Are in your 40s and looking for a date? Apart from what you think it can be fun. It depends on how you handle it. Let’s make one thing clear; dating in your 40s isn’t same like dating in your 20s. While dating in your 20s, you felt hopeful and optimistic. By the time you are in your 40s, you have been in a few relationships already, and probably hit a few bumps along the way. The thoughts you had about love and relationships get distorted when you realize that your long-term girlfriend or partner isn’t who you thought she said to be. Whether you have been married or not, looking for a date is tough, after getting out from a long-term relationship.
But, it doesn’t have to be all gloomy and hopeless. Dating in your 40s can be fun and enjoyable if you know how to play your cards right. It all in how you approach. Here are four proven dating tips while dating in your 40s:
1. Know what your goals are
Before you get out there, ask yourself do you want a casual or long term relationship? Are you looking to get married eventually? Understanding what you really want allows you to communicate your thoughts to your date and be adamant of what you want to gain from the dating process. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, and ladies you are meeting want something casual, then don’t waste your time, skip her, and look for someone else.
2. Be happy yourself first
It is wrong and unhealthy in a relationship to expect someone else to provide for your happiness. Making you happy is your sole responsibility. If you realize you feel sad and empty, and think that being in a relationship or getting married will make you happy — you’re not ready to date. You need to work on yourself before you ask a woman to be your significant other. Naturally, women want to make the man in their life happy, but it is not their job to be the providers of your happiness. This can create pressure on them and to have high expectations, which isn't good for any relationship.
3. Be yourself
Don’t be someone you are not. Do not act or dress like someone like you did while dating in your 20s. Be yourself. Being true to yourself means that you are confident of you are, and what you can offer in the relationship. Your goal is to find someone who is right for you, not to impress someone else. Be curious. Approach your date with curiosity, and upgrade your attitude you have about dating, it will make the whole process more enjoyable.
4. Don’t get back in the dating scene too soon
Did you end a long-term relationship recently? Have you been recently divorced? If yes, then it isn’t a good idea to start dating again, even though a lot of people will say the opposite. You see healing from a breakup or a divorce isn’t that easy. It takes time to heal and grow. You probably know that by now. So, utilize that time as a chance to learn what went wrong in the relationship, and what role did you play in it. If you don’t, it’s highly likely that you will keep making the same mistakes in a new relationship again.