If you've been single for some time now, odds are you've encountered this dreaded dilemma: a friend asking to set you up. Some people might totally go for this idea, while others would never agree to it. What if you fall somewhere in the middle of those two feelings? You might be unsure about whether or not letting a friend set you up with someone is a good idea. If you're currently on the fence about letting a friend set you up with someone, check out our breakdown of the pro's and con's below:
Let's start with the positive aspects of your friend setting you up with someone. First of all, your friend cares about you. In most cases, if your friend offers to set you up with someone, it's because they truly want to see you happy. (If this isn't the case, are they really your friend?) Perhaps your friend has seen that you've been unhappy living the single life or that you're having a hard time meeting someone on your own. They're now offering a helping hand to ease your dating woes!
It's also important to remember that your friends usually know you better than anyone does – aside from your family. Your friend knows what you're looking for and what you're not looking for. That means they're going to pick someone who fits all your criteria! It's like having your very own personal dating app that is focusing all their attention solely on finding your soulmate. If your friend has really found the perfect match for your, you could be with this person for the rest of your life. Now that's what friends are for!
Now that we've considered what's good about letting your friend set you up with someone, let's be pessimists for a moment and consider all that could go wrong. What if your friend totally misses the mark and sets you up with someone awful? Are you going to be mad at them? Is it going to impact your friendship? You want to avoid a situation like this because it's not worth tampering with your friendship. Now, on the flipside, what if you initially like the person and start seeing them for a while…only for things to crash and burn? Depending on how your friend knew this person (like if they're a family member, for instance), your friend might feel an obligation to take sides when the two of you break up. They won't wind up in this position if you avoid this situation all together.
Another thing that is important to consider is this: Why is your friend asking to set you up with someone? If it's because they've seen how unhappy you are single, like we previously mentioned, then this is likely in your best interest. However, if you've done nothing to show your friend that you're unhappy being single, they could just be acting nosey. If you are currently happy living the single life, and they are insisting on setting you up with someone, they're just being pushy. You should only agree to being set up if you truly feel that something good could come out of it, not just because you want to appease your friend.