We have stories of married couples who broke up on their way to the altar and then reunited again after they realized that they couldn't live without each other. Then, some folks have got back with their exes after a breakup or even worse an unhappy marriage or a divorce. After going through these experiences, these people have wished they should have broken up and moved on, instead of getting back with their former partners.
If you’re considering or wanting to get back with a former partner but aren’t sure of your future prospects or whether if it's wise or a wrong decision, then we will say, it's hard to predict the future. Instead, we take our best shot at it considering various variables in the hope of find lasting love. Here are few strategies that will help you.
1. Analyze the level of volatility in the relationship. Some specific traits are incompatible for a healthy and long-lasting relationship. These are emotional abuse, physical abuse, addictions, emotional baggage, and character problems like cheating, lying and stealing. If you’ve noticed few or most of these behaviors in your partner in the past relationship, and it made you feel upset, stressed, afraid, trapped or angry, then don’t go back. In fact, be grateful that this dreadful relationship has ended. Consider your loneliness as a gift and being free.
2. Don’t let your emotions overrule your judgment. Love and hope are powerful emotions. Loneliness is one of our greatest fears. So, sometimes our emotions can overtake our rationality and decisions to justify accepting toxic behaviors with the hope that things will eventually get better if we reunite. It possible that there can be certain changes at a deeper level, but it’s unlikely. So, don’t rush yourself of getting back with your ex or in a toxic relationship, just because your instinct is telling you. Feelings aren’t permanent, and you’ll certainly get over them.
3. Don’t reminisce about your romantic past together. No relationship is perfect. Try to get an accurate image of your previous relationship, find out what was good and what was wrong that led to the demise of the relationship. Approach the future by looking clearly in the past with a vision and wishful thinking. You will surely realize that things that were “important” to you at that time are actually insignificant now. It will also give you a new perspective on the relationship you’re about to begin.
Ask important questions to yourself about your previous relationship, why did it end, or what things did we did together that made the relationship loving and brought the best of one another. See if the loneliness is the main reason that is forcing you to get back to your ex, or if you’re willing to make any changes to make the relationship for the second time.
Overall, if you’re having a difficult time debating whether getting back with your ex is an awesome or awful idea, remember one thing. Reuniting with a person you surely know is wrong for you, is a bad choice, even your heart tells you that it’s right. On the flipside, some relationships are worth fighting for and giving it a second chance in a hope to turn it into even beautiful and loving one.