “silver tongue” but you should be capable of maneuvering comfortably through conversations and able to quickly pick up on social cues.

Women Like Manners

Remember what we said before about not being a jerk? If you really want to impress a girl, be polite and apply some etiquette. Don't be afraid to compliment her looks; Women love that kind of thing, so long as you're not going overboard with it. Understand where the line is in your relationship. Simple things like opening doors for her, or helping her out of the car can go a long way. Don't be too crazy about it though, you don't want to freak them out. Being overly nice can come off as a little strange and might make things seem too serious.

First Impressions are Important

You'll see this point brought up in any real guide to dating advice for guys. Everyone will be a little nervous on their first date with someone; This is perfectly natural. You should make the effort to display a little self-confidence however, as most women will find it very attractive. Don't be afraid to lead the way on your dates, and take some charge. Being able to confidently and fluidly converse with a woman is very important. Keep in mind though that you shouldn't be overly focused on yourself. When talking to a girl, you want to meet on common grounds from a conversational point of view. Talk about things that can be interesting for both of you. The best dating questions to ask a girl are the ones that allow them an opportunity to show themselves to you, and vice versa. You're on a date to get to know each other after all, right?

You may have heard a lot of the above points before, or at least variations on them, yet it's astounding how many simply don't put them into to practice. Everyone is always looking for some magical shortcut to everything in life – it doesn't require anything like that. The best dating advice for guys you'll ever find is often the simplest, and entails being honest with yourself and in your approach. Sure, you may have to work on some areas, like developing social skills for instance, but that can come with practice. The same principle goes for the actual dating process; In the beginning, keep it simple – drinks are an okay place to start, just show a little effort on your part by finding something better than just the local watering hole. Take the time to come up with some fun things to do on a date with the girl you're interested in. It's a good idea to avoid any relationship advice for guys that promise things that seem too good to be true, or just downright silly.

With all of these helpful tips now in your arsenal, you should be much more capable of confidently approaching women and positioning yourself properly to capture and hold their interest. From there, you can see where things go. Don't overthink the entire process; Getting to know someone new and going on dates should be fun, so don't make it more than it needs to be. There are no magical shortcuts for getting women to like you, but there are certainly areas you can focus on that will greatly increase your odds of relational success.


Everything You Need to Know about Polish Dating

For a long time, Russian dating has been incredibly popular, with some men going so far as to spend vast amounts of money to import their own Russian brides. While Russian women certainly are beautiful, feminine, and nurturing, the Russian dating scene is overrun by scam artists who are really good at taking lonely men for their last dollar. And the Russian women who aren’t scam artists can be cold and materialistic (or straight-up gold diggers). It didn’t take long before men started looking elsewhere in Eastern Europe for beautiful women. As they did, the trend has shifted to Polish dating. Continue reading


Relationship Tips for Men

Does this sound familiar? You meet a great girl, you date for a while, and you think things are going great in your relationship. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, she breaks it off. What went wrong? And, more importantly, how can you prevent it from happening again?

With these relationship tips, you can keep your relationship going strong for the both of you.

Keep It Hot in the Bedroom

Let’s face it. Sex is the most important part of a relationship. Without it, you two are just good friends. So, if she starts losing her interest in sex, then she is probably going to lose her interest in you.

Keeping sex hot and steamy is something all couples have a challenge with. Over time, you get to know what each other like and you get into a pattern of doing the same thing.   Since you are probably also on a routine for seeing each other too, this just adds to the monotony — like knowing that you will always have sex on Tuesday nights, and that it will start with kissing on the couch, lead to missionary in the bedroom, and end in doggy position.   No matter how much fun this was at the beginning, it WILL get boring.

Unfortunately for men, sex gets boring for women a lot faster. So, men need to be really aware of how their partners are feeling.  Men notoriously aren’t good at picking up on women’s feelings, which is why that inevitable breakup always seems to be “out of the blue.”

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Long Distance Relationship Advice

Relationships are hard work even when you two live close to each other. Add a few thousand miles into the mix and “hard work” doesn’t even begin to sum up what it takes to survive the relationship. That’s right: survive. Long distance relationships are often talked about as exercises of survival because they are not for the faint of heart. You’ve got to be prepared to throw all your old notions of relationship to the wind, overcome your jealousy, and then there is that issue of sex.

Doesn’t sound like a long distance relationship is worth the trouble? It might not be. But, if you really think your relationship is something special, follow this advice for surviving a long distance relationship.

Decide Whether It is Worth It

Before you jump into a long distance relationship, ask yourself whether it is really worth it. There are two basic types of relationships that can end up with the distance factor. Depending on the type of relationship, you will have different issues to consider when deciding whether it is worth pursuing.

1. The Long Distance Attraction

This type of long distance relationship is when you fall for someone who lives far away. Maybe you two met on a cruise vacation. Maybe you met when he was in town on a work trip. Maybe you two met at a Star Wars convention and were smitten by your equal levels of nerdiness…

These attractions usually just end up being flings and nothing more. After all, you probably won’t be willing to put in all the work required of a long distance relationship for someone you just met.

But let’s say that this person is someone truly special and you don’t think that you will ever meet someone as great. If you want to pursue the relationship, then you better be REALLY flexible in your life right now. You better have the financial resources and time to go out and visit. And, assuming that everything goes well, you better be willing to drop everything (friends, family, career, your home…) to move out and be with that person.

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What to Say to a Girl for the First Time

A lot of guys stress about what to say when approaching a girl for the first time. Really, it really doesn’t matter what you say. Trying to come up with some clever pickup line or witty thing to say will probably just make you sound like you are reading from a script, and leave you unprepared for whatever her response will be. What is important is knowing what NOT to say.   And, after this initial approach, it is all about knowing how to respond to her replies in a way which builds ups attraction.

The Rule of Social Relevance

In our post about how to meet women, I wrote a lot about a major problem guys have when approaching women: they come off as creepy. This is because most guys aren’t aware of the rule of “social relevance.” This basically just means you’ve got to be aware of your situation and make conversation which is relevant to the place.

What To Say To A Girl

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