Typically most of us are acquainted with the term ‘exhaustion.' Burnout happens when you’re working too hard for the results that are being produced. Exhaustion can also be seen in a relationship. When we feel burned out, we lose enjoyment, frustrated, and depressed. If we’re working too hard to make our relationship work and it still fails, we become upset and begin to think that being single would have been better than staying in a dysfunctional and unhappy relationship.
So, how can we tell that we’re tired and burned out in our relationship? Here are five ways to explain it:
1. You start to resent dating. Some people after a breakup get all prepped up to get into the dating, while other seem disinterested or indifferent to dating. These are all somewhat positive indications of wanting to be single again. But, if you’ve decided not to date for a significant period after a breakup or a divorce, it points that you’re tired of being in relationships.
2. You don’t have much enjoyment while meeting potential partners. Most men and women find looking for a date as a stressful activity, but about when you’re meeting one or dating someone you met at work or introduced by a friend? If you feel less excited about these prospects, then we can conclude that you won’t get over your relationship exhaustion anytime soon.
3. Your emotional energy is almost empty. Most folks are depressed and feel exhausted after a breakup or after a final divorce proceeding. There another consequence of a relationship burnout – the lack of emotional energy. If you’ve depleted all of your emotional energy, you won’t feel any emotional reaction even in simple things such as jokes and laughter.
4. You remember only the bad moments. Usually, whenever someone leaves a job and found an opportunity or excited to pursue their passion, they keep reminiscing all the good and bad times about their past jobs holistically. If someone feels grateful to quit a bad job or a relationship, they will only remember all the bad and stressful times they had during that period. You can only recall the fights and arguments with your ex, rather than reminiscing all the good time you both during the early days of the relationship that brought you close to each other.
5. You feel pessimistic or cynical about love. You don’t get into a new relationship because you think sooner or later it will fail. You always think of people who are in love or relationships as fools. You always keep telling bad things about the concept of love and relationship like lies, illusions, etc. If this is all you can think about love, then it’s an unfortunate outcome of relationship exhaustion.
To make this critical period of your life easier and get over it, try to understand what lessons you've learned from your previous relationship so that you can heal and prepare yourself for your next relationship. Even you meet someone interesting, and he or she likes to date you, be straightforward with and tell them you aren’t interested at the moment. If you’ve lost your spark, try to cultivate it again by focusing your interest and passion in other parts of your life.