There are many reasons your girlfriend might be pulling away from you when you’re in a causal relationship. This isn’t only seen in casual relationships, but also in serious relationships as well. Your girlfriend pulling away during the early days of your casual relationships means that she’s just not feeling the romance or passion in it or is getting too much pressure from you. But, you should look into other possibilities as well. It might be that she’s having the family, work, or health issues that are making her feel disinterested in the relationship. However, it’s imperative that you don’t exaggerate the situation that will push her further away.
Here are four tips you can follow when your girlfriend is pulling away from you when you’re in a casual relationship:
Don’t Put Any Pressure On Her
When you’re dating casually, it’s likely that you won’t have access to your partner like the couples have in a committed relationship. So, in this scenario, you might be tempted to text her continuously, sending her long, unending essay about your feelings and your undying love for her, and asking her what you did wrong and what are you doing to fix it. We suggest avoiding this at all costs. If you notice that she’s losing interest or decided to distance herself, the worst thing you can do in this situation is to get her close by texting or messaging her always. It will not help you and will only push her away further.
Give Her Space For A Day Or Two To Reconsider Her Decision
Often, when we see our partners pulling back from the relationship, we assume that a major calamity has hit her in life. When you’re dating casually, you don’t know the person very well. Therefore, it’s common to misread the situation. But, it’s crucial that you don’t freak out as this can quickly push her away from even there, where was absolutely nothing wrong in the relationship. So, give your girlfriend some space for one or two days as this will give her scope to check in with you and let you know if anything was happening in the relationship without your need to ask.
Check In With Her After Couple Of Days
The most important thing is that you don’t exert any pressure on her. But that doesn’t mean you can’t check up on her once, and let her know that you’re there for her. For example, you send her a message saying, “Just want to check on you as you’ve been a bit off lately. I hope all is fine for you and looking forward to chatting with you soon. If you want to share anything, please let me know.” You can see this message sounds like an offer and appears more like a statement instead of a question. This way it doesn’t put pressure on her.
Focus On You
When we’re in relationships, casual or serious, we forget one most critical part of the dating process, taking care of ourselves. Putting all of your focus on yourself is the most powerful thing you can do. No matter how bad things are in your relationship, by focusing on you, you’ll look at things with a healthier and positive attitude and take actions appropriate to that.