Learning how to make your ex want you back is not easy, especially if you have seen that he or she has already moved on and they are already dating someone else.
Sometimes, you have to love yourself more, in order for someone to love you back. You have to ignite something inside of you; you have to channel your inner strength so that you can become a better person.
Often-times, when we are heartbroken and desperate, we forget to love ourselves. Your world should not revolve around one person. Reach out for your friends, old and new, because they will be a great help to you.
Be brave enough to do things you've never done before. That way you'll really learn how to make your ex want you back. Rediscover a different side of you, and when you realize that you are capable of doing such things, you’ll feel confident in following these psychological tricks to get your ex back:
1. Use Reverse Psychology
Your ex has already moved on, does not reply to your texts and does not answer your calls.
What you should do:
He/she is probably used to you chasing after them, so try doing the exact opposite of what you used to do.
When you two pass by each other, don’t even try to make eye contact. If they say “hey” to get your attention, say “hey” back nonchalantly. Do the same with their friends. Act like you don’t know any of them, even if you are in the same room with any of them.
They’ll begin wondering why all of a sudden you are no longer so friendly to them, and even more when they stop receiving text messages from you. They will wonder, but they will not ask you directly. They’ll try to observe you for a few days, even from a distance. They might even ask some of your friends if you’re already dating someone else.
Don’t overdo it, though. Don’t be a snob. If they greet you, then greet them back, just don’t be the first one to do it. Soon you will see that the tables have turned, and they don’t even realize it.
2. Make Yourself Appear Busy
Always be preoccupied with something. If you two work at the same building, make sure you’re always doing something so you have an excuse for not noticing them.
If, by chance, the two of you get into the same elevator, don’t be the first one to strike up a conversation. Pretend like you’re texting someone or rummaging for something inside your bag. Make them feel awkward by staying silent. If you go to the same school, make sure you always have a friend by your side so that whenever they are around you can appear busy having a conversation with your friend to avoid looking at him or her.
Another thing, always bring a book with you. Books are great company too! If none of your friends are available to accompany you, and you happen to be in the same area with them, you have the excuse of not looking up. That way, you can just pretend that you are so engrossed with what you are reading whether you are actually reading or not.
3. Don't Have Yourself Look Jealous
You see them side by side with an attractive girl/boy. This person looks like they can audition to be in the America’s Next Top Model. You see them coming towards you.
What you should do:
Never look jealous. If they are headed your way, act naturally.
Just imagine that you are passing by a couple who are complete strangers to you. Do not avoid them.
If you avoid them, you are sending your ex the message that you still love them and that you are heartbroken over seeing them with someone else. It will only boost their ego and they will feel good about themselves. Instead of making them feel that way, ignore them and make them wonder why. Flip your hair and act like you don’t care.
4. Have a Make-Over, Change your Look
You've probably heard this a hundred times. Have a makeover and show off a new you. But what is the real purpose of doing it?
- Having a make-over makes you feel good about yourself. It boosts the level of your self– confidence. You can walk with your head high; because you know that you look good.
- When you look good, it mirrors what you feel inside. It will send your ex the message that you love yourself and that your world does not revolve around him or her.
- If you've done a really good make-over, they will realize that several suitors might be checking you out. It will somehow send your ex into a panic mode because they might have given up someone who is beautiful inside and out. Your ex might even be the one to approach you this time around.
5. Be Carefree and Fun
Make the most out of your time with your friends.
Go out more often, laugh a lot, and live life to the fullest. If you’ve been so stressed out in the past when you were still together, and if you were not really an outgoing type of person before, this new you will surprise them.
People love it when their partners are carefree and fun. Generally, people dislike complicated relationships. When your ex sees you as this person who is carefree, happy and fun to be with, they will ask themselves why they broke up with you in the first place.
6. Learn How to Say “No”
If you make it obvious that you still love your ex, then they might use that to their advantage by asking you to do favors for them all the time, and you nodding in return without the will to say “no”.
Stop being this person who is always available to do stuff for them 24/7. Show yourself some respect and deny doing favors for your ex from now on. Show them that you have a life of your own, that you are too busy to do things for them.
Go out during weekends and have plans after work or after school, that way, you can avoid doing things for your ex. Even if they are asking for just a simple thing that you can do within fifteen minutes, just say no.
7. Improve Yourself, Hit the Gym
When you work out, you no longer look hurt and vulnerable. You become this confident, strong person, physically and emotionally. Don’t do this for your ex, but for yourself.
Working out boosts your self confidence because you know that you are on your way to shaping up your body. It literally makes you stronger, like you can overcome any obstacle that comes your way.
When your ex sees a stronger side of you, they will definitely notice you. For some people, working out is just as graceful as dancing. Your ex might even ask you to work out with them the next time.
8. Never Compliment Them
You are both dressed up to go to a party. Your ex compliments you by saying “You look nice”. You’re compelled to compliment them back.
What you should say:
Say something nice, but don’t go all the way. For example “You look nice too, but your tie doesn’t really match your shirt”.
It will completely throw them off balance, because they are expecting you to say something completely good, without if’s and but’s.
You can pretend to be a fashion critique by saying “Your outfit looks nice, except that when you wear your hair that way, it doesn’t really add up.” and add in “But hey, that’s just me, I mean I’m not an expert or anything.”
Your ex may even appear startled, but let them save his face. Even if you think that what you did was mean, don’t feel guilty.
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Always remember that the key to getting someone back is not by becoming a different person.
It is important to love yourself first before anyone else. It is good to improve yourself by doing a makeover and going to the gym, but never change who you really are. Other people should see a “real” person in you, not a “fake and pretentious” one.
Give importance to how other people feel, so never do anything beneficial to you yet hurtful to others. If you think that doing anything on this list can potentially hurt someone, don’t do it. Be beautiful inside and out. These are the keys to learning how to make your ex want you back.
Always have a positive outlook in life, so that whether you get what you want or not, you can always see the good side of everything. Heartbreaks are meant to strengthen every person; the same way a pencil goes through a sharpener to become sharper.
If you've done everything on this list and still fail to bring the love of your life back, don’t despair.
The best one is probably yet to come; you just have to be patient.