Category Archives: Dating

Five Signs You’re Suffering Exhaustion In Your Relationship

Typically most of us are acquainted with the term ‘exhaustion.' Burnout happens when you’re working too hard for the results that are being produced. Exhaustion can also be seen in a relationship. When we feel burned out, we lose enjoyment, frustrated, and depressed. If we’re working too hard to make our relationship work and it still fails, we become upset and begin to think that being single would have been better than staying in a dysfunctional and unhappy relationship.

So, how can we tell that we’re tired and burned out in our relationship? Here are five ways to explain it:

1. You start to resent dating. Some people after a breakup get all prepped up to get into the dating, while other seem disinterested or indifferent to dating. These are all somewhat positive indications of wanting to be single again. But, if you’ve decided not to date for a significant period after a breakup or a divorce, it points that you’re tired of being in relationships.

2. You don’t have much enjoyment while meeting potential partners. Most men and women find looking for a date as a stressful activity, but about when you’re meeting one or dating someone you met at work or introduced by a friend? If you feel less excited about these prospects, then we can conclude that you won’t get over your relationship exhaustion anytime soon.

3. Your emotional energy is almost empty. Most folks are depressed and feel exhausted after a breakup or after a final divorce proceeding. There another consequence of a relationship burnout – the lack of emotional energy. If you’ve depleted all of your emotional energy, you won’t feel any emotional reaction even in simple things such as jokes and laughter.

4. You remember only the bad moments. Usually, whenever someone leaves a job and found an opportunity or excited to pursue their passion, they keep reminiscing all the good and bad times about their past jobs holistically. If someone feels grateful to quit a bad job or a relationship, they will only remember all the bad and stressful times they had during that period. You can only recall the fights and arguments with your ex, rather than reminiscing all the good time you both during the early days of the relationship that brought you close to each other.

5. You feel pessimistic or cynical about love. You don’t get into a new relationship because you think sooner or later it will fail. You always think of people who are in love or relationships as fools. You always keep telling bad things about the concept of love and relationship like lies, illusions, etc. If this is all you can think about love, then it’s an unfortunate outcome of relationship exhaustion.

To make this critical period of your life easier and get over it, try to understand what lessons you've learned from your previous relationship so that you can heal and prepare yourself for your next relationship. Even you meet someone interesting, and he or she likes to date you, be straightforward with and tell them you aren’t interested at the moment. If you’ve lost your spark, try to cultivate it again by focusing your interest and passion in other parts of your life.


How to Find out if You’re Dating an Emotionally Unstable Person

A romantic partner should be willing and emotionally available to have a relationship with you. If he or she is unavailable or is unable to connect to their partners emotionally, then this isn’t the person you should keep dating.

Men and women, sometimes, confusingly get attracted to unavailable, commitment-deficient people, because they find it hard to ignore the strong emotional or sexual chemistry involved in it. The attraction can be so alluring and rare that, many mistakes it for intensity rather than intimacy. You make compromises that you won’t consider under normal circumstances to give the relationship a chance. Nonetheless, whether you have or don’t have a connection, you should think carefully to determine if the person you’re interested at if capable of intimacy or emotionally available.

For a relationship to be healthy there must be a connection between two people. Even if your intuition convinces you that there is a connection, things can still go unrealized. Just because the person you date felt like a soul mate during the initial days of dating, doesn’t mean that he or she is going to be your soul mate forever. No matter, how mind-blowing or amazing your soul mate is, there is no guarantee that he or she will feel the same emotional connection with you. You can fall in love with someone who is totally not right for you. Sometimes, reality can be very unfair and perplexing.

Don’t put your love life on hold, just because you can’t be with someone you desire. Love that is destined for you will be realized one day. So, how can you prevent yourself from romantically getting entangled in delusional relationships, when you realize that the person isn’t that one you expected?

