Are you feeling neglected by your girlfriend? Are you feeling worried because your partner isn't giving you enough time and attention? If you think that you are being ignored or neglected by your girlfriend, you might have some idea why this is happening. Maybe your spouse is coping with a serious ailment, stress or is having some issues with her family or with her co-workers at her office, or it might be something entirely different and difficult for you to comprehend. You might be sympathetic to what your partner is going through, but at the same time, you are being deprived of the love and attention that you need.
On the other hand, you might also be accustomed of being neglected by your partner. According to your perspective, you have a feeling that your girlfriend isn’t that much interested in you like the time you both first started dating. You have low on her priority list for some time, or it can be that she wasn’t your priority since day one of your relationship. You say her “I love you,” but she doesn’t respond to it. While every circumstance is different, it is scary and sad to have a feeling that you aren’t special, important, or loved by your partner. Some guys who are situations like these often act in passive-aggressive ways which are demonstrated by them getting needy, desperate and demanding that their partners pay attention to them. But, as we all know these reactive approaches are never effective if what you want love, attention, and connection with your girl.
Anyways, here are five things you should never think of doing to get love, attention, and affection from your significant other when you feel neglected and ignored:
If you are accusing your girlfriend of something, it means that you are not open to listening. And if you don’t listen to her, she won’t listen to you either. Unless, you have strong evidence that your partner is cheating on you, breaking your agreements, or lying to you. So, if you don’t have any verifiable cause to accuse or blame her, your accusations will push her further away.
2. Making hasty conclusions
You might have some clear idea what is making your partner to neglect you or distance herself from you, but it is not a good idea to assume. Don’t jump to conclusions without being aware of the whole story.
3. Missing out on important information
Don’t discard valuable information. Pay attention to what your partner says if there are any discrepancies or contradictions. If she requests you to help her, be attentive to it.
4. Get defensive
Don’t take a defensive stance, ever. We understand you might be angry and disappointed, but getting all defensive won’t make the situation any better. Whining or trying to justify being needy, or begging for attention and affection won’t make your girlfriend love you or get closer to you more.
5. Don’t play the victim card
When you are in a relationship, sometimes, your partner’s behavior toward you might feel like a rejection. But don’t be a victim and take the whole situation personally. Don’t make this all about you, unless it is really all about you.