Our society is filled with women who are trying to get their past boyfriend’s back, despite the fact, these men were abusive to them, and had no interest in being in a committed and exclusive relationship with them. Many of these women don’t ACTUALLY want them back, but what forcing them to reconcile with them is they’re afraid of being left alone, or they think that they won’t find someone new again. But, what really these women need is a guy who is emotionally mature and capable of establishing a relationship.
It’s your fears that are stopping from being the woman you wanted to be, and have a meaning relationship with the man who is right for you. Here’s how you can confront your fears, and attract the kind of man who always wanted.
Imagine Yourself In His Shoes
Ask yourself what makes an “ideal” man. What qualities does he have? How does his life look like? How does he spend his time? And most importantly, what type of woman does he want to have a relationship? To tell the truth, a man who is attractive, available and emotionally mature is looking for a woman who is open, independent, and can give and receive love. A woman who is needy, desperate and always living in fear is a big turn off for most guys. A man is interested and commits to a woman who doesn’t turn into someone else when he meets her but is confident and comfortable who she really is.
Throw Out Your Excess Baggage
We aren’t talking about your past here. We all have one. It’s the experiences that keep you stuck in the past and prevent you from moving on. Yes, we’re talking about your exes and past relationships. If you keep thinking about your previous relationships all the time, it will instill fear in you that will prevent you to getting involved in a new relationship. Your fears and baggage of your past relationships will stop you from emotionally connecting with your new partner, which will push him away from you.
Invite A Man Into Your Life
No man likes a clingy or a needy woman, who is looking for a man to rescue her. Sure, a guy wants his girlfriend to be happy, he just doesn’t want that it’s his sole responsibility to make her happy. Because it will put immense pressure on him and he will see making her happy as a chore. And when that happens, he’ll look for ways to get out from the relationship. Your best approach here is let go of your past, and focus on the future, and ensure that you stayed happy and fulfilled now. If the life you’re currently living makes you feel happy and beautiful, it’s an invitation ticket for a man to enter your life and be a part of it.
Be Clear Of What You Want
Fear makes us do all sorts of stuff when we meet someone we like. And the most usual thing most ladies do is to conceal what they really want to have a relationship. They fear if they told the truth it would scare a man away. The right way is to tell your boyfriend what you need without appearing needy and putting pressure on him, For example, before you get physically intimate with your partner you can tell him you can get physically involved only after getting to know him well, and in a committed relationship. When you tell a guy this, you’re not making it about him. Instead, you’re communicating to him that this is exactly what you’re looking for in the relationship.