Intimacy in relationships is easily misunderstood and complicated both for new lovers and to those who are in committed relationships. Most couples have admitted that they have misinterpreted and misunderstood the motives and desires of their partners at times. The definition of intimacy and what it really means is different for every person, and it’s common to see incorrect assumptions between partners when it comes to intimacy in relationships. The thing to remember is that those discrepancies can severely affect the outcomes and expectations partners have each other in the relationship.
Here are the four different four kinds of intimacy people need in a relationship, and the lack of anyone of these can rock the foundation of the relationship:
- Physical Intimacy
Most people associate intimacy in a romantic relationship with physical touch. This kind of intimacy is the easiest to talk about because both partners are familiar with it. But, despite it, we have found that couples, both new and established, aren’t able to communicate honestly about it with each other, especially sexual intimacy. The main reason here is that they are afraid that talking about it offend or make the other partner feel uncomfortable. As a result, many couples lack a strong physical connection with their partners. We have found couples who honestly talk about their physical intimacy have a strong bond with each other, in spite of some issues in other parts of their relationship.
- Emotional Intimacy
Emotional intimacy is an essential basis for trust and comfort in a relationship. The importance and role of emotional intimacy to have a healthy, happy relationship must precede any other intimate connection. Emotional intimacy in the relationship can be nurtured if a partner tracks, understands, and supports the emotional experience of the other partner. Emotional intimacy ensures that all other intimate interactions in the relationship are safe. Only through emotional intimacy that a couple can genuinely understand, accept and support each other.
- Mental Intimacy
When couples can share their most intimate thoughts, emotions, feelings, motivations, and inspirations, they can create an environment that makes them feel like they are living in each other’s minds. When partners feel that their ideas, views, and opinions genuinely matter to the each other, they become more open and more vulnerable.
- Spiritual Intimacy
Spirituality is the belief that there is something greater than you and that kind of faith humbles and enriches the human spirit. Spirituality is all about what gives you meaning and purpose in life, and how would you share it with the person you love. Couples, who are in committed relationship, should be motivated and they should motivate each other to practice spiritual intimacy as it will help them to attain solidarity and closeness, which they can’t achieve in other intimate way or any other way. The best place to do it under a waterfall in a beautiful and serene forest or a place of worship. While practicing spirituality, it is crucial to capture an ordinary sense of wonder, while feeling protected and inspired at the same time. When both partners understand and can intimately communicate each other's thoughts and feelings, they can to respond to each other’s needs and wants more accurately and quickly.