Seeing reality TV shows such as The Bachelor and The Bachelorette still going strong, as a culture, we have turned the search for true love into a competition, entertainment, and a game. But, what really we need to know about what actually happened after the two people found each other. We need to follow the stories and examples of other successful couples of what it takes to make love last in the long-term. We need to know how they stay in committed and monogamous relationships, and how they grow and thrive in their relationships.
Here are some relationship talks on how to find the person you want to have a monogamous relationship with:
Do it for yourself
You can’t have a monogamous relationship because that’s what your parents or your friends or your partner want. You have to decide for yourself of what kind of relationship do you want. Pinpoint your own reasons for wanting to be monogamous. It might be religious or spiritual, may be you want to be loyal to your spouse, or you just want to be committed in your relationship for your personal growth. Maybe you are curious to discover what can happen to you if you focus all of your love and affection on one woman. Regardless of what the reasons are if you want your monogamous relationship to be healthy and successful in the long-term, it’s important to take responsibility for your choice and learn how to locate the person you want to have an exclusive relationship with. Remember, monogamy isn’t the only choice you are left. You made a choice because you wanted it. Be yourself and ask for what you want.
Be careful in choosing your partner
Many people decide to have a monogamous relationship because they happened to meet someone who felt decent and is looking for a monogamous relationship, too. This is the right approach for choosing a partner to be in a long-term monogamous relationship. If you are committed to staying monogamous, you need to find a woman who inspires you, shares your sense of humor, and has a positive, profound effect on your body, mind, and heart in many ways. If you are in a relationship and begin to compare your girlfriend with others and keep thinking that it would if she was different in this way or that way, it’s safe that you aren’t fully ready to be in a monogamous relationship.
Understand your own sexual desires
We live in a culture that is obsessed with beauty and attractive people. No matter how appealing or attractive your girlfriend is, you will desire other girls out there. Dedicating your love and sight to only one person doesn’t seem realistic. Our culture encourages you to see others and other people to see you. You must be absolutely honest about a monogamous relationship, and make sure no matter how attractive, or sexual other women are around you, you will shift your focus back to your partner. And that can happen is if you learn how to respond to your own sexual desires in ways that feel right to you.