So, it’s just been a week you have broken up with your partner, and you can’t resist the urge to have a glimpse of your ex partner's Facebook page. It’s okay that you can’t restrain yourself; after all break ups are hard and make us angry, upset and humiliated. So, just checking out his or her Facebook won’t be harmful, right?
Well, it’s not that simple. According to a study, it’s been found that the more time one spends on his/her ex’s Facebook page after a breakup, the more emotional distress he or she will feel, and the desire to reconcile with their ex’s increases. It's not encouraging as it makes the whole process of healing even harder after a breakup. In fact, it's straightforward unhealthy and toxic to us psychologically as we always think, talk and look at the pictures of our ex-partners. This can morph into stalking, which is in some cases, harmful.
So, here are five rules to use social media after a break up:
1. Never stalk your ex online. Don’t check your ex’s Facebook page or Twitter feeds. The best to do is that to consider un-friending him or her, or unfollowing them. Otherwise, even if you don’t look at your ex’s page, you will still see their status updates. Also, un-friend all of your ex’s friends and family members. Also, don’t even try being friends with your ex’s new found boyfriend or girlfriend. Many newly single people fall for this, but this is a just recipe for disaster.
2. Avoid posting anything of your former partner online. This can be one of the main causes of trouble. If you want to have a conversation with a friend about your ex, that fine, just don’t use any social media sites.
3. Consider canceling or deactivating your Facebook or other social media accounts. If you think you can’t stay away, forget or can’t resist having a conversation or stop thinking about your ex, then remove yourself from all types of social media websites including Facebook. We know this is hard, but it’s ideal for your healing process after a breakup.
4. Use social media or online dating platforms to meet new people. If you haven’t deleted your social media accounts, then maybe it's time to put it to some good use. We suggest you try online dating sites to meet people and hopefully be in a new relationship. Don’t feel shy to tell people that you are single online. There is nothing disrespectful or unfair about it, even for your ex. You are fully entitled to move on and begin as new.
5. Ignore all types of posts online that is directed to you. It’s quite normal for your ex, their family and friends posting things that might be addressed towards you. Even if you are entirely sure about it, don’t make a big fuzz about and don’t respond to it. Forgive your ex-partner and don’t be angry with him or her. Taking the high road is always better and practicing it will make you happy.
So, that’s it, keep tabs on you ex won’t bring him or her back into your life. If you want to be happy and move on, unfriending your ex is the best option.