Have you ever been interested in someone else when you were in a relationship? Have you had a crush on someone other than your partner? Having these feelings can come with a lot of guilt, as you probably feel like you should only be attracted to your partner and for the most part, that's true! In an ideal world, we would only ever be attracted to the person we were with. However, we're still human beings and feeling attracted to someone else is only natural. It turns out, it's totally okay to have a rush on someone when you're already in a relationship. In fact, having a crush on someone can actually be good for your relationship! Read on to find out why…
If you find yourself feeling attracted to someone else when you're in a relationship, don't sweat it. It's okay to have a crush on someone else. What's not okay is acting on it. As long as you keep that person at a distance and never act on your feelings, your attraction remains a harmless crush and should not interfere with your relationship. We all get these harmless crushes and they can actually be good for relationships!
When you've been with the same person for a long time, it's very common to fall into a routine. When you fall into this routine, you might find yourself bored with your partner and the relationship in general. Having a crush on someone else can actually help this situation because it allows you to fantasize about what it's like to be with someone else. This doesn't mean you don't love your partner anymore or that you're going to leave them. It just means that you are engaging in some minor, harmless escapism. As long as this fantasy remains in your head and never becomes a reality, you're not doing anything wrong.
You may find that your little crush goes away rather quickly and once the fantasizing stops, you feel excited about your partner and your relationship again. Many people have noticed that having a small crush has actually reignited their feelings for their partner and led to a better relationship!
With that said, if you find yourself really wanting to act on your crush, then it could become a problem. You don't want a crush to turn into infidelity. So if you cannot restrict this crush to your fantasies, it's best to just end your relationship.