If you’re back being single and dating again after being in a long-term relationship, things can be overwhelming sometimes. That’s why we suggest all newly single men and women, to take some off from the dating scene after your previous relationship ended. This will give you some time to ponder whether you are ready to date someone new.
Be aware of your needs as the healing time for every person is different. Being self-aware of your wants and needs is crucial because, without it, you will wander from one relationship to other without knowing exactly what you require to be happy in a relationship. Besides, if a person is still suffering from the emotional pain from his or her prior relationship, they won’t be able to create an emotional connection with their new dates.
Now, let’s talk about building your self-confidence. Besides, healing from your previous relationship, you need to build up your self-esteem and confidence to get back in the dating game again. Here are three essential areas you need focus:
1. Accurate self-assessment will help you build your self-confidence. Starting dating again after the end of a relationship is a life-changing process. We have a new notion of love and relationship. Sure, it’s very painful to end a relationship that wasn’t right for us as we had strong feelings and invested so much time and energy in it. But, the good news is that you’re now in a position to understand who you are. Though our core remains unchanged, throughout our lives, we are in the state of constant change. The observations and lessons from our previous relationships create experiences that become a part of our lives and define us. It’s the new you. Spare some time to self-reflect as ask yourself questions like who you are now at this moment? What do you really want in a relationship? What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? What parts of your current life would you like to change? Answering these questions are key to build up your self-confidence. That’s why it’s necessary to get in touch with yourself after the demise of your relationship.
2. Your nervousness can be a tool for success. Fear is a natural and adaptive part of our lives. When it comes to dating and looking for love, it’s perfectly okay to avoid getting rejected. But, while looking for someone new, not only a little nervousness is expected, it can help towards a satisfying result. If you’re interested in a woman when you approach her to ask for her number or ask her to take you on a date, you will be tensed, and a lot of things are going in your head such as, ‘what if she say no? Is it a good time to ask her?’ etc. You will never know until you approach her and ask. No matter what the outcome is, you’ve decided to take a chance and took it. The worse thing that can happen is that she declined your invitation, but nonetheless, you’ve taken a huge step to overcoming your fears.
3. Practice does make everything perfect, and the more you practice, the closer you will be to your desired outcome. The more women you meet and date, you will realize that even if none of them decides to date you, your self-confidence will rise. It’s because by interacting with women, you will see that there is a life beyond your past relationship.