Dating is stressful, no doubt about it. Most men and women get really anxious on their first dates because it’s all unknown and no one knows what’s going to happen. All these stress and anxiety will put you in the wrong mood to meet someone new. The best way to confront your anxiety is to relax and be confident, so don’t get overly anxious before meeting your date. Here are four tips that can be helpful to reduce anxiety on your first date. Read on to find more:
1. Make a list of your Deals and Deal Breakers. Being organized both in body and mind is one of best approaches to reducing anxiety. Writing down your thoughts is great to get you organized. Make a list of all the good traits and deal breakers you want to see in your future partner. It can include needs to have a job, should be interested to know more about me, should have similar views and interests, etc. Now, write down all the deal breakers like, no drugs, no bad temper, should drink too much, and so on. Everyone has his or her preferences and deal breakers, so it’s important to ask yourself what you really need to be happy in a relationship.
2. Use positive self-talk. Stand in front of a mirror and speak to yourself, things you did and their results that happened to you throughout the day. It can be good or bad. Is your self-talk having a positive or adverse effect on you? Speaking to yourself in a positive tone is good for you and will make you more confident before and after your first date.
3. Focus on the date itself. Focus on the date itself, not at the person you’ll be meeting. It’s perfectly fine to think about your date is going to be like and what did you expect from it. If you’re both interested, you can hope for to have a stable relationship. But, things always don’t end as we want to it to be. It’s better to hope that you meet someone you’ll like, but also be prepared for the prospect that you two won’t be perfect for each other at the same time. One way to get stop yourself from overthinking is mainly focused on the dating activity, rather who you’ll be engaging to in the date. For example, think about the things and activities you enjoy and like to do, places you like visiting for vacations, and talk about some of them with your date.
4. Ask your best friend for support and vent out your feelings. When you feel insecure and nervous ask your close friends for support. If you get anxious, tell them that you’re losing your mind, ask them to give five or ten minutes of a pep talk. Take a few deep breath, and vent out your feelings loudly. If your scream out all of your negative feelings and energy, you will bounce back to your old self and feel focused within a few minutes. Always remind yourself that dating can be fun and enjoyable if you don’t feel stressed out.
Finally, there are plenty of ways to help you minimize your anxiety on the first date. Whether you’re meeting a woman or man for the first time, keeping your anxiety in check is important, because when you’re relaxed, you’re at your best, confident, and attractive to you date.