For starters, here are ten red flags of emotionally unavailable people to keep an eye for:

      1. They’re already in a relationship or married to someone else.

 

      2. They’re emotionally repellent, closed off and can’t cope with conflict.

 

      3. They’re primarily interested in sex, and not interested to be connected with someone emotionally or spiritually.

 

      4. Most emotionally unavailable individuals are chronic alcoholics, drug or sex addicts.

 

      5. They’re interested in long-distance relationships, texting and emailing.

 

      6. They don’t like to introduce you to their family and friends.

 

      7. They’re sneaky, deceptive, tired or frequently working. They disappear without any notice for weeks or months.

 

      8. Most of them are narcissists. They’re only thoughtful about their wants and needs, not you or others.

 

      9. They’re seductive when you’re around, but don’t make any solid promises. Also, their words and behavior don’t align most of the time.

 

    10. Unavailable men and women trick you that they can be romantic and emotionally loving when you get close to them, they withdraw.

At first, some of these signs might be more evident or tricky than others. It’s common as we tend to be at our best during the honeymoon stages of a romantic relationship. Over time, your partner's real personality will emerge. If you desire a truly loving, intimate, emotionally and sexually fulfilling relationship, avoid being involved with someone who is incapable of reciprocating your emotions and feelings.


7 Things For Single Parents To Remember When Dating

Dating is hard, and it can get even more difficult if you’re a parent, while your kid or kids watch your every move. All of sudden your love life get tangled up with integrity, morals, and values that you’ve established for your kids.

Children learn from their parents, and when single parents go on dates, they’re showing their kids how to date, what kind of man or a woman should you date, is sex before marriage is right or not, and so forth. It’s not uncommon for kids to ask their single parents about a man in the bathroom, or why a lady is sleeping in their father’s bed in the morning. They will ask if you like him or her, or whether if you’re thinking to get married to that man or woman. Your kids might also pass out judgments or opinions about your dates like, ‘he’s too old, or she’s not pretty,' etc.

It can be stressful and overwhelming for some single parents, to give reasonable answers to questions like these, but there is a solution. Below are some tips that will be helpful for single parents who have decided to start a new relationship:

1. Ask yourself – how important are your children in your life? Some single parents will say they love them very much, while others give a more mature and serious answer like, “They love them so much that they’ll stop dating or won’t be in a relationship for a few years.” We aren’t telling that every single parent should follow this advice, but your kids’ future must be your top priority.

2. If you got divorced, keep in mind that your children still loves their mom or dad. They probably don’t want their mother or father gets replaced by a new man or a woman, or how much you love him or her.

3. It is better that you don’t introduce your kids to every new man or woman you’re dating. This will make them confused and create a negative impression about you.

4. Date someone who already has children. This will erase any complications in future with a potential partner who isn't ready or committed to be in a relationship or get married to someone with children.

5. Don’t allow your dates to roam in your room or house half-naked during the early morning so that your kids don't see him or her.

6. Some people just suck at being good parents. The more you get to know your date; you’ll be able to see that. Great dates don’t always make great parents.

7. Keep everything low key, when you realize that your relationship has turned serious, and you want to introduce your date to your kids. A trip to the zoo or a picnic is a great way to get your kids acquainted with your date, especially if they’re young. Things are different and harder when your children are older. In that situation, bring all the kids, particularly the older ones, into the discussion and ask them to express their feelings of this new person. Tell them you to want him or her to be part of the family and how they feel about that.

Being parents while dating can be difficult. But, if you follow the above advice finding someone new and having a relationship, and being a happy and responsible parent will be much easier.


12 Reasons Having a Sense of Humor Makes You Attractive and Desirable

While looking for a partner most men and women say they want their partners to be fun to hang out with. What they're trying to mean is that they want their matches to have a sense of humor. But, did it ever occur to know why exactly having this quality makes a person attractive and desirable? Here are twelve reasons for that:

1. Fun projects a unique perspective on life and tells about a person’s attitude and outlook towards life. It makes you appear upbeat and positive.

2. Flirting is the first step towards starting a relationship, and being funny is one of the best flirting strategies around. If you want to make a woman get in bed with you, make her laugh!

3. Having a sense of humor will conceal your personal weaknesses. If one of those men or women, who are told as average or below average in some way, being funny and able to make people smile and laugh will compensate for it. Besides, it’s sexy too!

