So you've been in a relationship for some time and now you think that the situation is ideal for you to take one step further by making it all official. But you ask yourself if you’re rushing too soon? Sometimes people rush into things while they're excited but then regret it afterwards. Maybe they are agreeing to it because of some family pressure or because of the time factor with everyone getting older, but whatever the case may be it is a major decision, and you should always think thoroughly about it. These signs will tell you when you are rushing to make the relationship official:
#1 Your gut feeling doesn’t lie
When taking this decision, you feel a rock bottom feeling in your stomach and lots of nervousness. This is a normal reaction to something which you haven’t done with the heart’s agreement; this should be an immediate sign that it is time for you to rethink your decision.
#2 You have planned it, but you hesitate
People who want to make things happen then they put all their effort in it as well. You, on the other hand, are still using words like “if” and “when” as if the time is somewhere in distant future and this all shows you are not ready for it. You’re taking this time off because you are not yet sure about it.
#3 You are still in contact with you exes
When you are not sure or serious about one relationship, then you will always be in contact with other guys/girls, and it will not feel wrong because you feel whatever you are doing is okay from the inside. If you had committed to the person whom you are going to marry, then you wouldn’t even think about anyone else, and you would only spend all your time with that one person. You are definitely exploring your options because you haven't yet taken your decision.
#4 You don’t get motivated seeing others get hitched
People who want to get married or want to start a long-term commitment usually get motivated and excited when they see others in the same situation. You, however, have never felt this way and even if it is your closest friend getting married. You will still not want it for yourself.
#5 You have been overprotective about your independence and alone time
You are not yet ready for someone’s interference in your life. You don’t want anyone to tell you what to do and when to do. You like living by your own rules, and this long-term companionship might not be the best idea, at least for now.
#6 Whenever the subject gets brought back again, you always change the topic
Your partner is all pumped up for it and has already started making plans about things like which place will you be living in or what school will your kids be going to. All these things feel nauseous to you, and all you do in such situations is change the topic to something entirely different or just bring food in between since that seems to solve it always.