Breaking up with someone you love is never easy. It’s terribly painful and one of hardest things a person can do. It doesn’t matter how peaceful you try to make the end of a relationship; there's always going to be pain on one or both sides.
If you’re going through a painful breakup or divorce, it’s highly likely that you’re dealing with a ton of miserable thoughts and emotions. You’re struggling to find the light at the end of the tunnel. It's totally normal to feel this way after a relationship ends. Your mind is probably full of questions: What went wrong? Will I ever love again? Will I ever be happy again?
The answer is “Yes, you will be happy again.”
Even after the worst of breakups, there is light at the end of the tunnel. You will find love again. You will find happiness again. After a particularly bad breakup, we are often left feeling hopeless, unwanted, insecure and basically any other negative emotion in the book. The prospect of being happy again seems unimaginable. But as impossible as it may seem, you will be happy again.
Here are three ways to find happiness after a bad breakup:
Be Kind to Yourself
For starters, the first thing you need to do is to be kind to yourself. You need to acknowledge that all the feelings you’re having are natural. They say it can take six months to a year to recover from a breakup, depending on how long the relationship was. During this time, it's likely that you'll feel down about yourself and wonder why your relationship failed. Instead of belaboring over what went wrong, begin to build yourself up again. Remind yourself of the good things about you and your life.
Figure Out Your Priorities
The period after a breakup is a good time to start figuring out what you want in your future. You might evaluate your career choices, places you want to travel, and of course future relationships. You have plenty of time to think about the goals you want to achieve and the kind of people you want to be around. It might help to start a journal and keep track of your ideas and set goals for yourself. You'll have something solid to remind you of all the things you’re yet to achieve. Following this approach will make it much easier for you to start finding happiness after a breakup.
Get Back Out There
Once you've taken the time to mourn the relationship that ended, it will be time for you to re-enter the world of dating. It will seem daunting at first, but it will benefit you in the end. Once you're comfortable with the idea of being in a relationship again, start going out and meeting new people. The excitement of meeting someone new and going on dates will make you forget all about the relationship that ended. Before you know it, you'll be in a better relationship and you will have found the happiness you never thought you'd see again.