4. A great sense of humor reveals your good heart and intentions. Given that most of the today’s humor is based on cynicism and sarcasm, your playful and light-hearted humor will show your kindness.

5. Having a sense of humor indicates that you have a pleasant personality. It means that you have the ability to make and share jokes and other funny moments with others. People who possess an excellent sense of humor are inviting in nature. They invite other people to join them while having fun and encourage them to be playful and active. If you this to your date, he or he will also encourage to do the same to you.

6. Humor is often said to engage people and attract them. It makes other people get interested in you, which is important when going on dates. It also makes people feel at ease. Dates are stressful, so laughing together will diffuse some tension and will make both of you feel relaxed.

7. A great sense of humor shows that you have a sharp mind, quick-witted and bright person. All important if you want to attract a mate.

8. Being vulnerable is important to be in a romantic relationship. Being funny demonstrates your willingness to feel insecure.

9. No one likes to date a person who is unhappy. Having a sense assures that your date that you are a happy person. And of course, happy couples make happy and loving relationships.

10. A good sense of humor shows that your compatibility in an important area. You know that you and your date are at least compatible in one area where you both laugh at the same things.

11. Men and women who have a great sense of humor have the ability to diffuse conflict and arguments in the relationship amicably and efficiently.

12. People, who are funny, usually don’t take themselves very seriously. Humor that is self-deprecating shows your date that you can make fun of yourself too.

One of the essential qualities men and women look while looking for someone to flirt or date, is whether he or she can have fun, make fun and be funny. So, get out there and be funny!


6 First Date Conversation Tips

Dating is already hard enough, and we all know the how to make the best impression on the first date conversation. So, how do you bring the best of you when you’re meeting someone for the first time?

Here are six ways for making the most of a first date conversation, so you can hope to be on a second date with him or her.

1. Don’t talk too much
We tend to over talk, when we get nervous. The more we talk, the less we get to know someone. Typically when we meet someone new, we start by making small talk. But, as we get settled down, we start to get familiar with him or her. Keep your chatting time limited in the first five minutes. Don’t talk about everything that pops in your head, unless it seems interesting and worth sharing.

2. Look at him or her
Don’t look like a creep. Keep your gaze soft, steady and be focused on your date. Looking at your date in this will convey that, you’re interested in him or her. Use your eyes to tell and invoke your date a sense of warmth, and safety.

3. Find out if both of you are on the same page
When meeting your date for the first time, you want to convey your emotional maturity to him or her, which is important to have a committed and long-lasting relationship. Ask questions like, what his or her goals in life are, or what is the most important thing in life is for him or her at the moment, and so forth. This will help you to get you more acquainted with each other.

4. Tell the truth, but maintain boundaries.
Always be honest and never lie, but don’t share too much of your life at the first date. However, it’s okay to talk a little about your past relationships or marriages. Don’t be scared or be honest about sharing your emotional baggage. When talking about your exes, don’t thrash them. It’s very unattractive.

5. Ask them how they feel
Ask your date how they’re feeling about the date. Don’t shy away from asking them about their emotions and feelings, and what made them come on this date. Ask them what motivates them to make important decisions in life, like why did they take teaching as a career or why did they relocate to a new city and so on. Pay attention when they answer you and figure out if the answers are concrete or emotional. For example, if your date becomes emotional when talking about kids, it’s obvious that he or she loves children and want to be around them.

6. Exit the date gracefully
Whether your first date was good or bad, end the date in a graceful manner without offending the other person across the table. Smile, convey “Thank you,” and tell them you enjoyed the date and meeting him or her. The date may have been bad or failed to live up to your expectations, but don’t leave feeling disappointed with yourself or your date.

The first date conversations are hard and can fail to meet your expectations, given that both parties are feeling nervous and don’t know what’s going to happen. However, if you’re meeting someone new for the first time, these tips will help you to make your first date conversation a pleasant experience.


