Congratulations! You got a date with a girl, and you feel excited about it. She’s exquisite, sexy, sensual, brilliant and funny. She makes you smile and laugh with her quirky jokes and enthrall your mind and soul with her exotic beauty. Every morning you wake up her smile makes you happy. But, that’s not the case for most young couples sadly. Ignorance is rife in today’s relationships, and it has created stressful challenges in our relationships.
Most couples admitted that as the relationship matures over time; they felt less and less close to their partners and are having second thoughts about their partners and asking themselves if they have made a right decision while choosing their partners. This is more prevalent in men who are always thinking that they could have found a better girlfriend who will love them more. So, they start to stop choosing her, and that kind attitude makes both parties suffer.
If you truly chose someone you love, focus every day on the gifts she brings into your life and be grateful for it. Appreciate and be grateful for her smile, beauty, laughter, companionship, sensuality, playfulness, and so on. Unfortunately, most guys find it almost impossible to acknowledge or even see what made their current partners so wildly beautiful. Many men fail to see this in their spouses because they focused too much on the anger, insecurities, wants, needs, demands, and other aspects of their partner’s personality that attracted them to her in the first place. The more you focus on your significant other’s not-so-good sides, the more you see it, the more you know about it, and the more you reflected it on her by behaving with her in, the worse possible manner. Ultimately, this kind of behavior will do nothing but strain your relationship with her even further, which will make you feel less interested in her.
The other partner might notice this, and they will try to make you feel interested in them, but it won’t work. You can't make someone choose you, even if they are insanely in love with you. Sometimes, your partner might not choose you entirely. And you see that if you see your girlfriend always looking for a reason to have a fight with you. If you look carefully, you will discover that she’s acting this way because she didn’t feel safe and secure with you. Deep within she realized that you didn’t choose her every day, including your words, your behaviors, and your actions, and she felt scared that you will abandon her.
If you are in a relationship and want to keep the romance alive in the relationship, ask yourself this question, “What’s making you choose your partner today?” If you fail to find a satisfying answer, take a breath, dig deeper and try to find one. If you can't find it today, ask yourself the same question again tomorrow. But if you still can’t find a satisfactory answer after too many days have gone by, and finding it challenging to connect with your girlfriend, and your relationship is filled with stress, let them go. Love someone whom you enthusiastically chose to love every day.