If you think that by being the nice guy you can win her heart, then you are totally wrong here. Being too nice can backfire and get you rejected. It is important to be nice to women, but only at certain times. If they notice that you are being nicer than normal, then chances are they will either get bored of you, or they will just start to doubt if you are faking it. Some guys, however, have a nice nature and therefore they cannot help but be themselves. That originality too gets them bad luck. This article is going to talk about few ways that guys can get over their Mr. Nice syndrome.
#1 Admit it yourself
Before starting off with anything you need to first admit and accept that yes you are one of those “Mr.” nice guys, and this is becoming a huge hurdle in your way getting a date. Once you accept this, you can start thinking of ways of how to combat this issue.
#2 Stop lavishing her with gifts
Buying gifts at the wrong time or too soon will flip your whole situation. Women don’t like this at all when guys try to overdo stuff because then they will think that the guy is being too desperate or trying to achieve something too soon. Guys need to go with the flow and leave the gifts for some special occasion where it makes sense.
#3 Lay off the neediness
There is one thing that you don’t want your girl to think about you, and that is her thinking that you don’t have a life. Even if you don’t, you need to pretend as if you do and make her realize that she is not the only thing in your life. Getting too clingy and needy will only irritate her.
#4 Learn to say no
Nice guys have this habit that they will never be able to refuse anything that their girl says. Even if they have to go out of their way or it goes against their will, they will never say no. Don’t forget that girls are noticing this and at one point this will rather become unattractive and boring for them. You need to learn how to take charge and say no to her, so she knows that you are equally opinionated.
#5 Stop being available
Spending time with your girl is good. It is not good and not healthy for any relationship to be always available for the other person. Nice guys will do anything to spend the whole day with their girl, but this needs to end. You need to show that you can be busy too at times and that your availability is not open for her at all times.
#6 Create some challenge
All the above things will be challenging for her because things will not always be going as per her say. Other than this you need to do things which she will not be expecting. For instance, stop yourself from texting or calling her exactly when she is expecting you to. This will put her in doubt and spark her competitive side thinking if you have another girl in your life.