How To Reduce the Pressure of the First Date

Whether you’re 25 or 65, for the majority of people looking for love feel nervous on first dates. It’s a situation where most people think their love is at stake and the chance to a second date is dependent on his or her performance. Feeling stressed out on dates makes you unattractive. Thought, performing under pressure on first dates don’t always make your date love you; it does increase your chances of a second date.

Here are the three most usual first date pressures and how can you address, so that you can give your best on the first date:

The Pressure To Look Good
The pressure to look attractive and desirable is one of the main pressures felt by daters. Most men and women attempt to reduce this pressure by changing their looks via makeup, dresses or hairstyles. Though this might boost your attractiveness for a while, it would have been much more effective, if you have focused on how you feel about yourself. Before going on a date, think about your self-worth, your personality, and your strength. Be confident and maintain a positive attitude, and you’ll appear more attractive and fun to others.

The Pressure To Find A Date Place
If you want to have a good experience with your potential partner, take some time and consideration while selecting a place for the date. Making decisions hastily and under pressure are usually bad. You can reduce your stress by choosing a place where you can feel empowered and be in control. Don’t be inconsiderate to your date, but invest some time and effort to find a location, that will make both of you feel authentic and relaxed. It will help you and your date to have fun too. Most people try to reduce the pressure to find a place his or her likes to go. You might love the idea to take your date to a hot and expensive restaurant, but the prices of the menu will make you jittery!

The Pressure To Have A Nice Conversation
When it comes to a first date, the pressure to have right and natural conversation is a lot of pressure. Most of us anxious about what topics to discuss or not, what information should I keep a secret, etc. The key here is not to be quiet, silly or bored in the conversation. One way to reduce conversational pressure is by share your feelings and thoughts about the topics you discuss. Expressing your feelings and thoughts is an intimate level of communication, and they add color and uniqueness to the conversation. Besides, it also makes him or her interesting to their respective dates. For example, instead of talking about your job details, express your thoughts and feelings about your job and why you like it. It will make your date tick. Also, encourage your date to share his thoughts and feelings too and stay away from evaluating them. The purpose is to have a first date conversation that will help both of you to feel connected.

First dates are crucial if you want to have a relationship. Naturally, there’s a lot of pressure involved, and the best way to reduce it is to remember that a first date is not a do or die situation. Rather it’s an opportunity to meet someone new and have fun!


12 Reasons You Should Date A First Born Child

There has been research conducted by late psychologist Alfred Adler, who speculated that an individual’s personality, temperament, and habits are significantly shaped by his or her position in the sibling group. Various studies show that the birth order greatly influences a person’s education, career, earning capability and much more. This brings us to the topic of firstborns and whether they make great partners.

Here are 12 reasons you should consider dating a first child. So read on and decide for yourself:

1. Firstborns are intelligent, and they know how to use it. Men and women who are firstborns tend to have a high IQ and reach higher levels of education than their siblings. As they highly and better educated than their siblings, firstborns typically have a high earning potential. In fact, it’s been reported that firstborns make at least $100,000 extra annually than their siblings.

2. Firstborns are the movers and shakers in the family and society. They have a high drive for success, and usually fill most leadership roles and positions in education, business, and the military. Firstborns also have strong leadership abilities. As the oldest child of his or her siblings, these people aren’t scared to face challenges or take charge.

3. If you marry a firstborn, he or she will help you with domestic duties. Why? Because firstborns often are given lots of responsibility by parents like taking care of younger siblings, doing chores, etc.

4. Firstborns are self-motivated. They have immense desire to please and achieve personally and don’t need many external incentives to get going.

5. Firstborns got an early head-start when it comes to spending quality time with his or her. The first child will usually get an approximately 3,000 additional hours from their parents than the next sibling between the ages four to13.

6. Firstborns are confident. As firstborns, they got all the attention from their parents and praises as well. They also have high self-esteem and self-assurance than their siblings as they didn’t have an older sibling to mock or make fun of them.
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Firstborns are goal-oriented. Because, they’ve witnessed their parents celebrating their every first milestones.

8. If you’re dating a firstborn, you might be dating the next president or a future astronaut. 64 percent of all U.S. presidents are firstborns. Meanwhile, among 23 of American astronauts who went to space.

