When women look for guys to be in a relationship, most are looking for just one thing. And it’s not what most guys think. Typically throughout the ages, men have been told that women date a man based on his looks, his money, what kind of car he drives, what kind of house he lives, and so on. But, the truth is most ladies are looking for something entirely different.
So, what is it? His confidence. And it’s something that he has, or simply doesn’t. The truth is, most men destroy all of their chances of being in a relationship by coming across as weak, desperate, having low self-esteem, nervous, helpless, insecure and immature. While on dates, they remain quiet, avoid eye contact, avoid being funny and engaging. All of these show to a woman that he feels weak and insecure. I don’t care about my feelings and emotional needs. So, if I can’t meet my emotional needs and my desires, there is little chance that I can fulfill yours. I am not right for you, so please reject me ASAP!”
On the other hand, a man who has high self-esteem and confidence, and inner strength enables him to project the correct body language. He speaks in a slow and calm voice, directly and clearly. He tells funny stories; make wise, clear and practical decisions. All these projects that the man is very confident about himself and it’s a quality that is very attractive to women. Confidence is the key ingredient to successful in dating and relationships.
A confident man is protective and in-control. He is emotionally ready and knows exactly what to do in any given situation and circumstance. A guy who is confident is exciting to spend time with, yet he is passionate, mature, and trustworthy but unpredictable. Confident men have a high chance to succeed in their dates and relationships as well as in life. But, they’re also very tolerant and can deal with adversity, loss, and challenges.
So, what can you do to boost your confidence?
1. Go Deep.
- Most guys obsess and try to change something about themselves that they can’t change. Instead, they should dig deep into their personalities, identify the qualities and hone them. For example, if you have a good sense of humor, compassionate, have a good listening ability, like to volunteer, and then try to unveil, nurture, grow and project them.
2. Take Risks. Unless a man is confident and determined to step outside his comfort zone, he will never be open and be excited in trying new things. He won’t be comfortable in connecting with women in a meaningful manner. If you want to build your confidence you need to start taking risks and challenges in life. Risk can both big and small, and if you keep accepting that it will immediately transform into new confidence.
3. Don’t Be Afraid of Rejection. Men must understand that rejection won’t kill them. Being rejected doesn’t mean something wrong with you. It means that both aren’t just right for each other. Instead, be cool, calm and comfortable with yourself. Believe in yourself that you don’t need a girlfriend to be happy physically and emotionally. Because, when it comes to rejection, there’s absolutely nothing to fear except for the fear itself.
If you’re looking for a girlfriend, take these small steps toward projecting your confidence to a woman, and see for yourself becoming her Mr. Right!