9. 21 of them were firstborns, while the remaining two astronauts were the only child of their parents. Also, all seven astronauts were firstborns in the original Mercury program.

10. Usually, firstborns are seen as responsible and reliable. They have developed and honed these qualities by taking care of their younger brothers and sisters, and have taken up grown-up skills and tasks early on.

11. Firstborns always strive to become role models. As the leader of his or her sibling group, all younger siblings look at them as examples school, home, and work.

12. Firstborns are typically thinner and taller than the rest of his or her siblings. So, if you guys looking for a lady with a slender physique, and all you ladies, who have soft corners for tall guys, now you know whom to date!


We All Want Chemistry In Relationships – But What Is Chemistry?

When it comes to having a fulfilling relationship, chemistry is inevitable. But, it doesn’t always eventuate in the way we would like it to think. Most men and women were looking for someone dream of a day when they will fall in love with someone at first sight, but in real life, it’s more complicated.

We all had arguments with our friends when we passed on someone attractive. The reason we did that we didn’t find any chemistry with the person. You see chemistry is more than just physical attractiveness. Chemistry is different for every person. We may find someone unattractive at first glance, but can get attracted to him or her after chatting with them for a few minutes face-to-face. In some occasions, we might get instantly drawn to a person citing instant chemistry, but that feeling of attraction can be misleading. For a relationship to be successful and long-lasting, you need more than mere physical attraction.

We all want to share particular experiences and values, and we get validated and respected by people who share those values. Chemistry originally starts with sharing the same philosophies about life. It’s the similarities and likeliness of those experiences and values that connect us with someone. It is helpful to have and share the same philosophies regarding life, family, kids, money, communication and intimacy. Connecting with someone also get a tad little easier when two people share the same daily activities, passions, and interests. For example, you and your partner both love to eat Chinese food and hiking. Living and enjoying life is all about sharing experiences together.

Your fascination with chemistry with someone also depends on the persona of him or her. You get attracted to a person who has the same persona as you. Some like smart and quiet people, while some are attracted to people with boisterous lives.

We all make gestures to show our love, care, and affection to our partners. How our partners respond to specific gestures is an important part of chemistry. If your gestures and actions towards your date or partner are well-received and appreciated, the chemistry you feel towards them will soar.

Many men and women while looking for partners online usually passes on some of their potential matches simply they didn’t like his or her profile picture. This is really sad because these people are judging someone far away from them from behind a computer screen. Chemistry is a tricky and complicated thing. There are elements when making a connection with someone and chemistry is a part of it. So, when you see someone new and don’t feel an instant attraction to him or her, don’t reject them. Try to schedule a date with that person, have a conversation, and get to know him or her. Who knows you might be interested and feel attracted to him or her.

The bottom line is if you’re looking for someone to date, and met someone who has most of the qualities you like to see in a woman or a man, get yourself out there and have a date with them. That’s the only way for you actually to find out if you've any chemistry with them.


12 Reasons You SHOULD Date a Middle Child

Popular culture seems to depict the middle child as the overlooked sibling and unfavorably compared to their overachieving older and their younger siblings. But, before you pass on any stereotypical judgment, many unique characteristics make the middles special in the family with siblings.

Here are 12 reasons you should consider dating a middle child as it’s known to many they make excellent romantic partners. Read on to find more:

1. The middles happen to be exceptional negotiators. Whenever disputes and arguments break up among the siblings while growing up, these people have mastered the art to navigate conflicts via diplomacy.

2. The middles are great listeners. The mid kids are usually come as reserved and are more interested to listening than talking.

3. The Middle-borns are often the gems of the family no one seems to notice. Sure, they weren’t the superstars of the family while growing up, but nonetheless, these guys have developed qualities, characteristics and learned strategies that will help them shine in adulthood.

4. The middles try their best to succeed. Because they’ve often being classified as the underdog and runner-up, they strive hard to get recognized and get ahead.

5. Fairness and justice are of utmost importance to a mid kid. They have been overshadowed and unnoticed throughout their childhood. So, they relate to and cater to people who are marginalized in society.

6. The middles are said to be trustworthy romantic partners. According to researcher Dr. Catherine Salmon, she found that middle children are highly unlikely than others to cheat on their partners while in long-term romantic relationships. Almost 80 percent had never cheated, compared to 65 percent and 53 percent of first-borns and last-borns respectively.

7. Unsurprisingly, Middles are great at finding a middle ground. They’re skilled at establishing compromise and consensus among people since they’ve spent their childhood in a group. Middle children also play well with others. They tend to excel in sports and perform much better while working in teams and groups.

8. Most middles proudly define themselves to be unique. Since they’ve being stuck in the middle throughout their childhoods, it motivates and energizes them to find new, creative ways to stand apart from their siblings.

9. Middles emotionally stable. In 2013, researchers concluded that middle kids who have grown with both parents are less likely than other siblings to suffer from emotional disorders such as ADHD.

10. Middles don’t feel entitled by nature. In general, middle children weren’t spoiled or indulged when growing up, so they aren’t demanding in their adulthood.

11. Middles have a day dedicated to them on August 12, called “National Middle Child’s Day.” Now, you and your partner will have an excuse to celebrate something.

12. Middle children, people are marriage material. They tend to be in long-term happier marriages and stay to remain faithful to their partners than others. And guess what, they’re also more adventurous in the bedroom. You heard that right! Researchers agree that middles are less judgmental of their partners’ sexual interests and willing to try new techniques in bed. They are also more satisfied with the sex lives than other siblings.

So, what are you waiting for? Get yourself out there and date someone who is the middle of the family.


Holding Onto an Old Relationship Can Make You Sick and Feel Hopeless

Sometimes forgiving someone who has wronged or hurt you is right for you. If you’ve been in a relationship and he or she breaks up with you, it’s perfectly natural to resent and hold a grudge against that person for the tremendous pain they caused you. However, holding a grudge will do more harm to you and usually doesn't hurt the person who caused the heartbreak.

Bitterness and resentment can make you physically sick. Bitterness and resentment can cause psychological and emotional stress and illness. If you persistently keep replaying your breakup incident over and over again in your head, thinking about all the things you could have said and done, you will become stressed and consumed by this. It may disrupt your sleep pattern and overshadow your daily conversations. None of this is good for your physical and social well-being.

If you don’t let go of the pain from your previous relationship, it could spoil your chances of finding a new one. It’s because being angry and resentful of your ex will make you overly defensive with other people because you’re afraid of being rejected and hurt again. You always feel conflicted and unable to commit to a new relationship, and remain depressed and anxious.

Therefore, if you want a fresh start with someone new, it is critical that you forget the thoughts and feelings of your ex, and give the new person a chance to love you. These three simple steps will help you get started:

1. Refrain from using the word “should” and “shouldn’t” when you’re having a conversation about your ex. For example, ‘he should have done that,' or ‘she shouldn’t talk to me like that’ and so forth. These words will keep you tied to the past, and prevent you from forgiving your ex and moving on. Stressing about what should and shouldn’t have happened won’t change the past.

2. Focus on the present. When you resent someone, you’re focusing all your thoughts and attention on the past and visualizing what would have happened in the future. You ignore the present and what’s in front of you right now. By thinking how the past would have changed your future, you’re putting your current life on hold. It will be a challenge to find happiness or get healed by looking at the past or the future. It’s in the present. So, accept that and be productive.

3. If one door closes, another door opens up. So, take your breakup as an opportunity to be in a new relationship. This is easier said than done, however, the goal is to shift your thoughts into more positive ones. So, get yourself out there in the dating scene and find someone right for you. When you’ve realized the opportunities in each moment, seize it and make it happen.

If you’ve recently experienced a breakup, you need to forget the past to focus on the present. So, don’t hold any anger or grudge towards your ex, and forgive him or her for your own well-being. And the quickest way to forget and ultimately forgive the one who broke up with you is to fill the gap with someone new. Someone right who will make you hopeful and feel alive.